We babysit a baby that just turned 1yo. Her parents give her a pacifier at home but we dont let her have it here because she never needs it. She wouldnt take one when she was a newborn but they forced it on her anyway to shut her up. Since she didnt need it that young then why do they let her have it now that she can calm herself now. I beleive that she doesnt need it but her parents give it to her to shut her up, because they give it to her in the carseat before she even cries to shut her up for the ride home. When she gets dropped off I automaticaly take out of her mouth and put in in her carseat so that way we dont lose it. She doesnt not cry when I take but her mom yelled at me for taking it from her. How do I explain to her that she doesnt need it.? And that she is just creating a habit? How do I explain to her that she never uses it here? They can't control her at home but she's an angel at our house. She just chews on it she dont suck it.
2006-12-20 13:14:48 · 12 answers · asked by Baby Julie due 5/12 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Tell the mother that the child does not want the pacifier.
Not all babies will take it,nor do they want it. When my daughter was little and you gave her a pacifier,she would hook her little finger in the loop and throw it across the room.
If the mother still insists you give the baby the pacifier,wait until the mom leaves then put the pacifier up until mom returns-she'll never know the difference.
Some moms' don't like being told how to raise their baby.
2006-12-20 13:22:42 · answer #1 · answered by Ralph T 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, you can't tell a parent how to rear their children. If the baby doesn't need it at your house, that's wonderful. At least you have control of the situation, be thankful she's an angel there with you. What the parents do at home is their business/problem. The mother shouldn't yell at you,and if she does it again,ask her if her child is happy when she comes to get her from your home. If yes, then obviously you're doing something right and mom should be thankful to have such a great caregiver for her daughter.
Shame on her for being so unappreciative!! Keep doing what you're doing. You're not harming the child if she's not screaming for her binkie, and Mommy needs to get a grip! "shutting her up" is just pushing her aside and this mother will be sorry if this trend continues into adolescence.
Bottom line, if the mom doesn't like how you care for her daughter, maybe it's time for her to find another babysitter. I know it's money in your pocket, but, there's always people looking for GOOD daycare, and someone else will appreciate what you do for their child.
2006-12-20 13:30:54 · answer #2 · answered by Momof4boys 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My son is 11 months. He does not take a pacifier. He did as a newborn and up until he was about 3 months old. After that, he just never wanted it and would get upset every time we did try to put one in his mouth!
2016-03-29 02:04:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should try telling her mom some of the techniques you use to calm her at your house, then the mom wont need to use the pacifier. But overall, I dont think anything is wrong with giving a baby a pacifier. It just sudes them. My niece is 3 weeks old and she sucks hers. But, if you feel she doesnt need it, just tell the mom what she can do to sude her and see if it works. If not, then the pacifier is the answer.
2006-12-20 13:19:52 · answer #4 · answered by mizva2bk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wanna get fired real quick? Start telling a mother how to parent her child.
Leave it alone. AT MOST, just make a casual remark about how you think it's really curious that the baby never seems to want the pacifier when she's with you, and then quickly change the subject.
2006-12-20 13:17:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to explain to the mother that the child doesn't need it anymore maybe the baby is crying because they're not giving her enough attention..babies need more attention especially in their first 3 years because this is the stage where they are developing who they can be when they grow up..and i think the mother of the child is just lazy to play or take care of the child thats why she keep on giving the baby a pacifier to keep it busy.
2006-12-20 13:24:28 · answer #6 · answered by karen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's her parent's choice to give it to her or not. I wouldn't butt in on that. If he don't want it at your house then don't give it to him. If the mom asks then just tell her straight out that she don't suck it there. My son was like that, he wouldn't take it at daycare but as soon as he got home or even just out to the car, he would have it in his mouth. He was also an angel at daycare, and bad at home.
2006-12-20 16:33:55 · answer #7 · answered by Kim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not really your place to determine what she does at home. Let the parents know when she's by you she doesn't use it or need it but only the parents can take it away from her at home. Most parents don't really want you butting in to their parenting decisions.
2006-12-20 13:25:15 · answer #8 · answered by Melissa J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just let them parent the way they parent and when you have her just dont give it to her and dont tell the parents that you dont let her have it, other wise theres going to be problems, if someone told me how to parent my son i would not be happy so do what you think is best when you have her and let them deal with the ways they have it when they have her, there going to realize when its time to get rid of the plug its going to be one hell of a time but good luck with it anyway
2006-12-20 13:21:35 · answer #9 · answered by <3 mykiddos,mylife <3 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would wait until her parents leave and then put the pacifier up.
2006-12-22 07:35:48 · answer #10 · answered by Aumatra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋