I have a big crush on my friend at work.. Shes my age but shes married.. Is it wrong?? Am I a bad person for wanting another mans wife?? I could never tell her my feelings for fear she might not understand or that her husband might hurt me.. Shes very smart and beautiful and I think about her not alot but often.. I dont know what to do... I think I will go to hell for breaking a comandmant(Thou shall not want after another mans wife)
But shes so nice and we look alike and have simaler intrests, etc.... Ahh im just babbling..... I think I will go crazy.. I would never act on anything because I respect her and her marriage and I dont want to jepordize anything shes made.. Im very purplexed....
2006-12-20 13:04:08 · 25 answers · asked by Bri 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
mmm...if u desire her that is wrong its one of the 10 commandments. but as long as u dont act and dont desire her, well i think it it wouldnt be so wrong
2006-12-20 13:10:16 · answer #1 · answered by ~~Chiki~~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's just a crush and you don't act on it, nothing is wrong with it. But you need to keep it from becoming obsessive. Admire her professionally and for the lovely woman she seems to be but that's it...don't let yourself go further.
2006-12-20 13:06:42 · answer #2 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep it as a crush. Dont let her know. There is no point she is married. Unless you want to be hurt in more ways than one find yourself another woman. And for the record thats commandment isnt worded that way but you understand the meaning.
2006-12-20 13:10:12 · answer #3 · answered by justturning40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BRIAN, at least you have knowledge of Father's word what I can't understand is if you know that commandment why are you still wrestling around with it? Yes, it is very wrong to want another man's wife or car , house ,ect. Brian you need to ask God for forgiveness and just ask him to bring you someone to make you happy and he will in his time though not yours. Or you could strike out on your own and search for them yourself just not married women. You will be held accountable for your sins Brian remember that if you don't ask for forgiveness and let it be.
2006-12-20 13:13:01 · answer #4 · answered by cherokee_love_ar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its normal. I am a married man and can get a crush or feel attracted to another female, married or single. I dont act on those feelings, but it does happen.
2006-12-20 13:07:31 · answer #5 · answered by Ross P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find a single woman for yourself to marry and quit thinking about another man's wife. Temptation comes to everyone about a lot of things. You need to completely reject this idea totally once and for all. Make up your mind to respect her marriage by having self control in your mind. That is where all sin starts. Realize it is wrong to think about her like this.
Jesus is the only begotten Son of God. He came to bring us God's forgiveness and love. He came to set us free from sin and self. We must be born again. The Holy Spirit comes to live within us and gives us power to overcome sinful desires.
2006-12-20 13:21:13 · answer #6 · answered by adrian b 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've always been told if you are thinking it you may as well be doing it but I don't believe that. People have always had a crush on someone they shouldn't. You shouldn't covet someone elses wife, but if you don't act on the feelings I think you'll be okay.
2006-12-20 13:24:06 · answer #7 · answered by regina g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's dangerous!!! but natural laws of attraction.
Pretend she is your sister and respect that she is married.
Protect your self respect and admire her from a distance.
JUST don't act on it, don't flirt with her, don't email her.
Don't stop by her cubicle just to linger
Don't have coffee with her, no lunches with her either!!!
Don't buy her coffee -- don't buy her anything!!
Treat her as you would treat your buddy who is married to her.
Treat her like you would your own father or mother.
Don't cross the line.
Fatal Attraction-- watch the movie
Avoid this woman at all costs.
Temptation always there to test us, but we must resist!!
An act STARTS with ONE SIMPLE THOUGHT!!!
2006-12-20 13:16:13 · answer #8 · answered by Lilly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't help who have a crush on. You're not going to hell. Don't ever act on your wants to be more than a friend with her. Good luck!
2006-12-20 13:15:51 · answer #9 · answered by Oh Snapsky! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not wrong to have a crush on a married woman.
It is wrong to go to the next step.
Guido
2006-12-20 13:06:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just let it go dude, she's for someone else. Be patient, I'm sure you'll find you an awesome girl. You're going to have to adjust your attitude about her, that way you don't have a "Freudian slip". Best of luck to you.
2006-12-20 13:17:02 · answer #11 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋