Ok. My future husband and I were at the walmart store...and we were talking about what to buy for our house etc...suddenly he just pops up this question "Now that we're here, can I buy you a cream for your acne?" I was like "what???" I felt so horrible and I got really mad!!! I don't even have that bad acne and I use cream already!!! He was mean because I've never ever told him anything about his acne and he has a lot!!! inlcuding his back!!! and I don't care about it...how come he does care about my acne...??? I went straight home after hearing his insulting question!!! he was sorry after that but who was the mean one????
2006-12-20 12:56:12 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I wouldn't have gotten angry, but I would have said, "Why SURE----but don't get me the kind YOU use, because....." And just stared at him until he got the message.
2006-12-20 13:00:21 · answer #1 · answered by * 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well dear it's not about being mean. This whole world is with problems, and some people try to solve it and some dont. Look for example the INTERNET, it is an information exchange place where any one who has a problem will come to search for a solution. Hence i would recommend you to solve your problem instead of creating new ones. I have had acne before. I was so pissed off becuase of it , and it was so painful too and i really cant imagine now, how i lived with it. I tried all sorts of creams and treatments but none worked. Then i met one of my friends who recommended this homepathic product. Finally i was relieved of ACNE from this.Try buying it for your husband. Buy it and give it to him ;) . You can have more information about it from http://nomoreacnes.blogspot.com
2006-12-20 17:22:10 · answer #2 · answered by jesi j 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have proven your point. Men just cannot be honest with their women. Next time, ask him if you look fat in those jeans. Or if he thinks Angelina Jolie is sexy. Or if he would leave you for Britney Spears. Or if he'd cheat on you if he went to Vegas with his buddies and he knew you'd never find out.
Or you could admire his honesty. And be happy that he feels your relationship is secure enough to withstand a cosmetic suggestion.
And maybe you could realize that all that skin cream does nothing but clog your pores and make your acne worse, and you could go see a dermatologist. Or you could change your diet and drink nothing but water, which would clear you up in a week.
Good luck!
2006-12-20 13:07:14 · answer #3 · answered by NuYawker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Future husband? And talking about what to buy for what? The medicine cabinet? I'd say your bf/future husband has a lot to learn about talking to his future wife, that is, if he really wants to keep one. My suggestion? Tell him the next time he "needs" to make a point with you about something, try doing it at home, in private, not at WALLS MART! Sheesh! He could learn to preface difficult things with "Honey, can we talk?" meaning are you in the mood for some of my honest and foolish talk about what is the matter with you right now? Or should I wait till a better time? Tell your future.....ex....er...uh....unless he can find appropiate times to bring up personal business, you will announce his "failures" in the bedroom when the guys are over for the Superbowl and see how that goes. Good luck my dear, seems like you will need it!
2006-12-20 13:22:07 · answer #4 · answered by Tippy's Mom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
like the person above has just said it is always best to go to the doctor. my girlfriend gave birth to our daughter just over a year ago and she developed the same problem. because it lasted for quite a few months she went to the doctor and he said what you already suspected that it was her hormones. he gave her a this special rollball medicine which she had to apply a few times a day and within a bout a week it all cleared up. should be nothing to worry about. soz couldn't remember the name of what the doctor subscribed. best go to the doctors instead of just relying on the simple toner shes using.
2016-03-29 02:03:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it was a simple misunderstanding between the two of you...maybe he didn't know you use cream or he wanted to suggest a different one? Who knows...I think he was more concerned about what the woman on his arm looks like...like he should be worried about it...HE WAS MEAN...however it is forgiveable...just tell him that it is a sensitive topic for you and maybe switch to Proactive!!! It did wonders for me!!!! then maybe dump him if he keeps being insulting...and get a man that loves you for you not your face, or any other part of your body for that matter.
2006-12-20 13:05:53 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He cares about your acne because men are superficial like that. Even though I don't think it'll help the situation to say who the "mean one" is, I think he's at fault. But you have to give him credit for expressing his opinions at least. If I were in your position though, I would feel hurt too. I would tell him that what he said offended me.
2006-12-20 13:00:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds a little abusive and controlling. Some guys will try to lower your self esteem so that they can make you feel as though no one else will want you and you wont go anywhere. Its like calling someone fat juust to get an upper hand on them. My advice is run men with this type of personality usually get worse over time.
2006-12-20 13:04:53 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe you live with someone you can't talk to about something as simple as this. If you can't have a conversation about his comments and how it made you feel and if he was trying to be mean or helpful, then you are going to have some major problems if you ever decide to get married. You need to grow up a little bit and learn how to communicate without acting like a child.
2006-12-20 13:05:34 · answer #9 · answered by truthseeker221 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he was the mean one cause if he has this problem then he dosent relly love you for who you are sorry or not he said it and cant take it back whats next he need to change you hair color etc. good luck with that guy as a husband
2006-12-20 13:03:20 · answer #10 · answered by ibebarbie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont' think he meant to hurt you.. i think that maybe he was trying to help so you don't have to feel like he feels and wanted to help before it might end up like his.. i'm sure he just wants you to feel good about yourself and not like he does.. i'm sure he's way embarrassed and just doesn't show it cause he's a man! i hope that things get better and you guys make it.. maybe you two could get that proactive, alot of people i know use it and if you keep up with it everyday, it will go away... my x had it really bad and now he looks good.. hope all goes well.. hope you have a merry christmas and a very happy new year!
2006-12-20 13:02:53 · answer #11 · answered by ~broken~ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋