They chat it up with evry1 else including my kids. I have made every effort to be nice and helpful (w/her baby shower and using my truck to bring her baby furniture from sac. to SF) and still I get the feeling I'm not welcome. Maybe cause I married my husband before she married her husband even though they were together already. Maybe I stole her thunder? I dunno. They have me pissed off as hell. She has even gone as far as correcting me in my native language which she does not speak!!! What the heck? My hubby is pissed off too. We don't get together for functions anymore and this Xmas will be the 1st that were not there w/my in laws and other family. I cant help feeling that they got what they wanted. What would you advise on this mess?
2006-12-20 12:19:46 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hmmm Stop caring about them and stop kissing up to them, obviously they don't like you, so why beg?
2006-12-20 12:22:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You guys are going about this the wrong way. You should not miss an entire family function just because you feel ignored by a couple of people. You should go, and from the moment you walk into the door you should smile and laugh and act like the happiest people there. Don't say a word to them. Turn the tables and ignore their asses off. Be friendlier than you've ever been with all of the other people, and ham it up. I'm from Arkansas, so that means to elaborate on you happiness. Be the life of the party, of course without making too big of an *** of yourself. You will draw their attention this way. If they try to talk to you, answer their question very dry and simply. Then they will be getting a dose of their own medicine. They want you to not come so they can get all of the attention. I'd never in a million years give them the satisfaction. Dress in your nicest clothes, put on your prettiest smile, and rub a whole lot of joy in their sour faces!!! Or you could just confront them about it before hand. Call her and tell her how you feel, and ask her why it is that she has treated you that way. She has no right to alienate you from the family, and you would be a miserable fool to let her! That is your family too, and you need to stand up for yourself.
2006-12-20 20:43:33 · answer #2 · answered by MiMi 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
don't let them bother u , some times family behaves like this .um maybe she's envies of u in a way , u never know but try not to think about them so much learn to ignore them its best for u and Ur husband and don't try so hard the harder u try the more the act up .... they want u to feel that ur less then them or that they don't like u ...just don't bother with them so my
2006-12-20 20:31:48 · answer #3 · answered by amal L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like they succeeded in their mission, but by giving in you are helping them. I would just go to the family function if I were you, and don't give a rats *** what they have to say, or not say to you. There is no reason for you and your husband to not be around family because of their being assholes. Enjoy yourselves, and remember, kindness kills!!
2006-12-20 20:29:01 · answer #4 · answered by melody g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Feel the love.
Forget them. Make your own time together.
My wife's parents are cuban. When we go to their house for any function, they speak ONLY spanish. My wife, our son, and I sit in a bedroom during the entire party because they REFUSE to speak english. They speak english in public, but not around us.
And they refuse to eat foods that we can eat. Everything is spicy cuban food that makes us violently sick.
When they come to our house, they EXPECT to be fed cuban food only and speak spanish ONLY, even in our house.
So we do not visit them anymore, invite them to our house anymore.
You do not need the mind games.
2006-12-20 21:07:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ignore them right back!
You already played your part.... now its their turn. and if they are not willing to play their part... then thats their problem.
just act like they don't exist when around them. Don't even look at their direction. but- greet everybody else and be nice!
2006-12-21 00:55:42 · answer #6 · answered by venom! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please go to your family functions. If you don't go, they have won and got what they wanted. Please go and be with the rest of your family. Holiday season is meant to be spent with your family. As for the brother in law and his wife, be nice as nice can be with them. Kill them with kindness. Be the bigger person and the rest of the family will see them treating you like crap and you being nice to them. Please don't miss the holiday because of them.
Good Luck.
Quin
2006-12-20 21:12:52 · answer #7 · answered by quinlangal 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
They have a problem with you. Figure out what it is and correct it, or forget about it.
Confront them!
2006-12-20 20:24:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with â¥princessâ¥. Why bother with them?
2006-12-20 20:35:41 · answer #9 · answered by steve 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
IT'S ODIVSE THEY DON'T LIKE U SO KEEP UR DISTANCE. FAMILY OR NOT WHO GIVES A RATS ***!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-20 20:24:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋