My girlfriend was was the best girlfriend in the world for the first three months of our relationship. Then when I started showing her my love,and giving her alot of attetion,she started treating me like crap. After being in the relationship for about 6 months she cheated on me. She didn't act as if it were a big deal,and she said maybe it was time for me to move on. She said that she would probably do it again and that rather than to keep hurting me again and again she would just let me go. Then about three weeks later she called me and ask me to come back to her because she missed me and that I was the only one who treated her like somebody. I've been back with her for about a month and she is already acting crappy again. She claims she loves me,but she doesn't know how to show it. She said showing emotions is stupid. she said it's better when you can just have casual sex with men no strings attached because that way you don't get emotionally involved and get hurt.
2006-12-20 11:56:32 · 20 answers · asked by tomahawk 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She's definitely taking you for granted. I suggest to not put in your time/effort with her if she will not treat you nicely how you're treating her.
2006-12-20 12:00:57 · answer #1 · answered by JenGen 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Too much to read!!! I do sympathize with you... The Bible doesn't address this kind of problems! If you ask the average preacher... they would tell you to live by your birth certificate gender. Unless you can keep yourself in the closet you are posing a very serious problem for the clergy. Most members of the clergy are outwardly of a prudish Victorian orientation and they don't view this problem as a natural case, but as some kind of Devil messing even today... as you say "God doesn't make no junk"! AHHH, but God can change that... "God changes things" you need to get on a lot of fasting and prayer... And for God's sake! don't bring it up... Please keep it for yourself! You are screwing up the whole Bible idea and it is a bad testimony for the Church of Jesus Christ... There is no record of any miracle done on a freak in the Bible so you are on your own... No fundamentalist church would have a place for you! why you are open to make people wonder about their sexual preference, too... and about same sex marriages! and only GOD knows what else! BTW, a few years ago I believe I read somewhere of a case of a baby born with a gender that was not easily defined so the parents picked the gender for the baby and there was some surgery done, but when the baby grew up it was favoring the opposite sex of what was impossed on him and I don't remember what happened after that.
2016-03-13 09:03:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, from what you've said this girl has a lot of emotional issues. You sound like a nice man. You should go find yourself a good girl who appreciates being treated nice. By the way, when a girl (or even a guy) says that "they will probably just do it again and keep hurting you," what will usually end up happening is that they cheat on you or treat you terrible, and when they do, they say, "well, it's not like I didn't warn you" and they blame you!
2006-12-20 12:01:02 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa C 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
She's a superficial B*tch - plain and simple. She's going for the "rode hard and put back wet look" sweetie.
You're better off without her. I've seen women behave just like this and in 5 years or less, she's going to look like she's had no strings too. Rough around the edges and worn out.
Would you really want someone like this raising your children - much less having your children.....can you say "prison for life?" and with a warden from hell!
Run fast and don't look back.......there are good women out there that appreciate being loved and treated with respect. This one has no self respect.....therefore, she cannot recognize the respect that you are wanting to give to her. *tosses thumb* she's outta here! *W*
2006-12-20 12:03:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
First...you are a fool to go back to a woman that has cheated on you!!! When a woman that is faithful is treating you like crap then you are prolly just being too CLINGY...it's like that little puppy dog that follows you around and pees on you on a regular basis just to mark his territory...it gets really annoying...When a woman that is known for cheating, and yours is...it's usually but not always that she is already cheating again!!! There is also the possibility that she is only using you for something like sex, drugs, or money...and she doesn't really love you but will try to get you to believe that she does, meanwhile you still aren't getting the love and respect and sex that you need to be truly happy...Dump her and get a real woman...like someone that won't cheat...nice guys always suffer don't they...
2006-12-20 12:09:46 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She's absolutely right. Some of us just don't have any time for emotions — we have far more important things to do. Casual sex, however, is what we do for fun in our time between that spent at our careers, hobbies, and friendships. She's probably more interested in having you as a FwB than a boyfriend. I would try it if I were you.
2006-12-20 14:59:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm.. she is a ho. let her go.
A female in her right mind would cherish a man like you. Don't blame yourself or birth a hatred toward women in your heart. Unfortunately there are bloodsucking, life-force draining man-eaters out there in a good girls disguise... you just happen to have found one.
Take out the trash and get rid of this girl for good.
2006-12-20 12:05:17 · answer #7 · answered by nappyhappiness 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is very difficult when you love someone who can take or leave you, and that is what you got there--you care for more a lot more than she is capable of caring for you. As soon as something better floats by, she's going to dump you. I think you need to protect yourself and ease on back out of that relationship.
2006-12-20 12:01:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The girl you're dating is using you. She obviously doesn't care about you (if she did, why would she still be treating you so horribly?), so just leave her already. You won't be able to find a woman who loves you and treats you well if you're dating this witch.
2006-12-20 12:03:50 · answer #9 · answered by Not Allie 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
SHe's not ready for a relationship yet that gives that emotional attachment. The more you give -the more you're going to get hurt--I think she wants to -but I think she afraid to--so unti lshe's ready--it's going to be-no strings attached and she's going to be a wild child.
2006-12-20 12:02:55 · answer #10 · answered by smeezleme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋