My boyfriend and I just got in a huge argument... and my parents arnt talking to me... and now he went out and I am stuck taking care of our daughter... i got really angry and started balling and throwing things across the room (not in the same room as my daughter, I know better than that)... but I just felt like breaking someting... I feel like everything is falling apart!!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-20 11:54:49 · 17 answers · asked by Libra_for_life 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
why dont you take some big breaths and have a good sob. When he comes back in - try saying sorry ...
and just work it out :-)
and have a good Christmas - please?
2006-12-20 11:58:03 · answer #1 · answered by ~Mustaffa~Laff~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all your never stuck taking care of your own daughter...she is your responsiblity not your chore!
Take long slow deep breaths and collect yourself. Even though you don't say or do things around you daughter she can still pick up that something is wrong with mom. Watch a movie that is funny, do something with your daughter, call up a friend, take a nap, bake, go for a walk or a drive, do something worthwhile other than throwing things around the house, and anyway your just making a mess that you will have to clean up later on.
2006-12-20 12:07:04 · answer #2 · answered by Clara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK. First, calm down for just a minute. Then I want you to ask yourself if this huge tantrum is really worth it in the scope of life. He was an ignoramous for walking out and leaving you with the kid. Next time you can do him the same favor. As for the parents. Deal with one thing at a time. I have found that throwing things and going nuts only makes you have to pay to replace them and makes you look childish. The best revenge is to look calm and stable
2006-12-20 12:42:31 · answer #3 · answered by xovenusxo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You feel like everything is falling apart because little things are all happening at once. Settle down, if you need to cry real hard then cry real hard, if you feel the need to throw things, then throw things. Try to relax as much as you can, im sure that pretty hard when you have a child around, but try to maybe do something fun with her.... arts and crafts perhaps? That would be something to get your mind off things for just a little while. When the boyfriend comes home explain to him that when he walks out it makes you feel somewhat "trapped" at home. You need to do this without raising your voice. Just try talking to him, he can not be mad at you for having feelings.
merry christmas!!!
2006-12-20 12:20:58 · answer #4 · answered by Chrissy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a time-out for yourself and just focus on being calm.
You aren't having a breakdown, you are just stressed out.
Don't worry about your boyfriend, i'm sure he'll be back and you can work out your issues. Every couple argues and then makes up afterwards. It's totally normal.
Take the chance while he is gone, to do something for yourself. Paint your nails or give yourself a mini-facial or something(whatever will take your mind off of what is going on).
Things will get better.
2006-12-20 11:59:50 · answer #5 · answered by luvlimum2boys 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would take your daughter and go for a nice calm walk...your b/f and you will work things out as soon as he calms down...as for your parents only you can fix that with them...go put your mind at ease by doing something fun with your daughter and when he comes home tell him you would like to talk about what happened then you both have calmed down and should be able to work things out in a better atmosphere.
2006-12-20 11:58:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love the way the man can always walk off! it makes me laugh, start punching the cusions off the couch and have a good cry you are entitled to through a tantrum every now an then. Hope everythin works out for you. Oh an tell your boyfriend to be a man an not a boy who stomps off when things dont go his way.
2006-12-20 12:14:07 · answer #7 · answered by mummy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
try and figure out what the real stress is-- lack of money? Lack of time? cramped living conditions? Stress of a small child around? You have to think about it because if you are throwing things it has triggered something in you bigger than whatever the actual argument was about.
2006-12-20 11:58:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No i wouldn't say you're having a breakdown. You're just angry and hurt and need to let off a bit of steam. Everyone feels like that now and again. As long as you're not doing it around your daughter and you're not hurting yourself. We all need a good cry and a bit of a mad tantrum now and again. xxx
2006-12-20 12:02:25 · answer #9 · answered by rainbow 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anger and out of control behavior wont take you any where. So cool it. Calm down and think what is the best solutions for your problems now .okay?
2006-12-20 12:01:36 · answer #10 · answered by Vannili 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should take it easy. if you feel like balling or throwing thing, try reading a book or doing something you like, . Because you mite do something you that you will regret.
2006-12-20 12:01:59 · answer #11 · answered by devon_dvn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋