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I'll keep this as short as possible: love my gf dearly and know she loves me but she can't always show it. asked her about it, we talked; occurs to me (w/out her going into detail b/c she just freezes) she has unresolved issues (given to her from what I can tell) that are pretty big. She knows she needs to change: I have seen her attempts; she is so strong and strong willed that she tries to do it by herslef but I now realize she can't do it alone and probably needs pro help. I want to be there for her and I try to be. I seriously know I can't do it for her, just want her to know I am willing to travel this road w/ her to the end. So what do I tell her? Anything? Lead by example? This is extra tough for 2 reasons: first, no one I know has any practical experience to advise from, and second, whatever it is keeps the relationship from getting serious. It's like she wants it to be but this...whatever!, keeps getting in the way. Argh!!!

2006-12-20 11:52:18 · 5 answers · asked by randyken 6 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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tell her how u feel. dont expect an answer back and dont force it out of her. let her come 2 u when shes ready, but let her now that ur there 4 her and u'll be with her til the end. stuff that serious takes time it took me 4ever 2 get help when i need it i've had a horrid past and it took time. tell her if she wants 2 talk u'll listen and nothing will change excepted getting closer 2 her.

2006-12-20 12:06:30 · answer #1 · answered by Ximilee_roseX 1 · 0 0

Unfortunately, with such a vague question, I couldn't be of much assistance. If she needs to talk to a counselor, go with her if she's comfortable with you. The fact she knows she needs to change means almost nothing. Here's where it comes back down to you: generally all the help anyone needs is someone to lean on, someone that can listen, think on the issue, and come back with a reasonable response. If the issue is beyond your ability of help, and you can't get her the help she needs, I'm afraid it may be a relationship out of your reach. If I knew specifics of the issue I may be able to provide more valuable advice, but this is all I can tell you with the information provided.

2006-12-20 12:01:51 · answer #2 · answered by Gray 6 · 0 0

Tell her and show her that you will support her while she gets the help she needs. And be patient. It takes time for people to resolve serious issues, and even then, some never do.

2006-12-20 11:57:34 · answer #3 · answered by KS 7 · 0 0

it may take a while for her to warm up to u. my ex and my present bf have and has complained about that i try to explain my problems to them but htye just dont get it. the best thing u can do right now is to be there for her and try to understand her problems. i know i appreciate that a lot and ir has helped me.

2006-12-20 11:58:59 · answer #4 · answered by carebear_destroyer 4 · 0 0

Well were not pros and I seriously cant help if I dont waht some of the issues are

2006-12-20 11:57:01 · answer #5 · answered by fire.kisser 2 · 0 0

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