I'm trying my best not 2 get so jealous but when he leaves 2 be wit his boyz I'm always thinking what if he's cheating or what if he meets some other girl. He says he loves me but we've been 2gether for 2 months and we've been talking as friends 4 a yr. I've never known him 2 have a gf except 4 me and this other girl. What if he is cheating what am I 2 do cuz I really got mad feelings 4 him and I dont want him 2 think I'm 2 sprung out on him cuz he'll really think he can do what he wants. I really want this relationship 2 last I just can't trust him going 2 parties where I know there will be other females. I'm so love sick and jealous. HELP ME PLZ!
2006-12-20 11:51:22 · 24 answers · asked by Diva L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I really doubt he cheating on you. If you've been good friends for 4 years and dating for two months, there MUST be a lot of things he likes about you. Or else he wouldn't waste his time. I see what's gonna happen if you don't stop being jealous and love sick - you're going to push him away. You're going to worry so much about a problem that doesn't exist you're going to actually create a problem. If you want to save your relationship and you want it to last you HAVE to trust him. You also have to understand he's allowed to talk to other girls and be friends with them. What's he not allowed to do is be all over them, and talk "dirty" to them, so to speak. Which I REALLY doubt he is with a passion. So you need to relax and chill, trust is a number one priority in a serious relationship - so you have no choice but to trust him until he proves unworthy, which I don't think he will. So relax before you mess up the relationship yourself.
2006-12-20 11:57:21 · answer #1 · answered by ------ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all you need to learn to type and I hope that you don't talk that way. Second if this is how you feel after 2 months then it won't get better and maybe you are better of without him. Trust is something that is earned, and lost very easily and hard to get back. If you already see something then you will never trust him fully unless you act like velcro and stay with him every where not the best thing to do. It sounds like you will never trust him for whatever reason so just end this train wreck before it gets to messy.
2006-12-20 19:59:32 · answer #2 · answered by mooky_l3d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Until you have a ring and a date you have no right to be jealous. Real love means caring more about the other person and never ever trying to make them jealous, putting their mind at rest, etc. Just what you need is a guy who obviously didn't make the first relationship work, 2 kids who are getting totally screwed in all of this and you're probably sleeping with him too without a commitment. Does this sound like the mature love of your grandparents and parents?
2006-12-20 19:55:27 · answer #3 · answered by it's me 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You've got some issues - Im sorry to be blunt but its true! You should trust a guy if your with him and if you dont, then something is majorly wrong somewhere.
is he giving you reason to be jealous and wonder if he's cheating?
Have you had your heart broken before by someone cheating on you?
Is he spending a whole heap of time away from you and with his "boyz""?
If you answered no to them questions then you have NO reason to worry ok?
Just get a grip and be happy :o)
2006-12-20 19:55:24 · answer #4 · answered by Tanya 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you could always go to the parties with him. You say there will be other girls at these parties, why aren't you there? Simply say, "oh a party! I want to go!" Then if he says you can't go, that is definitely a red flag that something suspicious may be happening. But in the end, unless he starts lying or anything, you're just going to have to trust him.
2006-12-20 19:58:23 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really means what he says wich is that he loves you and you were friends for 1 yr than he must care 4 you but you should stay positive and if he really does cheat on you don't take him back cuz than he will think that he can fool around with your feelings whenever he wants.
hope i helped Good Luck
2006-12-20 19:57:26 · answer #6 · answered by LoVeR** 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start going out with your girls... dont make it look obvious but once you give him that same feeling of insecurity then you'll both be on the same page and instead of going out he'll want to spend his time with you. If that doesnt work then going out would be a good thing... maybe you will find someone who would rather spend there time with you because thats where they enjoy the most.
2006-12-20 20:00:35 · answer #7 · answered by Jasmine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trying asking him if u can go with him to the parties, or ask if you and ur friends can hang with him and his. If u got trust issues u should talk to him about it dont hold it all inside your going to crazy. Talk to him and tell him how u feel if he loves u he'll try his hardest to be there for you. Good luck!
2006-12-20 19:54:54 · answer #8 · answered by ReRe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hire a private detective. Could cost you $500 but how much would you pay for piece of mind? You could probably pay a friend he doesn't know to follow him for a few days for cheaper than that. OR jut trust him and be happy.
2006-12-20 19:55:10 · answer #9 · answered by 1truthseeker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happened to me but with my girlfriend. Don't stress. It makes it worse. If he likes you the same way he won't cheat. He might think about it, but he won't act on anything. Just watch the jealousy that can be the thing that kills a relationship.
2006-12-20 19:55:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋