I love this guy with all my heart, and he loves me too...As a sister. The problem is that we do things and are closer than what sisters and brothers do. We cuddle, we hug, and we have almost had sex (Which I'm not too proud of..) and we talk and see each other every day. We do everything couples do, except we aren't dating...And he constantly tells me that he is in love with this other girl who he doesn't know. He has never had a conversation with her in his 2 years of infatuation...And he won't consider dating me, yet wants to do all this. I'm wondering...If there's anything I can do to show him exactly how much I love him, and if there's any chance of me wooing him over the prettier girl. They are nothing alike, and we are practically attatched at the hip. Please, tell me if I'm right in waiting 2 years and counting, or if it's just a lost cause. I really feel this is right, everything in me tells me he is it and I'm willing to fight for him, I'm just not sure if it's worth it.
2006-12-20 11:39:08 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if I were you I'd cut him loose....the opportunity of him having you is there if he wanted it. The fact that he chooses the other girl clearly states he is not interested in you. Sorry if I'm being too blunt, but that's my perception.
2006-12-20 11:42:31 · answer #1 · answered by shygal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing you need to do is to tell him how you really feel, and ask him what he feels about you. If he tells you that he consider you no more than a best friend or a sister, then it's time for you to set the boundary and stop all the physical contact. No bestfriends or brother-sister kisses and hugs like bf-gf. You might want to consider hanging out with other friends and distance yourself from him. This serves as two purposes: 1. For you to heal your heart and open up your world to the other guys out there. 2. For him (hopefully) to realize that you have always been there for him, and now that you are not always at his disposal, then he might appreciate you more. People dont usually appreciate what they have until they realize that it's gone. Well, in your case, if he realizes that quick enough, and if you are still interested in him, then you can continue the relationship.
There is nothing more painful than in the relationship where the other person doesnt love you or appreciate you the way you love and appreciate him.
Wish you all the best! :)
2006-12-20 20:08:28 · answer #2 · answered by Sea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is obviously blind if he cant see what you two have or either he's playing mind games by telling you he loves you in hopes of getting some. I would tell him how I feel. I mean if you two are spending all this time together, cuddling, and practically having sex you might as well be together. Why is he drooling over someone for 2 years that he dosen't even know. Maybe he talks about her to see how you react. He obviously likes you if he's spending this much time with you, maybe he's afraid to tell you he feels the same way. Good Luck Sweetie
2006-12-20 19:55:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him as you say, it is worth it. Get to talking about the man you want as an eventual significant other and /or husband eventually, maybe some of the time don't make yourself so available to him. Find something to do without him at least on occasion if not at least one time a week. See if talking about other guys bugs him. Give it a couple of weeks and then maybe you can confront him with your feelings if he doesn't respond like you want.
I've been in love with my best friend virtually all my life. We have come close to getting married twice but we live too far apart and it always creates a problem. One can only hope that someday....things will go your way.
2006-12-20 19:45:54 · answer #4 · answered by Mudder/ Gi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all if he told you he likes you as a sister thats a lie. I also have to say be careful some guys would get out of hand. Even though you love him so much you should let him know how you feel. you should also stop doing Girlfriend Boyfriend stuff. and that sometime works. then he will know that he miss you. and would want to do it again with you. also check for main points. like does he hold your hand in front of friends. does he try to kiss you when their people around. The best thing i can say to you is be careful must guy do just want to have sex. And you have to tell him to stop leading you on. and tell him if he love you. i hope to start a relationship with you. say something like that. I hope that can help you take care all the best to you
2006-12-20 19:49:58 · answer #5 · answered by Gum Mo Jai 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a prime rib. Good au jus. Fresh carrots in butter. Lots of butter. This is not the time to worry about health. Red potatoes after boiling, let butter and use nature’s seasoning and let melt and simmer. Candlelight. A fire or a dvd or a fire place. Then….
Make a hot bath. Use candles all around tub. Different sizes because you have so many in the home and place in saucers, tins, cups, etc. instead of getting real rose petals, write rose petals on pieces of paper and tape them up the drive to the front door, and then bathe your loved one, using a sponge and bubble bath with the candles lighting the room, and then take them into bed have them lay on it and massage them with scented oil all over, arms, legs, you know, and then as the romantic music plays…
2006-12-20 21:48:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
lost cause--move on. Become the kind of person a really really special guy would want to date. get involved in community service, work hard at school/work, i.e. quit thinking "me me me" all the time and you may end up with the boy next door. You're just too available and too easy with no commitment.
2006-12-20 19:42:26 · answer #7 · answered by it's me 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO girl it is not worth it. why be his dish on the side while he is waiting for the main course. if you know what i mean. you need to be open to other men in your life ones that will give you the same amount of energy you give to this other guy. then maybe when he sees you dont need him anymore he will understand what a good thing that he has lost.
2006-12-20 19:43:01 · answer #8 · answered by stunt101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you feel it's right to wait for him to be with you, then it must be what your heart's wanting. i think if he hasn't put you in consideration of going out with him, i would try telling him that you feel weird doing all of this when he likes someone more. maybe he doesn't see something he should. i would just let him know how i feel, you love him right? if he loves you the way he says he does, he would give you a chance.
2006-12-20 19:49:41 · answer #9 · answered by baby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he doesn't know that you are all that into him...ask him if he could ever see you two together. Tell him you love the time spent with him, and want to get to know him on another level. BUT, I would be careful..you don't want to lose a friend in the end!!!
2006-12-20 19:43:49 · answer #10 · answered by BUTTERCUP 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
move on. Set some boundaries. As long as you keep letting him do these things with no strings attached he will, he's a man. Stop standing by someone who really isn't standing by you. he wants someone else and probably goes to sleep and wakes up with someone else on his mind. Ur just someone he can "mooch" off of for the meantime...be smart don't be a retard...
2006-12-20 19:44:39 · answer #11 · answered by violet83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋