Directed to the MEN! but women can give feed back too?

Question

if you have friend with benefits.. but you guys are hecka kool.. like unbelieveably kool.
Been messin for almost a year and the "should we be more than friends" question has never came up... BUT he has been asking about my other guy friends. we see eachother everyday sometimes twice a day. now we even talk on the phone during the day .. feels like a relationship but not stressin the fact that we are only friends..

Now that he occupies majority of my time would it be wrong to stop things now before things turn into something progressive and salvage the friendship OR... should I just kick back and let what ever happen's happen?

Answer 1

I say go with the flow, dont rush anything. Dont bring up the subject of a relationship either, just wait and see what happens.If it was meant for you two to be in a realtionship the time will certainly come. You know the key to a good relationship is being friends first.That way you will know just about everything you need to know about each other. Good luck

Answer 2

No, it would not be wrong. You must make your guy friend understand that you do not want a relationship beyond sex. Now, from personal experience, these things never work out the way we hope. Maybe the friendship can be salvaged but in my opinion this "friend" already thinks your a couple and no matter what you say to him he will be hurt.I wish you both the best.

Answer 3

I would never agree to be anyone's FWB. But in your case, I think that since you've been seeing each other as friends for so long, you may as well start a relationship with him. After all, romantic relationships are just REALLY strong exclusive friendships! (If he objects to the idea, just tell him that and he should understand.) You've been bonding plenty long enough. I think it's time for you to start a real relationship with him. That is, if you both have the same thing in mind. Good night!

Answer 4

Ironically, you seem to be OK with the arrangement. It is a relationship! Call it what you like, but to change the terms and conditions is not going to benefit either of you. Salvage operations don't work and usually result in unwanted acrimony and emotional homicide. I assume you guys care about each other? Chill out.

Answer 5

Just keep certain subjects at a distance cause it'll only confuse you but yeah kick back it's only over the phone and your just friends.He sounds to good to be true for you keep it at a friend level you don't know what or how he really is know and what he does we men some of us can play it off very good.Don't get to excited about things said.

Answer 6

Talk through whatever you are dealing with..if the friendship is more important than letting things go..tell him...if you should cross the line things will change...you will not look at each other the same anymore...talk through it...say what you are feeling...then at least everything has been been put on the table, and do not take anything for granted.

Answer 7

After a year? Just bring it up casually. Seems like in a natural course things should have progressed naturally into a relationship. If you want it to turn into a relationship it can, but it may always stay"casual".

Answer 8

I would let him know how you feel and also ask him if he has any intentions of progressing further. Sometimes close relationships are best left to staying their course, but awesome relationships are also based on interests that only a friend would know.

Answer 9

NOW THAT YOU HAVE CROSSED THE LINE AND SHARED THE "BENEFITS", THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS SALVAGING THE FRIENDSHIP. ITS NEARLY IMPOSSIBLE FOR LOVERS TO GO BACK TO BEING JUST FRIENDS EVEN IF THERE WERE NEVER STRONG FEELINGS, THERE WERE OBVIOUSLY SOME FEELINGS. AND THOSE FEELINGS ALWAYS GET IN THE WAY LATER AND CAUSE PROBLEMS

Answer 10

You should definetly just kick back and let nature handle itself. If it still isn't going anywhere then make an effort to tell the person your true feelings. Hope this helped.