I didn't do anything wrong?

Question

My boyfriend is ALWAYS accusing me of looking at other guys and liking other guys...and things like that...I'm not allowed to talk to them for ANY REASON at all. And if one tries to talk to me I have to be mean to him. =( Today in 4th period he out of nowhere says "what were you looking at??" This is a question he asks ALL THE TIME. But I KNOW I wasn't looking at any guys! I never do!! He always thinks I am and I honestly have no idea where he is getting it. But he got so pissed at me and would not talk to me for the rest of the period and he still won't. Why does he do this? What can I do about it?? I'm so confused! I've tried telling him over and over I don't have a clue what he's talking about but he doesn't believe me =( Please help!

Answer 1

This is his issue, not yours ... you can not control or change his behaviour, thinking, actions, feelings, etc. Don't waste your time trying. Your boyfriend is acting very controlling, jealous, insecure and mistrustful of you now, what is he capable of if you don't comply to his demands? Become more emotionally abusive ('cause sweetie, even if you don't realize it, that's what he's doing now - look at your sad faces in your question!) or is he going to start to be physically aggressive to get you to comply with what he wants? (He may not, but there are lots of abusive people out there who progressively become more violent.)

My suggestion to you is that you stand up for yourself, tell him that he needs to work on his stuff and you're not prepared to date him unless and until he can trust and respect you.

Answer 2

i had a boyfriend just like this. when we'd stand and talk to other classmates if i talked to a guy he'd put his arm around my waist and pinch my side for the silent notice to shut up he'd do the talking. i had constant bruises on my side from this. he was severely controlling like that as well. I didn't look at any guys until about the last 3 months we were dating. I had found out that the whole time we were dating other guys that he felt very threatened by liked me and these guys were higher level.. more popular boys than him and he was very threatened by them.. so if they were in the same room as us or me ever he switched all his classes to same as me.. and then would tell me to quit looking at them i encouraged them. How i dressed encouraged them jeans and a tshirt lol.. well I finally got away from him! I would suggest the same with him or a very serious talk and ask him flat out what his problem is or ask friends if they've heard anything through the school of rumors of why he'd act this way.. could be he's naughty and guilty of other girls.. just a wonder.

Answer 3

This doesn't sound like a very healthy relationship. He seems to be very possessive and controlling. I worry he may even become abusive at some point. Take it from me I have seen this before and it doesn't get any better. I think you need to reevaluate if you really want to be in a relationship with this kind of guy. Good luck and I pray you make the right choice.

Answer 4

He appears to be very insecure. There's not much you can do about it. He needs to go to a pyschologist or someone who can help him work things out inside him. Perhaps he has been hurt in the past and it really scarred him. There's not very much you can do, if you choose to stay with him. Try comparing him with yourself. Does he talk to other girls? If so, compare it to the scenerio he is creating. Afterall, it shouldn't be any different. Try to make him see that you should be allowed to have guy friends, as he could as well have girl friends. Relationships are built on trust.

Answer 5

First thing you need to do is break up with him. Why in the world would you want to go out with someone so insecure. Some guys are that way but it is just so that they can control the person they are with. Move on and let him be by himself. You can do better and you do deserve better than that nonsense. You haven't done anything wrong so don't beat yourself up about it. You are to young to go thru this. Look for someone who can trust you adn treat you with respect. Best of luck to you.

Answer 6

well i get your young being in 4th period

but maybe your BF isnt old enough to handle a relationship yet hes showing signs of being controlling , jelous and abusive. I would reconsider is this the kid of relationship you want he doesnt sound like even at his age he has all his screws tight.

Perhaps he shouldnt be in a relationship an you move on honey it can only get worst unless he learns to get a handle on himself. People who try to control other people have no control over them selves.

Answer 7

He sounds extremely insecure. If I were you I would tell him to knock it off before you break up with him. Tell him you're getting tired of him accusing you of stuff that you're not doing. Tell him he's making you not like him as much anymore. So he better stop before you do end up looking at other guys and might just be with somebody else.

Answer 8

girl if he wont leave you alone and is bothering you like that hes beinhg over jealous guys can get jealous sometime but this is to much
you guys need to evaluate your relationship
trust is one of the most important things in a relationship
do you wanne be with him if you guys are fighting all the time

Answer 9

He sounds like he is very insecure. That will only lead to trouble. It may get worse such as violence. I would talk to him about it (calmly and seriously). If that does not do it I would consider breaking up with him and telling him to grow up. It is only his insecurities and he is trying to make you feel like you are doing wrong. As long as you have been honest, faithful to him you have nothing to apologize for.

Answer 10

Get out of the relationship right now. It sounds like he is trying to control you too much. Even if you love him it get out. It will be hard but in the end it will be worth it!!!!!