I'm 21, he's 22. We have been dating for a month.
I'm not worried that he has a baby, I'm annoyed he didn't tell me sooner.
He told me over the phone, which I was not happy about.
I love kids & babies, I can't stress that enough.
But should I be angry he didn't tell me?
2006-12-20 11:30:02 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, look at it this way. If he wasn't thinking about dating you anymore why should he tell you private things?
You should be glad he told you before you invested a year into the realtionship. A month is not that long to be dating. I wouldn't tell you alot of things in the first month.
2006-12-20 11:36:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would be a bit annoyed too. But it's still a new relationship, and he has told you now. Maybe it's a sign he's starting to feel serious about you.
Do make sure you find out all about the baby's mother - I know from experience that ex's with kids can be a bit of a nightmare. Hopefully this won't be the case for you, though. Good luck.
2006-12-20 19:34:43 · answer #2 · answered by Hello Dave 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't tell a stranger all the facts about your life - you tell them bits slowly as you get to know them.
He is being naturally cautious and you should be flattered that he has told you at all!
So you don't need to react at all!
You have only been seeing him for one month so go easy and chill a little.
Take each day as it comes.
And no - never be angry when someone shares some thing so precious with you! Be grateful!
2006-12-20 20:01:44 · answer #3 · answered by kiku 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's only a month, when did you want him to tell you, the first date? It's a big issue and maybe he thought you wouldn't wanna see him again if he told you before you got to know him. Why are you angry if it's not an issue that he has one?
2006-12-20 21:23:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could have told you sooner but maybe he was scared you would run. Don't be angry, try and understand his situation and find out why he had to hide it. Are you his first girl since he was single? How much did you share from your first date til now. Talk to him. I can understand you're angry but I would be more confused than anything about why he would keep something so hidden. Most guys would mention it along with their vital statisitcs!
2006-12-20 19:47:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes u should be angry but also honoured,
angry caus fundamentally it is dis honest
honoured caus he obviously doesnt wanna lose you and didnt wanna tell you incase it adversly effected his relationship with you.
what he has done in his mind is compromised
he never intended to keep it from you always so wasnt really being dishonest and he was tryin to guage what your reaction might be (some women would run a mile) n tell you when sure it would have the least impact on you n him as a couple.
bottom line is he has told you now he feels comfortable with you
and hes prayin u r ok with it so u n him can continue your relationship
2006-12-20 19:41:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're right, he probably should possibly have told you sooner, but I think the point is that he wasn't trying to hide it from you. You've only been dating for a month which isn't long at all. Maybe he was scared you wouldn't like him. He should have told you face to face as well but at least he HAS told you.
2006-12-20 19:36:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
no i dont think you should be. i know how he felt ive been there he probly really cares about you and wanted you to get to know him before he told you. and if you have only been together a month i would look at it that he is wanting things to last or he would not have bothered telling you at all.
2006-12-20 19:38:04 · answer #8 · answered by mr t 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be mad because a relationship is based on trust and in that situation it seem to me that he was lying but if you love him enough you would just move past that and forgive him...
2006-12-20 19:35:14 · answer #9 · answered by 22222 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he has told you now so stop being annoyed and deal with it. probably scared in case you would react badly
2006-12-20 19:34:12 · answer #10 · answered by jinx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋