Was I too mean to brerak-up with him under the given circumstances?? (See Add'l Details)
2006-12-20 11:22:35 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My boyfriend's friend was making him choose between him and me(his g/f). He chose to take his friend's side. He said something like his friend had a point. My friend and I were going to walk away, I wasn't gonna break-up with him. But then his friend high-fived him and was like "Bros before Ho's Dude." This pissed me off. I went up to my b/f, slapped him, and told his to have fun kissing his "bro". I told him to not call me or talk to me. I said we were through and walked away.
I sorta feel bad cuz it is almost christmas, and they were friends. Are all guys like this?? Did I over react??
He and his friend were arguing about if his friend had been hitting on me. His friend was like are you gonna believe me or her??
We went out for almost two years. He is normally very sweet. Should I give him a second chance??
When he realized I was truly leaving he came after me saying he was sorry but I just kept walking.
2006-12-20 11:22:46 · update #1
Why do guys believe in Bros B4 Ho's
2006-12-20 11:24:09 · update #2
No you were not too harsh. I think you did the right thing in dumping him. If his friend made him choose between you and him, then I suppose he is not willing to have your boyfriend share his time with you.
The fact that he celebrated with high fiving his friend, right in front of you, proves that he doesn't really care about you. Although he came running for you to apologize once he realized your were through with him, when it was time to choose between you or his friend, he did pick his friend. That tells you his priority. So imagine next time if a girl asks him to pick, who will he choose?
People are allowed to go out with someone and also have friends. Your ex-boyfriend failed to explain that to his friend. Instead he was influenced by his friend and decided to leave you.
So you did the right thing by leaving him.
2006-12-20 12:03:34 · answer #1 · answered by Michel C. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I dont trust men as far as I can throw them and I cant throw them. I would believe my friend before I believed my boyfriend. I have had many of my GF's Bf's come on to me and i told them and they believed me and dumped them and thats why we are still friends.
However I dont know if you were wrong to break up he shouldnt have been having that conversation in front of you even if he was accusing you that should be between you and him, he should have not made a fool out of you with his friend. When you are in a relationship weather you are male or female you should put your mates feelings first and respect them to the upmost. This sounds highschoolish though so maybe in your world boys do it often and put "Bro's before HO's"
Me personality put GOD Me, my kids, and my bank account first then my man!
2006-12-20 19:31:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
SOunds like whenever he is around his friends he will mostly do what his friend's want him to do and believe. SO no your weren't to harsh you should have kick the friend in the nuts so he could jump and hurt. AND you should have told him Not a HO but a kicker stupid. Well you should go find someone else because if he is going to listen and pat more attention to his friends quess he can hug and kiss them too. HE doesn't deserve you and you need someone who is on your side no matter what.
2006-12-20 19:28:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yea guys do act a lot like that....you did overact, however you should never allow a guy to refer to you as a ho...nor would I be ok with his friend calling me one for that matter either, especially in my presence. I would talk to your boyfriend, tell him how you felt about the situation and see if he can explain himself and better yet offer an apology.
2006-12-20 19:26:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ugh! Dumbass guys. Look it sounds like he was being peer pressured, obviously.. but in any case he should have the balls to stand up to his friend if he REALLY TRULY loved you. Sounds like you're a young girl 10-17? I don't know, but I think you did the right thing, just let time pass and then try to be friends. You deserve better girl!!!
2006-12-20 19:28:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to him and tell him how that all made you feel, its wrong of him to treat you like that and its wrong of him to let his friend say somethin like that infront of you, i know guys can be close mates and say stupid things but theres no reason to do it infront of you. just have a chat to him about it and explain why u did what u did and how u feel.
2006-12-20 19:26:13 · answer #6 · answered by Onie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u r supposed to slap ur boiiz friend and take ur bf aside and talk to him. u can yell at him yeah, cuz he just picked his friend over u, his "true love". guyz can b so stupid! gosh
2006-12-20 19:34:42 · answer #7 · answered by redefined x27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say dont give him another chance guys are supposed to stick up and side with there girl
2006-12-20 19:28:25 · answer #8 · answered by Charlie F 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You must be young. Too young to have a boyfriend. Just date.
2006-12-20 19:26:02 · answer #9 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋