Okay, you guys are going to think I'm nuts, but I just had a baby 3.5 months ago (who is an absolute JOY) and my husband and I are seriously thinking about trying for another one very soon (like now). We have a lot of love to give and we love the HECK out of our little punkin. My only real fear is whether or not I can handle a toddler and a baby at the same time. It seems totally do-able since I'm a stay-at-home-mom with an in-home business, but I'm still nervous about it. Also, I'm a little worried that they will be too close in age. What would YOU do if you were in my position?
2006-12-20 11:20:10 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Oh sorry... I should've told you how old we are.. I'm 30 and my husband is 32.
2006-12-20 11:27:37 · update #1
Research has shown that it is best to wait at least 18 months before conceiving after childbirth. It takes a huge toll on our bodies (as you KNOW) and it takes a long time to fully heal from it. Therefore it is recommended that you wait 18 months before conceiving. I would think that for the safety of yourself and your future baby you should probably wait at least a year before trying :)
But as far as you being able to handle it, I'm sure you will do just fine, the hardest part is being able to get out of the house with two young kids and keeping your sanity! It takes FOREVER to get all their stuff packed and everyone out the door, so even a trip to the grocery store takes forever...lucky for you, I'm sure Jason would be a great help :)
2006-12-21 02:16:52 · answer #1 · answered by totspotathome 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
From the sound of it - you will and your hubby will be able to handle a baby and a toddler. I have a daughter who is 9 years and a son that is 18mo and im 8 wks pregnant. I wish that I hadnt waited so long before having another child after my first and am really excited about having the last two close together. They are only babies and toddlers for a short time compared to their whole lives. My sister and I are 18 months apart and even though we had our fights, we are really really close now. Good Luck Honey!
2006-12-20 11:26:08 · answer #2 · answered by Kristin Pregnant with #4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how old you are, but I'd say wait. You may be enthusiastic for another babe already, but your body needs a break. Having a baby is tough on the body. I've heard you should wait about a year before thinking about having another.
Oh yes, and a 3.5 month old baby is a completely different animal from even a 6 month old baby. Give yourself some time to enjoy this little one and figure out what parenting is all about.
2006-12-20 11:25:21 · answer #3 · answered by Betsy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
After you have a baby your body needs time to recooperate itself, your body does a lot of work to make and deliver a child! I have a 3 year old and a 3 month old and I stay very busy and crazy! It is very hard to have two in diapers or two on bottles and I would not suggest it. You have all of the time in the world to make babies. If i were you I would wait to see how you deal with the toodler stage and go from there. I think a toodler is much much harder than an infant! I hope I was useful good luck and congrats on your baby! There is nothing like a mother and child bond or love!
2006-12-20 12:46:01 · answer #4 · answered by lilmomma91206 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your baby isn't even mobile yet. You probably don't even have a true idea what you're in for yet. :-)
Not to mention, it's really recommended by most docs that you wait at least a full year after the birth before you TTC again. This gives your body time to recover. If pregnancies are spaced too closely together, it's hard on your body and the possibilitiy of complications (such as preterm labor) goes up.
Give your baby time to "be the baby" and grow up a bit before you decide if you are ready for another.
2006-12-20 12:49:29 · answer #5 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its what I did. My sons are now 19 months and 7 months. 3 days less than a year apart. We wanted to have another baby and it just seemed right to us. As long as you have the love and have the finances and everything, I say go for it. It can be hectic at times though, but I wouldnt change it for the world. People are always asking us if they are twins though, which gets annoying. Good luck with whatever you decide and happy holidays!
2006-12-20 11:26:05 · answer #6 · answered by michaellandonsmommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well think of it as if you had twins, but alot of months apart, and its not too soon, if you and your husband want to have another one go for it. just think you will have 2 that is a bundle of joy. and you can do whatever you set your mind too. and the wonder of it being close at age they will probably bond together faster, some people choose to do it close and some rather wait a couple of years. but go for it you two seem that you can give all the love to your children ,
2006-12-20 11:26:16 · answer #7 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it, It might be harder that they would be close in age but just imagine how close they will be growing up. They will have someone to play with and share secrets with and they can always were the other ones hand me downs. Unless they are opposite sex. I would do it, my sons are 3 years apart and i wish they were closer in age. Good luck and if you think you can do it then go for it.
2006-12-20 11:32:15 · answer #8 · answered by Kendra M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My kids are 16months apart in age. It's tough, but it can be rewarding too.At times I think it would be easier if the second one wasn't born until after the first one was out of diapers, but all in all things worked out.
2006-12-20 11:25:22 · answer #9 · answered by mommyof2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my doctor told me as soon as your body is healed, you can have another. I know a couple with kids 13 months apart.
Do what makes you and your family happy.
2006-12-20 12:11:57 · answer #10 · answered by Kiss My Shaz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋