i am fed up with being alone and want to meet someone, the thing is i don,t trust men they are always rotten,
2006-12-20 11:04:26 · 16 answers · asked by denise g 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
not all men are bad you need to find a nice one and if you think they are all bad they will be
2006-12-20 11:06:41 · answer #1 · answered by julie t 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off all it is very understandable that you have this fear coz loads of us do at some point or other. Your not alone.
I felt the same about men and decieded to stay away for a year and a half but now I have a lovely boyf whos absolutely lovely.
I got him by getting to know him first before I involved myself mind body and soul with him. If you lay off sex for quite a few months and concentrate on communication if they are a rat bag they will show there true colors by then and you can move on. There are plently of genuine guys about trust me, although many women get into the trap of only being attractive to cocky, risky men and ignoring nice ones then complaining there all bad.
Relax and have fun dating, just pay attention to the consistency in personality and be hoonest with yourself when you are not gettin treated gud and u'll be ok :)
2006-12-20 20:34:29 · answer #2 · answered by tickledpinkies 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That does not sound good. Before I got into any relationship, for example my current boyfriend we where dating for 6 months before we got intimate. Let me tell you........... when we did.......it was electric !! Learn everything you can about your potential partner, make the most of your time with the guy your interested in by going out on dates. Take that opportunity to know him better, when you take your time and not jump straight to intimacy he will see that you respect yourself and he will repect you. Let me just add that we had our first kiss after 2 months !!! I am telling you from experience, it is worth giving it a go. The rotten men are the ones who do not wish to wait or get to know you more, this means they are after one thing. I wish you all the best.
2006-12-20 19:40:54 · answer #3 · answered by kira1606 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Kira, take your time to get to know a man first, if they are worth it, they will wait. Take things slowly and if he is a good one (and there are lots out there) you will slowly learn to trust him. Be honest and upfront with any potential boyfriend from the beginning, tell him you have trust issues and that you need to take things slow. If he doesn't want to or tries to push you into something your not ready for then get rid of him, that way you have learnt about him before things go any further. Remember tho not all men are rotters. Wishing you luck, lol
2006-12-21 01:36:54 · answer #4 · answered by eeore 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a good idea to make them earn your trust instead of giving it away at first glance. Any good man would be willing to wait if it meant being with you because any untrustworthy man lives for what happens now and not what may happen years from now. So my overall advice is when you meet someone nice, make him wait for your love and if he can wait for that period of time, he's worth having.
2006-12-20 20:15:41 · answer #5 · answered by ravensfan172003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There aren't many exceptions to the general rule so take your time and be prepared to have to 'sift through a few' in order to find the right one. If you want to settle and marry, bare in mind that marriage last for ever and a man will have to be pretty exceptional to live with for that long.
2006-12-22 03:15:15 · answer #6 · answered by tattyhead65 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this method is so true,love u r self before u r able to love another.
u have plenty of time just work at being you and enjoy being you .
this way youll get to value u r self.instead of feeling worthless and falling foe some man who will detect this.
be you and be happy to do this.
then u r man will come along .
good luck xxxx
2006-12-22 16:32:46 · answer #7 · answered by gypsy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
funny i have problems trusting women cuz i'm nice and i never get the love back. hey you can trust me for a start or your sanity back dogmicjoe@yahoo.com. there are good guys out here and i'm prooof. and i beleiev there are good girls and we both need to believe in love. try hi5.com for friendships. i'm on there in hopes of finding a good person. when u least expect it, love will surround you. have faith.
2006-12-20 19:40:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Spend some time with him by talking on phone. Try to understand his nature. If his needs meets with yours, u can proceed.
2006-12-20 19:13:57 · answer #9 · answered by piya 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So how can you meet someone nice, if you have already labelled them all 'rotten'??
2006-12-20 19:06:57 · answer #10 · answered by Danru 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a lie, you may just be attracting the wrong type of men. try dessign more conservatively. you wont attract players that way. and guys are great, dont give up on them.
2006-12-22 03:33:26 · answer #11 · answered by L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋