my wedding day is in 1 week. he beats me sometimes and everywhere i go he finds me. i dont kow if i should get married to him.
2006-12-20 10:59:41 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If he beats you, don't marry him. RUN AWAY! It won't get any better after you're married.
2006-12-20 11:01:32 · answer #1 · answered by DEENIE 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should not get married to this guy if he beats you
If I was in your shoes I would call it off and leave him asap
You can find someone alot better who will not beat you and who will respect you.
You have to think about your future...... If you marry him will the beatings get worse? and what if you have kids with him if you don't have any already?
Sweatheart this is your wake up call get out there as fast as you can.
I have been married 2 times and my first wife had stabbed me with a knife.
I dont want to see or hear anyone get abused and possibly even killed over this even if you love him sad as it may be he does not love you because if he did he would not beat you.
Sorry to break the bad news to you but it is the truth nd sometimes the truth hurts.
so go get a restraining order and go find someone else.
This is just my opinion and the ultimate choice is yours but I wanted to share with you the possibilities
2006-12-20 13:13:23 · answer #2 · answered by rich19761 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh My God!!! Don't even consider marrying him. Do you live in a city or small town? If you call the Salvation Army they will help you to find a Shelter. If that is not possible, go to a church and ask for help. Hopefully, you do not have a child. If you do, you most certainly need a Shelter.
He has proably convinced you that all the trouble is YOUR fault. It is NOT. It seems as if he has already made deep inroads into your mind to make you feel worthless. You ARE important. You have tried to get away. Please ask the Police, a Pastor, or some local agency for help to get to a Shelter where he cannot find you.
Thousands of us care about YOU. God Bless you...
2006-12-20 12:49:38 · answer #3 · answered by intrepid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll answer this one quickly...no, you should not marry this guy. If he beats you now, just imagine what will happen after you're married. Dump him and run as far away from him as you can. If he threatens you, I've got 2 words for you...restraining order. File charges the next time he physically attacks you, that's against the law and is called assault and battery in all 50 states.
2006-12-20 11:04:35 · answer #4 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave his A**!!! Usually men like that wait until after he marries you before they show that side. Don't marry him, Please!! He will never change and it will only get worse!! My mom was married to a man like that because she was scared to leave him, but she did and her life is great. No man should put their hands on you if he truly loves you!! I was with a man for 3 yrs and it never got better. Two years before we met i found out he beat his wife. And even after we split up his girlfriends would call me for help because he would beat them too. So a man like that never changes or stops how they are. Your best bet would be to get the F*** away from him. if he won't stay away get a restraining order. Again I will say DON'T DO IT!!!!!!! Good Luck!!!
2006-12-20 11:11:47 · answer #5 · answered by noramom4life101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should try speaking with your family as a support group and tell them what you've said here. I understand it maybe tough but it is best to resolve this issue at this point BEFORE your marriage. Unfortunately this person is not likely to change and in fact may become worse in time. If this is an arranged marriage be truthful to the parties involved, but do so in a controlled environment with the support of family or friends, do not do so alone. In the future you will see the wisdom of your choice. Best of Luck to you!
2006-12-20 11:13:55 · answer #6 · answered by Annette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he already hits you, then get out. Don't sign up for a lifetime of abuse and hurt. Get a restraining order and leave him. Then maybe some counseling is in order for you. If you have been in an abusive relationship then you are carrying some baggage with you. You need to take care of number one, yourself, and get your head in the right place so you make certain that you don't ever wind up in a situation like this again.
2006-12-21 01:28:26 · answer #7 · answered by fortillfriday 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't marry him, I'd hate for in a few weeks for your mom or some other relative to be on here asking why they didn't see the signs or stopped you. Once a man beats a woman he will always beat a woman, it's his way to gain control, don't let him have control over you, you are better then that..get far away from him, they have shelters that keep you safe.
2006-12-20 11:06:57 · answer #8 · answered by Kitikat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, when I read the first part of your question~I thought~well she's having cold feet which is normal before marriage. But after reading the explanation of your question, I have got to say DON'T DO IT!! If he beats you now, it will just get worst after marriage because then he will think that he OWNS you so he can do whatever he wants to. Please don't become a battered wife who may wind up DEAD at the hands of her husband OR end up killing him. Walk away now while you still can!!!
2006-12-20 11:18:00 · answer #9 · answered by Donna J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, marry him and have a bunch of kids. I'm sure everything will be just fine. ARE YOU FREAKIN' OUT OF YOUR MIND! Under no circumstances should you ever have contact of any kind with this man, unless it is in court when you get a restraining order. Call this number, today. 1-800-799-SAFE
2006-12-20 11:17:42 · answer #10 · answered by redhotsillypepper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he beats on you should wait for him to go to sleep and cut his throat. There is no excuse for a man putting his hands on a woman, unless he just wasnt raised in a good enviroment. But if you want to marry him atleast go have you one more good hot rough hardcore fling before the wedding. But if you marry this child you will wind up either missing,dead, or severely abused. PLEASE DO NOT MARRY A MAN WHO ABUSES YOU
2006-12-20 11:07:45 · answer #11 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋