So my now ex-fiancee suffers from depression and during one of his manic stages he yesterday broke up with me. I know that when he goes back into his depressive stage he'll want me back. So i'm not scared or worried cuz he truly loves me. But when he's manic he does irrational things and it can get ugly. He's my reason for waking up in the morning and when he's not manic he's a wonderful guy and i think god that he's mine. But everytime he's manic he does stupid things and when i try to talk him out of it he breaks up with me. And forgets about the whole thing later cuz he doens't realize he's doing it. How can I help him get help when currently he's manic and we're broken up. I'm scared for his safety. He's truly dangerous but only to himself. He just gets so self destructive.
2006-12-20 10:55:16 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
I meant thank god every day.
2006-12-20 10:57:22 · update #1
Right now he's not on medication. He is completely devoid of meds. I need to know how to get him to go to a doctor to get help and get on the meds.
2006-12-20 11:59:19 · update #2
Learn about Bipolar disorder.
2006-12-20 11:00:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't say how old you are, but I have to ask....are you sure you want to spend the rest of your life in this type of turmoil? I was married for 30 years to a man who was bi-polar, and let me tell you it was not pleasant. The manic phase is bad, but the depressive phase is even worse. As time goes on, the depressions last longer (sometimes as much as 18 to 24 months) and you will have to support him physically, mentally, emotionaly, and financially during that time.
I understand wanting to help someone that you love, but unless he gets help and stays on his medication, you are dooming yourself to a lifetime of pain.
By the way...I would never have divorced him (I made a vow and I keep my word)...he divorced me, and although it was devistating, it was probably for the best.
2006-12-20 11:11:32 · answer #2 · answered by SUSAN N 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am 30 years old and suffered with this terrible affliction. It took a long time but I finally tried medication. Itcan take a while to get the right concoction of a mood stabilizer and antidepreesant but it is saving my life and keeping me managable to be around.. He suffers too as much but more than you. Insist on him getting help or else leave..
2006-12-20 11:04:49 · answer #3 · answered by Rebel-Angel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In America, you can get help if someone is a danger to himself, but are you willing to report him? You should if you feel he is in danger.
If he is willing to take medication for the rest of his life, you can have a future together. If he's not willing to, I think you should listen to the woman who was married to someone like this, walk away and never come back.
As long as he won't take medication, you love the potential in him, you don't love him. You don't even know him, I think.
2006-12-20 16:53:28 · answer #4 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
People who are bi-polar are most often a danger to themselves but, remember they can also be a danger to others. Make sure his medications are in order and he is taking the proper ones to calm his symptoms down.
2006-12-20 11:53:32 · answer #5 · answered by Urchin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
cant help much except encourage him to take his medication and if he has none, to go to hospital for treatment.
Otherwise, I guess you do what you can but it probably is just waiting for an explotion to happen.
2006-12-20 10:59:40 · answer #6 · answered by rostov 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-12-20 11:03:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋