heres is the thing my husban and i are having relationhip problems we are no0t spending much time together because of his work and when he is hme we have a demanding 2 year ol and a newborn so the little hours he is here we have our hands busy so our relatioship is really fragille and in thin ice we have fallen apart because we are together but at the same time so far he is really stres out with his job he is having so much pressure and i want to talk about our relationship but how can i ? he is to stres out alredy and im too im worried about all this i m scared how al relationship will end up any adviced on how everything can wopork out?
2006-12-20 10:53:37 · 8 answers · asked by user 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Slow down.
Seriously, having two children under the age of 3 is enough to wear down ANY relationship! Take a step back, catch your breath, and re-center yourself.
For example, find a babysitter for the weekend and just spend a couple days enjoying each others' company, and TALKING about what's going on in your life and how you feel about things.
Set aside personal time to do things that you enjoy. Even taking 20 minutes every day to sit down and read, knit, do yoga, or whatever can help de-stress.
Also, sit down with your budget and your work schedule. Would it be at all possible to cut back a bit so he could spend more time at home? Let him know what your ideal situation would be, find out what his ideal situation would be, and take baby steps to work towards that. Communication is key. You need to know what he's thinking and let him know what's on your mind.
Good luck!
2006-12-20 10:58:15 · answer #1 · answered by wnk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I love my husband very much but i know that the honey moon is over we have been married for 6 years he works a lot of over time and we have a 3 year old and a 6 month old
2 teenagers and a 20 year old that just move in with us we have no absolutly no time to gether ................. that is until we make a date on fridays or saturdays that is our out of the house timeif only for 1 an1/2 hours even grocery shopping some times or maybe take a shower together or bath together once in a while once a month we go dancing and let the kids watch the baby
I am very demanding and I know he has to work to pay the bills but I need my time and yes you should tell him how you feel so that you two can work out something on your day together even if is just once a month
2006-12-20 19:05:44 · answer #2 · answered by slpry L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one of you needs to put their foot down and have a talk with each other. you guys need to say " ok this is not working and if i love you this much then we have to work out a way to make it work! we need to rearrange some things to help each other out when we are around each other to not feel so caught up in ourselves and feel so stressed. we have kids to think about and as much as we need our jobs, theyre not going to keep us warm at night when it comes to wanting someone their by our side to share all of our problems with! So lets talk about this and make some changes! " you guys are letting the material things get in the way, you need to remember that your foundation has to be love, trust, loyalty and family so stop worrying about the things that are breaking you apart and work on making them better TOGETHER!
2006-12-20 19:02:32 · answer #3 · answered by Chikana24/7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you need to cut some work hours and spend more time at home with kids and in that way your husband would feel better too. May God brings happiness in your lives.
2006-12-20 18:57:28 · answer #4 · answered by Guy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are married and have 2 children what relationship do you want to talk about?, that is the relationship. Stop nagging the man when he comes home.
2006-12-20 18:58:37 · answer #5 · answered by lara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say you and your husband plan a DATE NIGHT once a month just for you and him! Let someone babysit the children and you and him focus on each other and not worry about lifes everyday stresses! GOOD LUCK
2006-12-20 18:58:41 · answer #6 · answered by gizmobonsai 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Deal with it its just a part of life just put some time away when you are both free and make the best of it
2006-12-20 18:57:18 · answer #7 · answered by slp9209 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
work out more time to just have you 2 if you want it and you try alone time is always possible
2006-12-20 18:55:17 · answer #8 · answered by J-Dub 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋