2006-12-20 10:50:04 · 11 answers · asked by William K 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
The Scriptures clearly instruct a true worshipper to marry only another true worshipper.
(Exodus 23:32) You are not to conclude a [marriage or other] covenant with them or their gods.
(Deuteronomy 7:3) And you must form no marriage alliance with [unbelievers]. Your daughter you must not give to his son, and his daughter you must not take for your son.
(1 Corinthians 7:39) She is free to be married to whom she wants, only in the Lord.
(Nehemiah 13:25) You should not give your daughters to [the unbeliever's] sons, and you should not accept any of their daughters for your sons or yourselves.
(2 Corinthians 6:14) Do not become unevenly yoked with unbelievers.
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2006-12-20 12:04:42 · answer #1 · answered by achtung_heiss 7 · 8⤊ 1⤋
She is apparently a committed Witness.Good for her! She will be happy to explain, I would think. But indeed, our young people are encouraged to only date with an eye towards marriage, and then usually in group settings until things progress and get serious. Marriage is hard enough without the differences in religion coming in to play. Jehovah's Witnesses consider their commitment to Jehovah first and foremost in their lives. Your friend goes to 5 meetings a week at her Kingdom Hall. She probably attends assemblies twice a year, and conventions at least once a year. She more than likely spends most of her free time out in field service, sharing what she believes with others. If we yoke ourselves unevenly with someone who does not share that total commitment to Jehovah, it can cause BIG problems! On the other hand, there is nothing nicer than being able to go out in field service with your partner; than sharing prayer before meals and at other times. To know that you do not have to defend the fact that you do not celebrate holidays, or birthdays, because your mate feels and believes the same way. To know that your mate will encourage you when you are out of energy in your service to Jehovah instead of letting you scoot by. All these are points I am sure your friend must have considered. Try talking to her, and see if she doesn't shed some light on this issue! Good luck!
2006-12-20 20:07:04 · answer #2 · answered by themom 6 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Not sure where the question is. I guess it is good that you are drawn to someone with high moral standards. As to not being able to. We all have free will. IF this was not the case there would be no need for laws telling us not to steal. So she is of course free to do as she wishes. When she says she cannot do something she is saying her concience ewill not allow her to do so. If you REALLY are in love with her then you will most likely want to learn about what is important. In that case I suggest you ask her if one of the Brothers from the Hall could come by and talk to you about our beliefs. No it would not be appropriate for her to study with you for a few reasons, One being that you most likely will be to distracted to learn. and No we do not believe in Sex before Marraige.
2006-12-24 01:25:29 · answer #3 · answered by Ish Var Lan Salinger 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how old you are, but your reference to her as a girl and not a woman means you're either a teen or in your early 20s.
For 18 years, I've worked with young men, like yourself, who was "dating" a girl and got her pregnant. Is this you, perhaps not, but the differences in JWs has resulting in them having the lowest rates of out of wed lock birth of any religion. On that note, women age 24-28 have more such birth than teenagers. Currently, half of all such births are out of wedlock. up 100% in the last 15 years.
If you want to know why she believes the way she does, consider studying and learning for yourself. You don't have to become a witnesses, but a little knowledge never hurts.
Just remember, a girl or woman does not have to tell you that she is pregnant with your child. She can wait for up to 23 years and file a retroactive child support order, based on your income at the time.
I have a 27-year-old Michigan man who has been ordered to pay $85,000 retroactive child support for his 15-year-old daughter, whom he didn't know existed. The mother was married at the time she had sex with him, but divorced her husband when the girl turned 15. The husband filed for custody, and learned he was not the girl's father. As a result, the mother couldn't get child support, so she filed against the bio-dad, and won, all the way to the State Supreme Court.
2006-12-20 20:59:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Religion isn't a guarantee of a successful marriage by any means. Tell her she is misapplying the Scripture dealing with being unevenly yoked. More so than that, what makes her think she is so special to be the voice of God in dealing with matters of spirituality. My advice to you is, this girl is too self righteous to even deal with. But ask her this... if she is the one unfaithful, does this mean God tricked me into thinking you were wholesome? This question is basically to show how hypocritical that line of reasoning really is.
2006-12-20 18:57:25 · answer #5 · answered by dirk diggler 1 · 2⤊ 3⤋
good for her. we are very busy people. study for meetings, going to five meetings a week and out in the field service. when we date we meet someone to fall in love with to marry. we don't want to be uneven yoked. even in the bible it tells you to marry in the lord. we rather marry someone who is a Jehovah Witness and have the same interests. www.watchtower.org
2006-12-20 20:20:50 · answer #6 · answered by lover of Jehovah and Jesus 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
to me, personally, I think when any religion tries to control your personal choices in life, it is then considered a cult. If God wanted you only to marry the same religion, he would have said a man should take a wife, but ONLY if they are both catholic, christian, Muslim, whatever. remember, God did not create religions. People did, and if you study, you will see that there are people behind them. Find a common ground. Does it bother her? Can you bend your will? and from my personal knowledge, I was told that if the JW partner marries outside the religion, the family should turn their backs on them both. And that to me, is sick.
2006-12-20 19:05:14 · answer #7 · answered by big mommasweeta 3 · 2⤊ 4⤋
Fold your tent and leave. The JW's are false prophets and you are to have nothing to do with them.
2006-12-23 15:16:38 · answer #8 · answered by Buzz s 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
You were in love, you say?
2006-12-20 18:53:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
What's your question?
2006-12-20 18:53:43 · answer #10 · answered by Allen 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋