My mum is giving my bird away today. She came home last night and told me that she had found a home for him. I have had him a good 8 years and have become more busy in my life. I am 19yrs old, and admit i dont have as much time for him as I use to. But is it not wrong that she goes out and finds a new home for him without discussing it with me first or should i be grateful someone can spend more time with him?? He will be gone when I get home from work.... ( p.s I also got 2 cats in the last 12mths that would luv to eat him up for supper so havent been able to get him out of his cage - its not out of neglect!)
2006-12-20 10:49:07 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pets ➔ Birds
It is my place...she moved in with me!!! I moved out in Jan, but she moved in, in November to be closer to her work.
2006-12-20 10:55:43 · update #1
You are 19. If you want your bird you should get your own place. It is her house and she is nice enough to let you stay there. If you are too busy, why not find it a good home? Sorry, if you were younger I would think differently.
Correction- if it is your place, she is completely out of line. That was very wrong of her and she should have talked to you.
2006-12-20 10:53:45 · answer #1 · answered by dietcokes4me 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. Your mother had no right to give your property away (I realise it was a pet but legally it was your "property").
2. If she were truly concerned about the welfare of the animal she would have bounced the idea off you FIRST. Then, with your PERMISSION the animal could be taken to it's new home (which you had checked out beforehand and APPROVED). Just because someone is willing to take a free bird and cage set-up doesn't necessarily mean that they will provide a wonderful home for it, especially in the long-term.
3. It doesn't appear you cared very much for your bird's welfare in the first place: " I also got 2 cats in the last 12mths that would luv to eat him..." Sorry but nobody forced the two cats on you: your alliegance was to your existing pet FIRST. The fact that you neglected to do the right thing is NEGLECT/
2006-12-21 15:14:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both. You have every right to be upset that your mom didn't talk to you about it before, but at the same time, you must look at the bigger picture. No matter how much you love your bird, that won't make up for not spending time with it. Birds need attention and TLC, and if you can't provide that for it, he will be better off with someone else. Your mom is doing the right thing, even if she has gone about it in a very bad way.
I'm sorry about you losing your bird, but I think he will be happier with someone who is less busy than you.
2006-12-20 10:53:24 · answer #3 · answered by G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a great lesson in letting go. There are many "things" that come into our lives, and when it's time to let go most of us cling to it, even though those "things" don't really matter in our lives any more.
Be thankful that you had the bird as long as you did, cherish the memories (and don't forget to tell stories of the wacky things the bird did, like pooping on Uncle Ben's shoulder that Xmas). It's a nice lesson, and the bird will (hopefully) have a better life, too. It's tough being cooped up in a cage all day--even if it is a gilded cage.
2006-12-20 10:59:02 · answer #4 · answered by Peter S 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's your house, it's your bird. That means you mother is a guest there and if she doesn't like the bird, she can leave. You pay the bills, you make the rules. Don't let her intimidate you. Just because she's your mom doesn't mean she has the right to tell you what to do anymore. And just for the record, I have a 20 year old son and feel the same way about him and his house.
2006-12-20 13:07:53 · answer #5 · answered by Tina 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's sad. I personally think that it is wrong that she did that with out asking. Talk to her. Ask her why she did that and ask if next time she could please consider your feelings. It may be better this way. What if your cats ate him/her? Then you would feel bad. Ask the new owner if you could visit sometime. If you really cant give him/her away, talk to your mom about it. Say your sorry that you have been so busy but that your willing to rework your schedule. When you come home feed and water and take out your pet. Just talk it out.
Hope this helps!
--Meg
2006-12-20 10:55:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are supporting yourself and your mom is a guest in your home, she has absolutely no right to give your stuff away without your permission. This includes your bird.
However, if you agree that the bird will be better off in the new home, then that is ok.
2006-12-20 15:30:53 · answer #7 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh Man So Sorry to hear that Hide your bird somewhere Say mum i gave it away for free!!!
2006-12-20 10:51:22 · answer #8 · answered by cec4jake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is your house and you are paying your own way, I would say your mum is way out of line.
2006-12-22 16:18:27 · answer #9 · answered by hoodoowoman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU ASK YOUR MUM WHY IS SHE GIVING HIM AWAY. U CAN ASK HER IF SHE CAN BRING IT OVER YOUR HOUSE IF U HAVE ONE!UH YEAH T.M.I.
TO MUCH INFORMATION
2006-12-20 11:01:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋