Most of my life my parents move around alot so i was really not able to be at one school for more than 1 year before we moved so it was hard for me to make and keep friends without feeling hurt after i didn't see them again. I come to this site hoping to give my frienddly ear to those seeking advice about their problems. I get a great sensation of goodness after i answer others questions but- my family & BF of 4 years thinks it's dumb and stupid for me to come to yahoo answers to ANSWER peoples' questions. How can i make friends?? in most of my high school years i maintained about 1-2 good friends & that's it but- i wans't necesarily their best friend but because they were my only friends i considered them by best friend. I'm a single mom of a 4 year old so you tell me- how can i make friends?? My BF is 29 and has tons of friends and he shoves in my face that i have no friends. My bro's and sister have lots of friends but i don't. What's wrong with me? do you think i might need
2006-12-20 10:46:52 · 17 answers · asked by Cheesy Stuff 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
do you think i might need therapy because I'm "anti social" like my BF says i am. When he reminds me that i have no friends i break down and cry because i want to have friends but seem like people don't know what friendships are all about and call a friend to just anyone they know just cuz they know them and not because they've helped them or given them a gallon of milk when in need. What is your take on this?
2006-12-20 10:48:39 · update #1
Another thing- When i'm nice to people men or women my BF wonders why i'm being nice to them? how can i go about my BF not being so "picky" about who i decide to have as a friend. I find myself visiting family alot because i have nothing else to do. Sometime i even take them places and buy them stuff so they can like me or want to hang out with me but- when i have a problem- no one wants to help me but whent hey ahve a problem i do whatever it takes to be there for them even if I have my lat$20 on my pocket- I'm willing to give it to them if i know it's gonna help them. Is this wrong? Am i being too nice? or people jsut taking advantage of me?
2006-12-20 10:51:50 · update #2
Aww Cheeseball, different people have different needs. I'm so fortunate, I've got several what I would call best friends. We don't live in each others pockets, we all have our own lives - but if any of them need anything, they know where I am and vice versa. It does sound like you could do with making a few friends, even though I don't think there is anything wrong in answering questions on here, you have to remember most people are only amusing themselves. Perhaps when you take your little girl to nursery or school, there are other mums who might need to see a friendly face and make more friends. Whilst its great to be a 'best friend' try not to come over too desperate though as this would put most people straight off. I'm sorry your boyfriend is such a prat that he constantly pushes the fact you haven't many friends in your face. I only hope you're not with him just for the sake of it. Be friendly, optimistic, learn how to keep confidences - friendship will follow............. good luck
2006-12-20 10:54:59 · answer #1 · answered by Agony Aunt 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have more than one problem here!!!!First of all, be proud of the 1 or 2 friends you DO have and don't let your "boyfriend" put you down. As you get older, your circle of friends most of the time will become smaller...that's life. However, you shouldn't try doing favors for people to become friends with them-that can lead to big problems and being stuck with not-so-good people as friends! Counseling may be a good thing for you, simply because you may have a social anxiety disorder-it's more common than you may think. Don't go hunting for friends....a friendship just happens. You can put yourself in an environment to meet friends though, like school or work. I think when you stop trying so hard to fiend people to be friends with and you are just yourself things will work out for you. Hang in there...good friends are hard to find. Believe me, I KNOW. I can tell you from experience that most friends come and go. Be thankful you have family . Family is all some people have. A lot of people are best friends with their brother or sister or cousin....don't stress, I am confident you will find friends
2006-12-20 11:31:46 · answer #2 · answered by BUTTERCUP 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The easiest way to make friends is to be yourself and don't let others take advantage of you. Also try to find a group that you'll fit in. For instance say you like hip hop music, find others who like hip hop music also. The best place to find friends is at church. But if your not in to church you can find friends anywhere. Try talking to other people, getting to know others. Start with the people in your neighborhood first. one day while just sitting around with nothing to do walk over to a neighbors house and chat with them for awhile maybe you guys will become friends. Good Luck I know there is a true friend lurking around.
2006-12-20 10:57:11 · answer #3 · answered by lil-a 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This may sound simplistic, but the best way to make friends is to be one. Get involved with a group of some sort - volunteers, churches, birdwatchers, whatever you like to do find some other people who do it and hang out with them. Be friendly, be yourself, have fun. The friendships will happen if you let them.
2006-12-20 10:50:06 · answer #4 · answered by My Evil Twin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The tricks is > is to open your innerself,when you are around ppl. when I am in supermakets or department stores,I project inner happiness,ppl smile at me like they know me for a long time.ppl are helpfull.At work I was always invited to their partys, one of the best trick too is you must have sense of humor.Why don't you have a little get together with your bf friends,at home? that's for start,befriend the mothers of your kid's playmates, or school mates, soon You'll have a lots and lots of friends.
2006-12-20 11:14:19 · answer #5 · answered by Vannili 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
True friendships can take years to develop don't throw your heart out there to everyone you meet, but be polite, friendly & always smile you will meet some great people.You are the one that chooses who you have in your life so if you have a funny feeling follow your gut!!
2006-12-20 10:59:54 · answer #6 · answered by Moe 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You say your bf is shoves in your face that he has tons of friends - well, he is not a friend. To have friends, you must first be a friend. Be interested in other people -their feelings, thoughts, interests, etc. That is how get get and keep friends.
2006-12-20 10:51:31 · answer #7 · answered by ra63 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1) tear yourself away from your computer
2) join clubs!
3) muster the confidence to approach strangers
Hearing about your situation, it doesn't sound like you have the luxury to be shy. You HAVE to be confident enough to approach people that you don't know well, but not bitchy or overbearing at the same time. I feel for you, it's a difficult balance.
2006-12-20 10:50:27 · answer #8 · answered by John C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u gotttaaa talk to people. start by saying hi and smiling. this lets them know ur open for a talk. and apparently ur BF is not very respectful, he should be helping u not shoving his "greatness" in ur face. but anyways u just need to talk to people, waving is good too =) good luck!
2006-12-20 10:51:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if ur bf shoves it in ur face, that doesnt sound to nice. the best way is to join some activities on saturdays or something. maybe an art class or an acting class. anythign ur interested in. its a good way to make a quick friend, btu u would see them everyweek makign u guys closer and closer.
2006-12-20 10:49:53 · answer #10 · answered by beatles luver 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋