How mad should I be?

Question

I don’t have insurance and my mom and I go to the same shrink. I have been having some serious problems lately so we made an appt to go together today at 6:30 after I get out of work. The boss has recently spoken to me about leaving for dr appts and said “NO MORE.” Yesterday my mom goes and changes the appt without telling me to 3:30. I can’t get out of work! I called and tried to get the 6:30 appt back but they had already filled it. Today is the last day before they close for 2 weeks and the dr. absolutely refuses to see me. I need a dr.’s help. Meanwhile, my mom is going to skate to her 3:30 appt (which she DOESN’T really need.) I feel totally screwed by my mom.

Answer 1

I wouldn't talk to your mother for a month. She thrives on feeling like she is a "mother" [ir]regardless SIC of how much she doens't favor you. Unfortunatly, your mother doens't respond to direct communication. Like a dog, she needs to have her nose put in her poop and spanked across the ***.

Answer 2

Are you over 18 ?
If so your mom is not responsible for providing for shrinks for you and having shared her time already, you should be appreciative . . . but instead you sound like an ingrate.
Maybe you need to grow up , and maybe moms problem is letting you cling on like a 2 yr old for so long . She doesn't 'really need' her appointment ? , yes , she does ,
she has been letting her adult child act like a 2 yr old . . . your mom does need help , although maybe changing the appt to 3:30 was her getting smart.
Congratulations mom !

Answer 3

If you need a doctor's help ASAP, there are plenty of community resources (some are free or cheap), or hotlines. Being the holiday season, it will be very difficult to get a last minute appointment, but you may be able to make one with a different doctor. As for your mom, I would explain to her why you couldn't make the 3:30 appt., and just tell her that it hurt your feelings. But I wouldn't stress over it... if she's going to disregard your schedule, then you should just worry about getting help for yourself.

Answer 4

Sweetheart, You are being completely WALKED over.
Its you're RIGHT as a human being to go to the doctor as often as is required and ure boss has NO obligation to say otherwise.
I believe at this time, ure mother isnt helping you out in any way and should start acting like a mother and stop putting her own selfish needs in front of her daughters. I suggest arranging a written letter from you're boss, explaining to the phychiatrist why he wont let you go. TRUST me babe. That will give him a good fright. know ure rights!!!!!! Just approach him nice and calmly and ask him for the letter of explaination. As an employer, he HAS to produce one. If he hassels you, that is called Harrassment. If he fires you, its called unfair dismissal. Either way, if he doesnt let you go, you could take him to court and YOU will NO DOUBT win. He knows this. If you missed the appointment over ure boss, tell him you need it in writing explaining why. He KNOWS this is youre right. Make sure to explain to the phyciatrist about ure bosses greedy christmas money-mind and that he is violating health and safety regulations. Breaking the LAW. You can do this. I believe in you.
All the best darling and DONT let them stress you out.
xxxxxxxtomi

Answer 5

Well this is your mom's insurance and your mom's shrink. Did you talk to her about your work saying that you can't get out early to go to your doctor appointments???? If she did not know how can you be mad at her. And who are you to decide if she needs her appointment or not?? Stop and think about it for a while, if you are mad be mad but don't displace your anger on your mom

Answer 6

Do you always debate how you should feel?

Just be... just be here, experience that... and if you do that enough, you may not need a shrink.

Suffering is caused by a false sense of who you are. You can find the truth of who you are by doing what I said above.

Answer 7

your mom is selfish is this why you have problems? i put my kids first ALWAYS!