Am I wrong?

Question

my father-n-law is married to a wonderful woman who I have become very good friends with. They have been married this time for 2 years. They were married ten yrs ago but got divorced. in this ten year time he has had multiple (tmtc) women in his life. Just found out that he has been having an affair with a woman who has lots of money(which his father has bad credit and is sinking!) and has been having this affair now for four months now. He wants me and my husband to come to this womans house for holiday dinner! I am appalled with this! Am I wrong? I am very good friends with my husbands stepmom and he loves her too, but he has this child-like view of his father being "An Awesome"guy rather than the womanizing loser that I see. My fathernlaw has a problem with being a nympho and admits it...but he refuses counseling and i think by supporting this that we are enabling him!

Answer 1

You are definably right, by going to this other woman's house you are enabling him and disrespecting your Mom in Law. Your husband, his son, needs to understand that this is wrong, nothing good will come out of it. Another thing, to me this means, that your husband can do the same thing and find nothing wrong with it in the future. You need to sit your husband down, and drill this in his head. If you go to this woman's house, it is just like saying it is OK for Dad to do it and for him to do it also. Don't let them sway your mind about going. Stand your ground, and tell your husband if he goes, you will do something, (think of something that will hurt his feelings). Tell him you will not stand for such a thing. You are the one that is morally correct here. Not his dad or him. Stay on task, and do not go.

Answer 2

i agree with you 100%. i would not even consider spending time with this other woman. and i would worry about your husband admiring his dad in such a way...... remember, the apple doesn't fall far from the tree.