Me and my ex girlfriend broke up about a month ago and she has a new boyfriend. When she told me this I didn't care. I saw them together a week ago and since then I have been feeling worse and worse going through longer and longer periods of suicidal depression and finding it harder to sleep as each night passes and I don't know why this is happening.
When I have broke up with girlfriends in the past this has never happened. So why is it happening this time and is there anything that can make this stop?
2006-12-20 09:49:01 · 22 answers · asked by Alistair 6 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I don't know why I wasn't bothered at first
Is it possible that when I saw them together the reality of it hit me.
2006-12-20 09:56:41 · update #1
Firstly, can I just say I'm sorry that so many posters have posted negative answers to your question. Please IGNORE them, they are the ones who need to grow up and realise that not everything in life affects the next person in the same way as it does them.
Secondly, as many of the more understanding posters have already put, you should go and see your GP as soon as possible, preferably tomorrow (get an emergency appointment). It does sound like you are suffering from a depressive episode and you should go and see someone as it is not right to feel the way you do for such long periods of time. They might suggest anti-depressants or counselling, or both together, which in my mind is the better option. If between now and then you feel suicidal, PLEASE pick up the phone to someone, friend/family whoever. You do not have to go through this alone. Take Care.
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2006-12-20 10:31:19 · answer #1 · answered by Pickle 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the fact that you saw her with someone else made you realize you cared for her still and you became jealous. Then the jealousy turned to you feeling sad about having split up with her and now you wish you hadn't. Regardless, you seriously need to seek some professional help. It is not good to say that you are feeling suicidal. No one is worth going to that length for and it is a selfish act. The only thing suicide does is leave behind a lot of very sad people who are forever left wondering "why" it is a very bad idea. Please seek help for your depression pronto!
2006-12-20 10:02:03 · answer #2 · answered by Janine E 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you gone out to enjoy yourself since the break-up? Have you tried seeing other people? You may just need to go out enjoy yourself around people that the both of you DO NOT! associate with.When you have to separate from some one that you had strong feelings for it is hard to see them with some one else and she started seeing someone else immediately after you broke up! Having thoughts of suicide is not that rare, everyone (although some will not admit) has thoughts of suicide. I don't really know your whole situation, but it sounds to me like you thought of her as more than a girl friend. For some one to truly be able to help you you need to give more detail.
2006-12-20 10:13:33 · answer #3 · answered by no.#1 Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ego has been bruised because you girlfriend has taken up with someone else so soon. Of course you didn't react when she told you, it came out of the blue and didn't seem real. This was shattered when you saw them for real. Distract yourself as much as you can, go out with friends, exercise and eventually meet someone new. Don't consume yourself with self pity and regret that is the road to hell, be positive and find the positives in your situation. Presumably your relationship ended for good reasons remember them!
2006-12-20 09:55:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all i am sorry about your brakeup..Please seek medical help,you sond depreseed,and i know from expirience,its easy to get into but far harder to get out of.This girl meant a lot to you,but she is now with someone else,and it must have felt horrile seeing them together.Ask yourself,if its worth worrying about.The same happened to my daughter 2 years ago,and she nearlly went to the wall,i used to tell her someone else will come along,But at that time she didnt want to know.After 9 months of being misserable and lonely she met this guy throgh work.and she is ever so happy with him,She went on holiday to Cyprus with two girl friends,and the shock she had her x boyfriend was on the same plane with his new girl friend.She felt gutted ,but as time passes YOU too will find someone else .good luck to you and i hope you have a happy christmas.
2006-12-21 02:56:00 · answer #5 · answered by Linda 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is this woman better looking than the
others or did u feel a stronger bond with her?
of cours part of our romantic feelings are real but another
part is just like desire
for a material posession--u'l probably be hurt if ur xpensiv
new car were totaled but u probably wont feel like
endin ur life for it woud u?
in this life its much better to enjoy people and things
but dont get attached, becus unless ur spiritualy enlightend
everythin will go away
2006-12-20 10:42:31 · answer #6 · answered by enigma q 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how long were u together? if its a long time then yes it will bother u. if ur relationship was on n off a lot then u feeling depressed now is because shes moved on and u have seen it. ur turn to move on now, takes time to get over it but u'll meet someone new in time
2006-12-20 09:59:13 · answer #7 · answered by mishnbong 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go see a doc u need help he may prescribe u wiv antidepressants or a coucellor and obvisually ur past girlfriends didnt mean as much to u as this girl did but u should really get on wiv ur life and give that love to some1 who will appreciate it
good luck
2006-12-20 09:53:15 · answer #8 · answered by amanda030605 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depression as a result of a breakup is normal. Its part of your development from a boy into a man I think.
I expect you are secretly angry with yourself for not being good enough for her. But you'll get over it for sure.
But as you are having suicidal thoughts I think it might be sensible to try some SSRI antidepressant medication to help you over the worst of it. It takes 2 weeks to start to take effect.
Hang in there my son. You'll be allright...
2006-12-20 10:35:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell those suicidal thought's where to go!
Listen, you'll be fine! you just have to wait this out, it wont hurt like this forever...............I know it seems like it will!
Time will heal this one, believe me I know, the way I feel now compared to the way I felt one year ago is night and day.
Dont let your emotions run away with you.
Hope this helps, I know how rotten it is.
2006-12-21 02:15:07 · answer #10 · answered by kez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋