What am I suppose to do here?

Question

I'm suppose to go meet my boyfriend's parents on Christmas, after our Christmas dinner. What am I suppose to wear, how am I suppos e to act, etc... They had invited me over for this day. Please, someone give me some advice 'cause I'm nervous as hell!!! My boyfriend's 29 and I'm 19! Please don't lecture me on the age gap, but concentrate more on meeting his parents.

Answer 1

What you wear should be neat and clean lined. Something traditional then add an accessory such as a bag that fits your personality. Be polite and respectful remember no two humun beings are alike or have the same opinions. Be a lady but allow part of your personality to be within that rehelm. Be yourself with-in the guidelines and you'll be fine... do bring a hostess gift, just something small that would fit thier personality or lifestyle. A simple ornament for thier tree would be suitable, leave the big stuff up to your boyfriend. And remember he is your boyfriend they are not, so stay in the guidelines but be yourself as much as possiable. Afterall it isn't them you are dating but do use respect for his parents.

Answer 2

Ask your boyfriend what type of dress they usually have for these occasions. If he gives you a typically male answer that doesn't do it for you, then you may have to call his mom and ask her.
If they invited you personally, that would be appropriate, but if only your boyfriend invited you, then you may be stuck with his answer.
How does your boyfriend act? Does he have manners and show respect at all times? If so, and you don't, then you may have a tough time making a good impression. If you both act about the same way, then just be yourself and try to relax!
The biggest social mistake that people make is to try and be someone they aren't. It never works and then they come off looking like a fake.
From experience, I can tell you that any social gathering which involves people you have never met, is a learning experience which happens as you go along. This is true for everything from holiday dinners to office parties.
Just start off on your best manners and then try to blend in as things warm up. Remember though, being yourself still involves self restraint. I would keep an eye on my language even after you feel comfortable with them, and don't tell outrageous stories of your life until the second or third meeting. And please, if they serve alcohol and you have any, don't hang from the chandelier, no matter how funny they may think it is at the time! The next day they will not see it in the same light.

Answer 3

You should dress nice and be polite, like you would when meeting anyone you want to impress. You should probably act as much like you normally would as possible (the way you would around your own parents), so they can get a sense of who you really are. Don't worry about the age difference at all. If you're not concerned about it, and your boyfriend's not concerned about it, why should his parents be concerned? If you make a big deal out of it, though, it'll be a big deal for everyone.

You're better off not worrying about it, and thereby demonstrating your level of maturity. You can admit that there's an age difference, but you don't have to assume it's a problem. If his parents have an issue, address it calmly and rationally. If it's not a big deal to you and your boyfrined, then really, why should you care what his parents think? Relax!

Answer 4

Since you seem to be more focused on how to present yourself and be accepted rather than making a statement about who you are I suggest that you dress to the parents expectations. Find out how they will be dressed. Is this casual, semi-formal or formal. Ask the Mom what she will be wearing. If he has siblings a sister would be a good one to talk to. This can allow you to be accepted while they get a chance to know the real you.

Dressing to establish some common denominators is great to break the ice. It is important to be yourself though and remember that you are more than acceptable to your boyfriend. You have already passed the most important test and if you are to have a future then building your foundation with the parents based on truth is always best. Whether they like you or not, accept you or not at least they will be basing their opinion on who you really are.

The best you can do is to be who you are. Whether they accept you or not you at least you have shown them honor and respect by being you and not presenting a lie. Believe in what you bring to this relationship. You have value and are an asset to their son, otherwise you would not be seeing Mom and Dad.

God bless you, relax and just be you. Everything will work out.

Answer 5

As an invitee to someone else's home on such an occasion, modesty would be the key word. If I were you, I would wear a skirt that covers the knees, or trousers that are neither denim nor close-fitting. I would also pair that with neat little jacket. Wear a nice top which is not too revealing. On such an occasion, stick to sober colours like black, brown or dark blue. Wear shoes that look sensible; nothing faddish pls.

Answer 6

Wear a nice dress or skirt and top and shoes, do not go sloppy or and wear any thing that shows off too much **** etc. Listen when some one talks and only answer when you have thought about the answer, and do not drink lots alcohol
As these times can make one very nervous, just stop and take a deep breath and think they are only humans just like you

Answer 7

Relax. Dress casually dressy - like for a job interview, and be on your job interview behavior. Follow BF's lead. Tell him you are nervous and ask him for some tips for the parents. Don't read too much into anything that happens. First meets are always awkward, for both.

Try and have fun.

Answer 8

Wear a nice sweater that does not show too much cleavage and a nice pair of black pants. You don't have to wear a suit but you want to look like an adult not a typical 19 year old.

Answer 9

I think the best one to ask would be your boyfriend.