I am 27 years old with a 5 year old son. He was a planned pregnancy. Anyhow i cannot make up my mind if i want to have another kid or not. I have not been on birth control in atleast 6-7 years and yes i have been pregnant since my son but i miscarried it at 5 weeks.
Sometimes i feel like i am just not meant to have anymore because why haven't i had another baby in this many years when my husband and i just use the "Pull & Pray method"?
Do you really believe it is really needed to have another kid? Will my son be missing out on a sibling?
Do any of you believe that you are meant to just have one kid? Wonder how i can make up my mind as to if i want another one or not cause if i did have another baby i would like to be i turn 30 and that will be in 3 years.
Thanks
2006-12-20 09:32:06 · 14 answers · asked by ஐ♥Julian'sMommy♥ஐ 7 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
This is an extremely personal question so, as far as whether you want kids, I can't answer that.
However, I can tell you that it is not absolutely necessary for you to have more children. Being an only child or having siblings each have their own pros and cons. I am an only child and don't feel like i missed out on anything. I learned how to be independent and now all my friends are my extended family (this is obviously only a couple of things).
Heck...you've got plenty of time to decide.
2006-12-20 09:38:57 · answer #1 · answered by mrs. possum 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My son was an only child for many years, and when his mother remarried and had more children, he loved it. Other children don't mind being the only child, and some wish they were only children! :-)
It comes down to what you feel is best for the family and you (after all, YOU are going to be carrying the growing child for ~9 months and going through the dangerous [relative to all other mammals and primates] delivery). What do you feel deep down inside? Do you want more children? Ambivolent? Really want another (or 2) children?
How about your husband? Is he hungaring for another child?
If you are going to stay with only one child, make sure that he has a lot of children his own age to play with (there are very important skills he needs to develop).
Ultimately, it's your choice. It's your body. It's your family. I know you'll make the right one--for you.
2006-12-20 17:40:53 · answer #2 · answered by Peter S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is your decision to make, I have 2 boys and i feel like there is still someone missing from our family and i would like to have a 3rd. Do you think your family is complete? Or do you think of another little one running around your house? I think all kids should have siblings, sometimes family is all you got. But then again you dont have to worry about them fighting and you can give all your attention to that one child instead of halving it. I think that you have 13 more years of child bearing age and if you are not ready then wait you still have time to think about it. Good luck in what ever decesion you make
2006-12-20 19:47:28 · answer #3 · answered by Kendra M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a personal choice. I personally believe that children should have siblings if for no other reason than to have that companionship. It took me 7 years to decide to have another but I finallly did it and I think it was a great decision. They are far apart in age but they are the best of friends.
2006-12-20 17:40:15 · answer #4 · answered by truly_insightful 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have one 8 year old.same circumstances as u.had miscarriage when she was young.didnt have another.now everyday i wish id had another.not for my sake.but for my daughter.i can live with one.but i think about her future all the time.who will she have to lean on thru hard times?i feel guilt over it all the time.we try be social so she has lots of friends around all the time.but its not the same as having a blood relative in times of need when we are gone
2006-12-20 17:41:57 · answer #5 · answered by sunshine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You still have plenty of time so if you are not sure now..then wait. I didnt have my first until 28 and my 2nd was born 4 years later.
2006-12-21 09:18:45 · answer #6 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're having doubts, then don't have another one. If you happy with one, then stick with one. There's no requirement or quota to reach. If you're happy than stick with where you are, except get on some birth control.
2006-12-20 17:36:49 · answer #7 · answered by Amber W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I may.
I had a second child and, although I love her dearly, I think that you would be better off with the lone child. I should have stuck to my guns
At this age gap, the sibling will be viewed as an annoyance.
2006-12-20 17:34:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
i have one kid and that is all that i want to have it is all up to u if u think that you want to have more then do so there are some things to look at befor haveing more but well talk about that soon
2006-12-20 17:42:28 · answer #9 · answered by megryanmc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have one kid and plan to have only one kid. my parents are divorced and i was an only child for eight years until my mom remarried. i still miss being an only child!
2006-12-20 17:35:45 · answer #10 · answered by grandpasboots 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋