it is boring me..I mean i love my son so much and we spend quite a bit of time together throughout the day...but i need to do things and he's not satisfied unless he's held..help please thanks;)
2006-12-20 09:28:38 · 7 answers · asked by umarkwithpens 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Your son is at the stage where he actually understands fear (this is the first real sign of intelligence as he is finally smart enough to know what to be afraid of). He needs you for comfort. Hold him. Best bet, hold him on the floor or sit next to him. Soon he will start to venture out more and need you less. If all else fails, learn to do things one handed or buy a backpack carrier.
2006-12-20 09:38:57 · answer #1 · answered by smartygirl 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I have heard two schools of thought on this. One is he needs to learn to self soothe, to be independent, so stay close by and talk to him but let him fuss a bit.
The second is that at this age they are developing there sense of trust and he will be more confidant and well adjusted later if you hold him or "wear" him. (like a baby sling) They say they will sleep better and be less fussy.
I think it is for you to decide which you agree with.
I have 3 kids and my 3rd child I "wear". I have several baby slings and carriers which are very comfortable and my child loves to be close to me. I am still able to do things as my hands are free. He has turned out to be the most calm and pleasant tempered of my 3 kids.
look at www.mybabynest.com I love these carriers!
2006-12-20 19:25:51 · answer #2 · answered by meow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain!!! My 14 month son old is still that way. I have tried letting him cry for a little bit-he will keep crying. But sometimes you have to get things done in your house that you can't do while carrying a baby. When I put him down he cries but I talk to him while I am doing whatever it is that I have to get done. I think that gives him the reassurance that I am not leaving him and allows me to get things done. The downside is that he cries for 10-15 minutes. Good Luck!
2006-12-21 03:53:13 · answer #3 · answered by Danny A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to quit holding him so much. He needs to learn that it's okay for him to be away from you. Usually babies go through a stage (around 6 or 7 months of age) where they need to be held constantly because of separation anxiety. But, at 11 months old he is old enough to know that mommy isn't going anywhere just because she isn't holding you.
Set him on the floor and go about your business. Talk to him, sing with him, say things like "I see you!" so he can know that you are still paying attention to him even though you aren't holding him. If he cries--let him. He will quit crying when he realizes that he is okay.
2006-12-20 17:34:10 · answer #4 · answered by CelebrateMeHome 6 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Put him in a backpack carrier.
He doesn't *want* to be held he *needs* to be held. This phase will pass soon, probably when he starts walking.
2006-12-20 17:36:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
me too... all the time. but I dont care becasue he will only be little like this for a short time so I am trying to enjoy the time that he loves momma not dadda
2006-12-20 17:31:39 · answer #6 · answered by TalonsMomma 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let him cry...
2006-12-20 17:46:25 · answer #7 · answered by Kat0312 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋