Cheating? What do you think?

Question

I know, I know, I hate these types of questions too. But I want everyone to give their honest opinion. If the general consensus is yes, then I'm printing this and handing it over to him.

First thing's first, he doesn't have sex with me.
And secondly, he's given me an explanation for everything listed here, but I still have a hard time believing him. So, what do you think?

-Opened condom wrapper on floor, not the kind we use or have used in the past. (His explanation: It was one we used, I just don't remember)

-Unopened condom in his wallet, put there before he spends the weekend out of town with his friends. (His explanation: He put it in there so we could use it)

-Shaved his, ahem, while I was out of state. (His explanation: It was for me)

-A small wooden jewlery bead in our bed. Not from my jewlery or his. (His explanation: He had no explanation)

Maybe I'm just paranoid.

Wow, what a good turnout. I'm really appreciating everyone's answers so far. Thanks for the honesty, keep 'em coming.

Answer 1

That wrapper was one we used! The one in my wallet? What are you doing going through my wallet? The bead beside the bed? I broke one of your necklaces and didn't want you to find out. And my man-parts? I don't like hair in my mouth any more than you. I did it for you baby!!

Answer 2

Okay, I'm not sure if anyone has covered this, as I'm a little tired to read all 40+ answers, but there's an easy way to tell if he's lying.

Let's say he's right handed. Next time he gives you another one of his excuse, look to where he's looking when he says it. If he's looking to his right, that means he's lying because that's the creative side of the brain. If he's left-handed, then it's the left side. Also (and you girls can multi-task a lot better than guys), listen for any changes in the past and present tense words that he's using. If it changes from past to present and vice-versa, that's another sign that he's lying. Don't mistake this for constantly using the present tense though, as some people still have grammar problems, and I don't know if your boyfriend is one of those people.

And what kind of dude wouldn't want to have sex with you? Is he gay? What the hell...? If you live in Toronto, I'd take you for a ride...............to a Niagara Falls Italian restaurant and serenade you with a violin player and those guys who sing tenor in front of the falls. Okay, that joke is much better done when it's said....

Answer 3

If the situation doesn't feel right or look right, chances are it's not right. If he's not having sex with you, what's an open condom wrapper doing around? He shaved his s**t and then said it was for you. What a dork. He should have let you do that. Girl, you are getting played for a sucker so bad. Hey, since you're going to print this for him to see....Dude, you are one stupid mother f*cker. You see the woman you have in front of you? You aren't going to do any better anywhere else. By the way, you should have kept shaving until you shaved your little d*ck right off. Women are a thing of beauty and should be treated with respect. Don't play around. Or the next time you go down on her, you're liable to be tasting another guy's ****. One good turn deserves another, right?

Answer 4

I'm sorry to say that the odds are against him. Is this your boyfriend, long term live-in, husband? Whatever the case, you need to sit him down and have a calm talk...tell him that you both need to be honest with each other and not waste your time being together if he wants to be with other women. Tell him your honest feelings (but try not to cry) and encourage him to share his.

But if he refuses to talk it out...you may have no choice but to end this. The only cheater (if you're married) who deserves forgiveness (yes, I said it) is one who can admit he (or she) made a mistake and who can prove that he'd (or she'd) never do it again. If you're not married (and maybe even if you are) now might just be a good time to move on and find a man who loves you enough to be faithful.

But don't make such a huge decision based on what everyone in here has to say....follow your heart and conscience...and pray about it.

Answer 5

honey he is deffinatley cheating....No man in there right mind if he is dating or living with someone would have a condom in his wallet...and the wooden jewelry there was deffinatly another woman in your bed....used condom wrapper that is not he kind you use...that was the first sign that this guy is a really big pig and he need to try and perfect his lying techniques because my 5 year old can lie better than that....
the shaving of his nether regions while he was outta state could have been a dare from his buddies but more than likely the woman or man that he was with did not like having fur when they went down on him tho give him a bj.....if it was for you he would have done it while he was at home for you.....
Darling you need to dump this a@@hole and find yourself a real man....Good Luck

Answer 6

As a woman, I have to say that we usually remember the condoms that we use and don't use and if you're not really having sex than his explanations make no sense... why would there be a condom on the floor if you're not using them lately and why would he shave his "ahem" for you when he's not going to be using it with you? It doesn't make sense. As for him keeping the condom in his wallet.. do you regularly have sex outside of the home in random places where you wouldn't have a condom handy that he would need to carry one? I sure don't. We keep our condoms in the bathroom and my boyfriend has no need to carry one in his wallet because we don't make a habit of having sex outside of the home. That sounds like bs to me.

The gist of it is, his excuses suck and you should trust your instinct. It's a very rare occasion when a woman's instinct is wrong. Good luck!

Answer 7

Honey if you have already got evidence he's dishonest ("So I feel my bf is dishonest doing the net factor I do have evidence, however he hides his "cookies" temp records that may hint what you're doing on-line.. ") why could you desire to retain torturing your self watching for extra proof? Just kick him to the decrease noone merits to be cheated on. I recognise its less complicated stated than performed considering that I'm certain you like him, however love your self extra. No man is ever valued at your tears.

Answer 8

First of all if you are not having sex then why is he carrying around condoms? He is going out of town with friends and condoms. Shaved his th**gy. Why not hire a detective and catch him red faced then get rid of him. If you are doing without and he is getting this is not much of a marriage.Blow up all these condoms and decorate your home for the holidays.Better luck next time!

Answer 9

It might kill you to get rid of him, but deep down you know that's what you have to do. You just have to come to terms with yourself that you're not in a good or healthy relationship. You deserve more than the bullsh!t he's attempting to feed you. He's the one with the problem, so get a new man and get yourself laid, or stick to yourself for a while. Whatever makes YOU happy and no one else. Good luck!

Answer 10

Could all be very innocent. What you have to decide is weather you want to give him the benefit of the doubt. Ask yourself if it's worth staying with this guy even if he's not telling the Truth. If the answer is no..then maybe it's time to move on. you have to be able to trust each other for your relationship to grow.