It makes me so sad to hear teenagers saying....?

Question

that their family HATES them, do you think that's really possible or are they jus tbeing teenagers thinking that the whole worlds against them....Do you really think it's possible for a parent to hate their own child?

I'm not saying that they hate them because they won't let them do something or go somwhere...they honestly believe their family hate them as a person...I was talking to a girl and she said she hurts herself cause her family hates her

Answer 1

I guess it doesn't matter to a teen if they truely hate her or not. It's what they pervceive that counts and that is the important part. A parent who can show the emotions of love, compassion, carring, concern will be seen as loving. A parent who criticizes because it is not their way, shows constant anger, withdrawn from the family will be seen as unloving or hateful.

Most times the parent KNOWS they are doing it. They just don't know how to stop or do it any differently than it was done to them. Sometimes drug addiction has the parents by the throat be it alcohol, cocaine, whatever. When drug addiction rules parental thinking little else remains for their children.

It sounds like you are a compasionate person. Do what you can to show how to be loved in a healthy way. Sometimes that's all we can do. There are many support groups out there. Encourage her to find one or go to one with her for a few times. When teens talk out their problems, the problems become managable. When they feel isolated and hopeless, drugs and suicide often result. If she is self-mutilating,it is like taking a drug for her. The infliction of pain to herself is done to keep her from thinking about some very terrible things. She really needs some help.... probably the whole family does... but one step at a time.

Good luck

Answer 2

I think there a lot of parents that have no idea how to raise a child because they are way to self absorbed. I don't think they hate their children, I just think they don't take the tine to listen & understand their children, they probably don't take the time to be there for them...society makes it hard to be a good parent because, exsisiting & simply providing for a family is so demanding that we often have no choice but to survive & leave our children to figure living out on their own....
I hate that as well by the way & I hope that I can make a difference in my daughters life, I tell her & try to show her as much as I am capable that I love her just the way she is & that I never would want her any other way!

Answer 3

I KNOW it is possible for a parent to hate their child. Praise be unto God that I survived it and am a healthy woman!

Think about it - a parent could have been JUST about to head off into a new career and then BAM! a kid is here. The kid is a 'life ruiner' to this would be parent. Unfortunately, kids aren't dumb - they sense when you dont like them or are not trustworthy. I always knew my dad had issues with me - I never realized how much he hated me until I started my own journey to healing.

Answer 4

I do believe a parent can hate a child. For me deadbeats hate their children because they could care less if their child is eating or has a roof over their head. I also believes that its a cop out for teens to state they are hated by their parents and it happens mainly when that teen can't get his/her way. Teens also believe adults (the world) are against them and do not understand them.

Answer 5

Teenagers are in a crisis these days. Did you know that 40% of them are cutters? Did you know that they are bombard with false images of people and they feel they have to live up to those images? No wonder they are confused at all the things advertisers are showing to them these days.

Teens today need to start making a stand.

Answer 6

Some teens are just DRAMA ROYALTY. My family does not hate me, I know they don't, and I don't hate them, we just argue sometimes. IE (for example) My mom and I argued this morning because I was being loud and annoying my dad. But I do know someone where her mom hates her. The only time she gets attention is if she's doing something bad, but we're working on that together. I am like her big sis, I help her with every struggle she's going through.

Answer 7

It is just them lashing out for the time being because they things are not going their way.

I hope that it is not possible for a parent to hate their child, though I am sure it could happen.

God bless them if they do.

Answer 8

i can tell you why they say this i am a teenager like them and i say this when my parents didn't want me to buy or do something which i think it will make me happy but they think it will be bad for me when they say this i feel that i hate them so much but after a while i know that they were right , and i said this too when they do anything to my sister or brother i feel that they liked them more than me but after while i know that I'm wrong .

Answer 9

parents can never hate their children.... ever..

to them their children are their life, everything they live for

quick story:

my friend woke up at 4 am one morning and went downstairs becuase she heard mumbling, when she turned into hr family room, she saw her mom on the couch praying for her.. and all of her siblings.. she found out that every morning her mom got up at 4 and prayed the rosary for her and her 2 siblings.

if you don't know what a rosary is, its a very long prayer. 50 or some hail mary's and 10 our fathers.

teenagers just go though difficult times, with pueburty and high school and grades and college, and a lot of pressure.

parents can never hate their children

Answer 10

i used to do the same thing when iw as in high school but i didn't hurt myself because someone hated me but because i wanted to get attention from people so they can notice that i'm sad. I dont' think that thei family hates then- it's just that angry talk when the parents don't let them do what they want, go where they please or even wear what they want.