It hurts me when I hear him say stuff like, "There is two kids in my class that pee in their pants, and in their bed, because they are babies!" Or, "He is blind(because they wear glasses)." I tell him it's not nice. But I am sure that doesn't do any good. I got picked on as a child and I don't want him to be a bully kid, but what do you do??
2006-12-20 08:33:25 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
I would tell my children that in life if you wouldn't want something said or done to you that it is almost certain that someone else would not want it said or done to them. Quite simply, do unto others as you would have them do unto you.You can tell him you will not tolerate that type of talk. Let him know that his school will discipline him if he is caught talking like that at school, It is the first step in bullying.You are are to be commended for wanting to curb this negative behaviour..You know exactly what the person is feeling.It is not kids being kids. It still hurts you today.Perhaps if you talk to your son about bullying he will be more sensitive about it.Check and see if your son's school has a V.I.P course. It addresses age appropriate responses for school age kids.i think in Ontario, Canada it was put on by the local community police officer.
2006-12-20 16:17:08 · answer #1 · answered by gussie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for kids that age, something's just being 'not nice' is not good enough. I babysit a child who's five and has that problem as well. What has worked for me is to turn it into a situation involving her as the person being made fun of.
"What if you were __? Would you like it if someone said that about you? Why not? Then why would you say that about them?"
Using questions is also effective for her because often times she knows she shouldn't do it and why, so I've got to get her to say it, and use her own reasoning on it. Then it becomes more palatable to her.
2006-12-20 16:49:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best answer I have is to beat him at his own game. Next time the does something he would find embarassing, poke fun at him. Gently, but firmly. Ask him how it makes him feel, ask him if we wishes you had been nicer about it or ignored it altogether.
First graders go through this because they are trying to establish "normals" for themselves. Your job is to let him know that different is not bad just different. Point out ways that he is different from others and how it makes us unique and special and not an object of ridicule.
First graders are also natural mimics. He may be observing a group of kids at school that he admires and so is imitating their behavior in order to be like them.
Hope that helps!!!
2006-12-20 22:08:46 · answer #3 · answered by dakirk123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is another child who needs some discipline. This is unacceptable. Maybe call the school and have the principal talk to him that might scare him enough for him to knock it off. He's being mean and that's not right. You need to punish him when he does it. Take away things, time out, talking to. Whatever you choose but choose something quick because he'll become more aggressive as he ages.
2006-12-20 17:04:05 · answer #4 · answered by musicpanther67 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why do you think that your child won't hear you everything they learn starts from at home and also you explain to your child what you went through and also show mannerisms at home so you will be able to show and tell the differences and so forth. Have faith that you raised your child right so that as he gets older it will follow him as be gets older.
2006-12-21 18:38:28 · answer #5 · answered by Neek-Neek 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every time he says something cruel, as him if his words were helpful or hurtful. Ask him how he would feel if someone said something like that about him. hopefully he will quickly learn how his words hurt others.
2006-12-20 16:46:26 · answer #6 · answered by momtojt 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Refer to your other question....
In that question you are asking why he is calling you names.....
In this question you are asking what to do when he calls other people names...
If he can do it to Mom and get away with it, he can surely do it to other people too, don't you think?
2006-12-20 16:49:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok first of all thats not making fun of the kids in his class. maybe its the truth and sometimes the truth hurts.
2006-12-20 21:01:09 · answer #8 · answered by hockey pro 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
kids learn what they are taught,perhaps he is hearing comments like that at home ? ?
2006-12-20 18:29:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just say that that's very unrespectful and he hutrs other people. i if he will do it again, say that you will ground him or not give him b-day present.
it worked on me when i was 9
2006-12-20 18:11:10 · answer #10 · answered by victoria 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋