Since we been together this is the first time we been long distance. We've been together 4 months, he told me would not be able to talk till he getts back. I didn't ask questions why. He said I should trust him because he loves me. Should I be worried?
2006-12-20 08:21:36 · 19 answers · asked by SASSY 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he went to vistit parents and he does have a cell phone but, he made an excuse that it might not work because of mountains. He went to North Carolina.
2006-12-20 08:30:14 · update #1
After 20+ years as a counselor, now retired, I can tell you that I have found a lot of people who like to worry, or think they should, or ought to, regardless of the situation. Since the information about you and your boyfriend is scant to say the least, I can remark that you and about six of your respondents above me seem to like to worry. You have provided no information worth considering when you look at life happenings, and so your six respondents don't know any more than I do, and yet they choose to worry and recommend worrying to you. Three of your respondents are sane and sensitive enough to tell you, in one way or another, "lighten up", and I would recommend the same. If you do have reason to worry, you haven't told us, and you alone will have to react with what you know. But then, if ya'll have only "been together" for 4 months, I know that may sound like a lifetime to you, but I haven't heard you speak of any commitments to monogamy here, and so I question your "right" to worry. I would say to you that if things aren't going the way you want them to, say something to him about it and do something about it, something more productive than worrying. I bet one thing's for sure, you and he haven't been real clear on each's expectations of the relationship, and you may be way too young to be expecting some monogamous relationship from either of you to the other, so, if either of you haven't "played the field" as the old saying goes, make sure you do and you allow the other to do so, and then when each of you is ready for a more monogamous relationship, sit down and seriously talk about it and see what commitment each of you is willing to make, that is, unless you just like to worry. Then you can just ask pointless questions on Yahoo Answers and allow people to earn 2 or 10 points. Save yourself a lot of agony. Consider each of your ages and what you all can do and want to do in any relationship, and then talk openly about it. It'd sure save you a lot of sleepless nights. God Bless you.
2006-12-20 08:39:57 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships are BUILT on trust. If you can't trust him, why date him?
If you think there is nothing you should worry about, then why worry? Just as long as you know where he is going, and what is purpose is for being there.
My bf (of a little over a year) went out of town in August to Chicago. I knew because he was going to a convention that he wouldn't be able to take calls during the day, and would probably be going straight to bed at night.
Since I trusted him I was not upset if and when he didn't call. I also didn't call him because I knew it would be a pain for him to call me back.
2006-12-20 16:51:45 · answer #2 · answered by Laura 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe if you can get a hold of him and talk to him then you should. There is no reason why he wouldn't be able to talk to you for four months. That just simply doesn't make sense. Unless he lives in the forest/wilderness where there isn't any phones.
2006-12-20 16:24:50 · answer #3 · answered by nht_5 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No unless he has done something in the past that has broken your trust. When you see him when he comes back and there are no claw marks on his back or hickeys on his neck then there was nothing to worry about. lol
2006-12-20 16:25:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anne E. W 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
have he ever given u a reason not to trust him?? if yes, then yes, u should be worried. if not, than just calm down, and wait and see what's gonna happen
2006-12-20 16:23:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on why he went out of town. If it was for work, then no.
2006-12-20 16:23:59 · answer #6 · answered by lbuajlw 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he didn't give you a good reason why he won't be able to talk to you, I would worry.
2006-12-20 16:37:02 · answer #7 · answered by Sunday L 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why can't he talk? Did he give you a reason? I need more info but it seems like to me that he is up to something.
2006-12-20 16:28:37 · answer #8 · answered by LaReyna 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't worry, be happy. Keep busy and trust him.
2006-12-20 16:25:14 · answer #9 · answered by rhonda_seiler 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't say WHY he went out of town?...... business?...... pleasure?..... or for how long?
The only thing I don't understand is why you can't talk to him until he gets back. Don't they have telephones where he is? hmmmm.....
2006-12-20 16:26:20 · answer #10 · answered by Len_NJ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋