ok i wana hook up with my ex agian and we went out for a year and we had a great relationship but it ended in my stupidity of breakin up with her and i realize with her i was so happy. anyways i asked her back out and she said she likes this kid that goes to her school and she said that she is going to pick between both of us, but i know i am so much better than him and if she does pick me and we go back out do u think its gonna be the same like is she gonna be like alright fine ill go back out with him and not love me the same. iam really confused so plz help
2006-12-20 08:18:01 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Use your head!!! Show her that you really like her by doing something nice foe her, get her a really great Christmas present. If she asks you back out dont act dumb, show her that you truely have feelings for her, because if you dont she will think that you are only asking her back out because you are jealous of her going out with another guy, unless you are really jealous of her going out with another guy. So the real question is do you really still like her or are you just jealous of her going out with another guy. Think about it.
2006-12-20 08:26:06 · answer #1 · answered by Via 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There had to be a reason for why you two broke up in the first place, other than your "stupidity". Figure out what that reason was, and you will probably come to the conclusion that you don't even want to get back with her. Plus, you shouldn't be put in a position where a girl MIGHT choose you over another guy. SHE should be YOUR top choice, and YOU should be HER top choice.
2006-12-20 16:21:41 · answer #2 · answered by ashleyrt1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya better do some serious sucking up if ya want her to pick you over him. Remember, you broke up with her. She may be afraid of getting hurt again. Doesn't matter what YOU think or who actually is better, she is gonna decide and nothing you can do about it. If she does pick him, sit back and wait for them to break up and then move in again. Silly kid advice, but you sound like a silly kid . If you love something, set it free. If it comes back to you it is yours forever. If it doesn't, it never was. THINK ABOUT THIS
2006-12-20 16:25:00 · answer #3 · answered by Deb 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want her to pick you then you need to admit to her that you realized that you shouldn't have broken up with her and that you def. made a huge mistake. You also need to show her how much you like her and what she means to you. Don't just expect her to come back to you because you broke her heart. So now you have to go make amends. Show her that you really do care! GOOD LUCK.
2006-12-20 16:21:21 · answer #4 · answered by nht_5 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's up to her, honey, so don't get so stressed out. Do the best you can to win her back, but be casual about it, I mean, don't be over eager, send some flowers and a card, maybe a little gift for the holidays. Talk to her with confidence and be calm.
I know you feel for her, and if she is the one for you it will work out, I don't know if it will be the same, but just try and make it work the best you can, and learn from past mistakes. no one is perfect. Good luck my dear. hope it works out for you.
2006-12-20 16:23:15 · answer #5 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, I wouldnt worry about it very much, sounds like your very young. You will have many relationships in your life. Just think about it, there are how many people in this world? and you are worried that the girl that has to pick between you and another boy that goes to her school, youve got a lot of living to do kid!! Good luck!
2006-12-20 16:23:49 · answer #6 · answered by ashleyod 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you definetly lost her trust. And no, it wont be the same since you burned her. But, you both will need to be calm and work on your relationship. Forgive and forget. Focus on the future and not on the past. Be open, honest, and patient and you will be back in good with her.
2006-12-20 16:25:30 · answer #7 · answered by GK2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've broken up with guys, dated other guys and went back to the first guy before, and I may not have felt the same right away.... But eventually I did. Its almost like starting over. But next time.... Dont mess it up, or else she WONT come back.
2006-12-20 16:20:24 · answer #8 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when you set her free if she comes back then it's ment to be . .
but if she's seeing someone it is wrong to make her choose between the two of you. . you should allow thier relationship to either blossom or falter. If it falters then it is time for you to step in. If forced to choose she will always wonder if the other relationship was allowed to run it's course what would have happened, that in itself could be bad for your relationship with her.
2006-12-20 16:24:15 · answer #9 · answered by Rainy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, i am very good with relationship problems. But I need to know why you broke up with her in the first place. Then I could specifically tell you if it will be the same.
Samantha
2006-12-20 16:22:34 · answer #10 · answered by tjsaloser_06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋