Females only see me as a nice guy friend type. How do I change this image?

Answer 1

The classic problem ... a guy being too nice. If you never stand up to her when she acts bad, if you never have an opinion of your own (for fear of offending someone), and you never know where to go or what to do for a date (you are always asking her what to do, forcing her to make the decision & become the leader), then she thinks of you as more of a "boy" that she has to take care of, instead of a man who will take care of her.

Women seem to be attracted to humor, self-confidence, and assertiveness. It would take a book or so to explain exactly how to communicate this, so I would recommend that you find which ones of your friends are naturally good with women, and hang out with them and see what they do. Usually a guy who teases the women that he is with -- that is, makes fun of them in a good natured way (instead off kissing up to her), communicates both self-confidence (you are not afraid of taking the risk of saying something that might possibly offend someone, even her), and makes you look like you have a sense of humor. Cocky humor doesn't work on everyone -- it offends people with low self-esteem -- but that is what makes it seem risky, which implies self-confidence (and you don't want to date people with really low self-esteem anyway -- more trouble than it is worth. Trust me on this one).

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I almost forgot -- most men do not maintain good eye contact with the women that they are interested in (shyness is often seen as weakness in men). When she first walks into the room, do NOT break eye contact when she first looks at you (most men immediately look away as if they have been "caught"). Keep eye contact until SHE looks away first -- then ignore her. See what happens.

If you are talking to a girl and find that you cannot maintain eye contact, then break eye contact by looking away horizontally, as if you were looking for someone else, instead of looking down at the floor -- which is what most shy men do (she will think that you are looking at her boobs and get offended if you keep looking down). Makes a big difference with some women. She will try to get your attention back.

And maintain good posture. Slumping over makes you seem weak to many women. It may sound silly, but make an effort to straighten out your back and walk with your chest slightly poking out. It may seem silly to you, but good posture sub-consciously conveys confidence, and many women seem to find it sexy.

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And another thing, don't be afraid to say "no" when a woman asks you to do too much for her (as in, asking too many favors, or else asking a really big favor which would be inconvenient for you). If you never stand up for yourself, she will not respect you, and she will not feel attracted to you (even though she might still be using you for favors because she knows that you won't tell her "no"). Don't be a push-over if you think that she is just using you for whatever she can get you to do. It is your time and your life, so don't be afraid to tell people "no" when the occasion calls for it. Just make sure that you say "no" in a calm, flat tone of voice, instead of an angry tone. You don't want to sound like an emo, or a jerk, either.

This may sound odd, but women think that if you do too much for her, at least at the beginning of the relationship when you don't know her very well, that you are being manipulative. Being too nice is almost always interpreted as being needy, desperate, or manipulative. Don't give her too many compliments, and don't give her too many (or too expensive!) gifts at first (this also means, don't go to an expensive place on the first few dates, either), for the same reason.

Answer 2

I will make this as simple as possible.

Don't go from nice guy to bad guy over night. People who know you will see that and call you on it or you might walk your way into an azz whoppin. Bad boys get tested.

The difference between a good guy and a bad boy is "perception." If you are percieved to be bad you might be and vice versa, but it doesn't mean you are.

The best way for me to descibe myself is ,"Smooth with a roughness." All that is saying is that I am a nice cool person, but I will knock the hell out of you if you come at me wrong. You can wear both hats trust me and still be true to yourself.

Answer 3

Just be youself--you shouldn't change for anybody! There are plenty of girls looking for a nice guy, like yourself! Don't rush these things!

Answer 4

change is good sometimes think about what you really want . but i sugest. be closer friends with guys that your female friends like and feed then info. and one of them is bound to fall for you . but do not stop being their friend . it is not good to take a full around change.

Answer 5

in my opinion, i could date the passable guy. I rather do no longer think of that element that high quality adult adult males end very final. Why date a douche bag? I do sense you have a gamble! you will little question get a intense-high quality lady, shield being genuine to your self (:

Answer 6

Find a hot girl and grab her in front of everyone and kiss her, grind on her, rub her a$$ and breasts and then take her off and have wild, crazy sex with her and then the girls will see you as this hot, freak of a man and want you.

P.S. I would ask the girl first though, set it up so that she will play along, you wouldn't want to end up in jail for rape.

Answer 7

don't change bcaause i saw my bf as only a friend at first but now i've realized hes one of those one in a million sweet guys someone will relize it soon

Answer 8

don't change your image to attract or impress girls. if they don't like you for who you are, you don't need them. after years and years of dealing with assholes, nice guys are more than welcome to date me and i'm sure there are plenty of women out there who feel the same. you just have to keep looking.

Answer 9

You don't. Just keep being their friend, living your life. One day, you'll be somewhere and a friend of a friend or maybe a stranger will say, are you married?

What will your answer be?

Answer 10

Make-out with a girl right infront of them. That's what this kid at my High School did and now he's got girls all over him!