Is it wrong or OK??

Question

Is this wrong??
Something happened and I would like to know if I was wrong.

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I am really good friends with my friends g/f and we talk a lot. We and a bunch of friends were at the pool. She was talking to her friend, when I came up behind her and put my arms around her. I kissed her on the neck and walked away. Now my friend is all mad. Why is he mad?? I am not trying to take her from him.

Do you really believe in the whole "bros b4 hoes"?? What would you say in this situation??
Lets say he was in his swim shorts and her in her bikini.Would you have been upset??
Was I over the so called "line"?? Is he right to tell me to stay the ***** away from her??
She's not mad, he is. She doesn't mind. I would love to be with her but respect the fact that they are together.
I kissed her neck not her lips and put my arms around her. Why is he mad??

Answer 1

Is it wrong? Well yeah, it is.

If your friend was okay with it than it would be okay, but if it bothers him than you should apologize.

And it is not like his reaction is unjustified. You touched his girlfriend in a very "personal" way, she was in her bathing suit and you held her and kissed her in a more intimate spot. Just because it wasn't on the lips doesn't mean it was harmless. Again if that was the nature of your friendship where you all were okay with touching each other like that, that is fine, but clearly he is not okay with it, and a lot of people would feel the same way.

As for bros be for hoes. No that is not always true. But you can't have both. If you have feelings for this girl, even a little bit but want to stay friends more, you really shouldn't be doing stuff like this. If anything you should be less physical with her than you are with girls you don't like.

Answer 2

If I was him I would be mad to. If you Had a girlfriend or someone you like and your friend went up to her in front of you and kissed her neck and putt his arms around her you would be mad. If my boyfriend did that I would be Furies. You have to see where he's coming from also. He thinks you are his friend. And Friends don't do that to each others girlfriend. I mean the neck come on. It wouldn't have been so bad if you just hugged her or something. So ya I think your friend has every right to be mad. If I was you I would try and talk to him. Tell him your side of the story. It might take a while for him to come around or trust you again. But what ever you do don't rush him. That would make matter worse. Good Luck

Answer 3

Although it wasn't on the lips, the close contact and kiss on the neck is perhaps a little too friendly. Your friend is upset because he see's you as moving in on his girl ( close contact with someone's girl is a big no no), the girl is not upset because she either liked it or considers you as a friend only and didn't see it as anything more.
You have to decide what you want, to lose a good friend over a girl (who will probably dump you at some point) or remain friends with them both even after they break up (which is likely to happen). What you do is up to you but don't play child like games with people's emotions.

Answer 4

yea ur kind of stepping on the line...maybe not over it. You kissed her...period. it really doesnt matter where but you did. Most "friends" dont usually show such emotion towards one another. Sure a hug is fine...but a kiss just adds that spark that her boyfriend didnt like. If you ARE trying to get with her....wait until they are done b4 making your moves. If she is into u im sure she will leave him in no time. Just let it happen and quit kissing your friends chicks for now!

Answer 5

It's not really wrong, but maybe your friend felt weird seeing you hug and kiss his girlfriend.. you know, some people believe that there can't be real friendship between a man and a woman... Or maybe he's too jealous to stay calm seein this thing happening in front of him... Anyway, if you don't get to explain to him all you posted here, maybe he isn't very much of your friend as you think...

Answer 6

That's kind of inappropriate... put yourself in his shoes... what if he did that to your girlfriend? That wouldn't piss you off? Having another guy, let alone your own friend kissing and touching your g/f (especially while she's in a bikini)?
It's great that you're not trying to take her from him... but that doesn't even matter because as far as your friend's concerned, your actions don't show that- and they definitely speak louder then your words.
Apologize to your friend, and explain where your coming from...and DON'T do anything like that again...EVER. This isn't worth losing a friend over. Good Luck! = )

Answer 7

Yes you crossed the line.That was something couples do.It's ok to hug friendly.But the kiss on the neck is like a kiss on the lips.Your friends girlfriend was wrong not to correct you.

Answer 8

It is wrong. Even if u have a good relationship with her you dont do that. It means not having respect for Ure friend. U cant call this a " bros B4 hoes" because u are not leaving ure friend for one.. BE ASHAMED!! BE VERY AHAMED!!!

Answer 9

Put yourself in his shoes and ask yourself the same questions. I think the hug thing was fine but the kiss on the neck pushed you over.

Answer 10

well if that is his gf yeah it is obviously wrong bc she;s not ur gf and yeah you should never let a girl get in the way of your friendship.trust me i experienced the same problem and let's just say the stuff that happened was way worse then him just bein mad at you. just always keep in mind that never let a girl or guy in between ur guy;s friendship.your friend ship is way more important then the girl.