every year. My mom n dad got divorised when i was 8. Ever since my mom hates my dad n his side of the family. He lost shared custudity of us a few years ago n his health is really bad. Hes only 40 n is already on an oxygen machine at night. Neway, my mom wont take me 2 c my dads side of the family, aunt, grandmom, cusins, n all, n she wont let them *** over our house 2 exchange gifts n c each other. So, my grandmom n aunt is supposedy cuming 2 my house neway w/out talking 2 my mom first n r going 2 call me or my sis 2 c if were home n *** over. If they call me im going 2 get yelled out 4 not saying nething n my mom is going 2 get all mad n upset. N if they call my sis n then show up, i have no idea wut is going 2 happen. Please let my kno wut u wud do n this situation. I really apretiate it. Thx.
2006-12-20 08:09:41 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
aww. i think that yo should tell your mom that they are coming over yea she might be mad but just say that they havent seen you in a while so they decided to come over. if she's still mad then explaint to her that they are family just like her side is family, and its not fair for you to be stuck on one side of the family all the time!
2006-12-20 08:14:53 · answer #1 · answered by LC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dad and his family are still part of you regardless how your mom sees it, and though there isn't much you can do about family feud, keep in mind that you had nothing to do with it, and whatever the problem was, it was between the gown ups. Maybe you can request a friend to take you to see your dad and his side of family.If you are underage, talk to your mom quietly and sincerely about how you feel wanting to visit and how it would mean a great deal to you if she could. You can also keep in touch with families by writing and sending cards. Let them know you're thinking of them and let's them know you are still out there. In due time as you get older, and travel on this path we call life, you alone will know that you have yourself to be accountable to any deed you do.May that be good or bad. Do what you think is right in your heart and let love always rule.
2006-12-20 16:31:54 · answer #2 · answered by tagara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't say how old you are; I'm thinking you are still in your mom's control, especially as your dad is only 40, so you are still young.
I divorced my husband many years ago when my kids were very young - four of them aged between four and twelve.
It broke their hearts. My husband and I were very bitter towards each other. One thing we decided on and stuck to was that although I had the kids, they could see their dad whenever they wanted. This was a real novelty to them for a year or two, because he lived close by. But after a couple of years, they weren't bothered at all!
My point is, that even though he and I couldn't stand each other, we understood it was unfair to make our kids make choices between us. They loved us both and were entitled to have us both.
I think your mom sounds very hurt and angry at your dad still. She may have good reasons for this, and that's fine, but itt's not fair to you and the others to use your love for him as weapon.
Why don't you show her some of the answers here?
Explain that you are really upset and worried about things; that you love her very much, but you also love your dad.
Your mom sounds really lost and hurt and scared. Maybe she's afraid of losing her kids. The best Christmas present she could give you is to come to a real agreement with your dad over visiting.
I wish you luck. I have been the scared and lost mom too, and I really wanted to hurt my ex, but even in my hurt, I knew that hurting my kids was not right.
2006-12-20 16:25:11 · answer #3 · answered by marie m 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch. You need to tell your mom what they're planning. You live with your mom, she is responsible for you and your sis's welfare and she needs to know where you are and whats going on. Plus, she's going to be very mad at you when she finds out, and trust me, she's going to find out.
What your relatives are doing is not right and not fair. They may want to see you, but what they are doing is putting you in a very difficult situation where you are the bad guy no matter what you decide to do.
2006-12-20 16:19:57 · answer #4 · answered by nokhada5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are still living with mom - and that means, mom rules. i wouldn't go behind her back, tell your sis the same thing. tell your mom, what your father's family plans to do. if you really want to see his family - you and your sister should say this to your mom - tell mom you don't want to make her mad, and if you don't want to see them, would it be okay with you if we meet them at mutual place, you won't have to see them at all. she still may say no (but, she may surprise you with a yes, you'll never know unless you are truthful with her) in which case i wouldn't cross her. let her take care of your dad's family. don't you kids be the monkey in the middle.
2006-12-20 16:25:13 · answer #5 · answered by try 2 help 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are at least 14, you can go to court and get the visitation changed.
2006-12-20 16:17:08 · answer #6 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask them to get you a dictionary for Christmas.
2006-12-20 16:12:16 · answer #7 · answered by baby1 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋