I am currently "seeing" someone I met online. Previously, we met in a public place to just talk (which we did for hours). Since then we talk daily by phone, or through IM's. "D", invited me to his home just to hang out and I plan on going friday evening. I want to tell someone I am going, but have not told my trusted friends or family the details of how I met him just out of embarrassement of how I met him. I felt safe around him and am not scared to meet him, but I have been told by my friends b/c they think I trust men too much anyway ! (My grandmother always had a saying that as a woman you shouldn't be alone with a man unless your ready to have sex with him) so I do not worry about being raped either. Should I just go and have a great time without worry. I have done a background check on him and he turns up clean. We seem to have alot in common and I like him, do I need precaution now and if so what ?
2006-12-20 08:08:29 · 12 answers · asked by nene 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Even though you did a background check on him doesn't mean anything.... he could still be a psycho killer with no criminal record.. that's how people get killed these days.... they think that the guy is so nice and he looks really respectable but then he gets them alone and murders them... just a reality check for you
2006-12-20 08:22:31 · answer #1 · answered by Foxxy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how long you've known this man, but it may be alittle premature to plan on spending an evening at his house. He may be physically attractive, but there is alot that you don't know about this guy. I'd suggest you stick with public places for now. But, if you decide to go to his house....I'd suggest you leave information that you do have available to you (his name, residential address, etc) at your house where it could be readily found if someone searched for you. I leave info. on guys that I don't know well on my dining room table just in case b/c I know my best friends (who have a key to my home) would look there first for a note. While it's true that the info. would probably not be found in time to save you from a real pervert....at least it'd be a way to track who caused your harm or prevented your return. It's a scary world out there--be safe. Good Luck
2006-12-20 08:21:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some background don't show up especially if they aren't actually charged for the crime.I would tell someone his address his phone number and full name.I would also check in from time to time with a friend or have a friend to check on me every 30 min or so.If you aren't comfortable being alone with him at his house maybe you should try taking a friend with you or double dating.I would tell him I am not comfortable with seeing him alone and I am sure he will understand.Maybe you should continue to date in public places or with friends, or family.Word of advice you can meet a killer or rapist anywhere including a church.
2006-12-20 08:17:44 · answer #3 · answered by babygirl4300 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm, I'm not going to say lose him, but I won't say throw yourself at his feet either. I myself, met my fiancee on the internet, but I have met some pretty weird people online too.
The internet is a tricky thing, some things you can trust, some things you can't. But unfortunetly, you can never really tell the difference of what is or isn't, unless it's a legal binding contract.
My advice to you, would be, trust your instincts, not your head. If they tell you to back off and be careful. (Which you seem to have some doubts already, considering you came here for advice.) Then trust them, if they tell you that it all seems OK, then go for it, but still keep a watchful eye on things.
It sounds as if he really makes you happy, that's a good sign, but still, it is always the best way to be careful. And if it works out for you, I wish you the very best of luck. :-D
2006-12-20 08:17:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would tell a friend that you are going to your date's home and if ask how you met say through a group of friends that way in case he does get out of hand at least you have some kind of back up on your side
2006-12-20 08:11:31 · answer #5 · answered by Angel Virgo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first step was awsome, doing a backround check. But you do need to let someone know, at least 1 person with a address to his resident with his name, cuz what if something happenends and nobody knew where to start. Also a phone # is good to leave with someone.
2006-12-20 08:17:26 · answer #6 · answered by c_schreel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell someone for sure just to be on the safe side. You might ask a friend to call at a certain time and just to make sure you are okay. Its always better to be safe than sorry
2006-12-20 08:13:08 · answer #7 · answered by triste_girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is a sign of craziness! You cannot possible think you know someone based on interactions over the computer??! You need time and space to interact with this person in the real world amongst her home environment, family, friends. See how she responds to the world on an everyday basis.
2016-05-23 01:38:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should tell at least one person that you can really trust and be sure they know the exact address you are going to and when you are suppose to leave, it is better to be safe than sorry.
2006-12-20 08:12:14 · answer #9 · answered by Beauty&Brains 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give a trusted friend this guys name and adress. Arrange that you can call her an hour or so into your meeting. Tell her if she doesnt hear from you to call the police. Men are like a box of chocolates.............................
2006-12-20 08:15:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋