I know I have terrible social skills with people. I would like to improve on them but my life is CLOUDED with worry. I hate myself for being aspergers. Its a curse because my nature is what makes my life crap. My nature is that people walk all over me, girls all treat me the same....poorly, and for granted, and I'm too nice. I would like a girlfriend but fear I cannot impress them. I have fantasies about taking my problems out on other people through violence because there a loads of people who WIND ME UP! I hate other people. It seems to me that I am deprived of my social skills permenantly.
2006-12-20 07:56:57 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Well. . .what I feel may help you a bit is to focus on being who you are and trying to improve your social skills.
Do not focus on how people treat you. . .it's self-destructive because you will never be able to please everyone. If people do not like you for WHO you are. . .they're not your friends. Surround yourself with people who make you feel good.
Work on your social skills and focus on the positive.
Don't let your fear control you. And please, do not resort to violence! It would cause only harm all the way around. You're better than that.
2006-12-20 08:02:04 · answer #1 · answered by YuckItUp 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Calm down dude. I think you put too much expectations on yourself. My 6 year old daughter goes to an autistic school and has some major social skills but we work through them. Aspergers is a bit different as you are caught in between neuro typicals and autistic behavious. We live in the country away from the crowds and lights which helps my daughter focus a bit better. I have no answers for you but keep persisting and good luck.
PS. I would like to e-mail Zenoba and see how she copes. Is this possible.??
2006-12-20 08:14:09 · answer #2 · answered by spils 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard not to worry about what people think but it really can be debilitating. People walk all over me too but I never stick up for myself because I don't want to hurt anybody's feelings. Does this sound familiar? In the past couple of years I have gained self-confidence that I never had and it's been amazing. You need to focus on your good qualities and surround yourself with good, positive people. Self-assurance is obviously not going to happen over night, but it will happen and soon the worry will start to diminish. Try taking on an interesting hobby or exercising. A good workout is always a self esteem booster. Don't give up, there are good people out there, you might just be looking in the wrong places! Take care!!!
2006-12-20 08:29:58 · answer #3 · answered by Summer 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You know your child better than anyone. If you feel there is a problem I would enlist the help of a parent aide. You should be able to go to your state's dept. of education website to find advocates for you. An Internet search may provide the name, address and phone number of agencies that can help. These advocates are usually free of charge. Special ed. law can be confusing and you may have more rights than are being disclosed. You can also look into your states Department of Family Services. They may have voluntary services (again free) that can come into your home, work with you on parenting style and be an ally when you are dealing with the school system. They can point you in the right direction anyway.
2016-05-23 01:35:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you really need to talk to professionals. Get some help in dealing with your specific problems.
Okay, it's agreed that autism and aspbergers causes problems especially socially. But can you look at the flip side, and look for the strengths it brings you? What are you really good at? If you haven't found something yet, then think about it and look for something you can do that uses your ability to focus and concentrate intently. Many of the computer developers I know are mildly aspbergers. If you are able to focus on the positive this might help your self-esteem and help you make better choices in girlfriends, etc. Just a thought...
2006-12-20 08:31:23 · answer #5 · answered by Deborah C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that this is not the place to find the answer to your question, it is too complicated than that. I think you need to go to someone who specializes in helping people with their social skills, and maybe could help you. I know many people who are too nice, and you just have to say what you feel instead of being overly polite. And above all, violence is not the way to take out your problems, maybe you should take up a sport like karate or boxing to take out your emotions. Or buy a punching bag. Good luck!
2006-12-20 08:05:45 · answer #6 · answered by teenwriter_25 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear that you are so frustrated. In a roundabout way I understand. My son is Autistic as well. He used to be frustrated and angry all the time like you say you are. What has helped him is volunteering at local nursing homes. He washes dishes there and gets to read to the elderly. Then they have conversations, (which was really hard for him at first) about the book or anything really. I have seen a huge turn around in his attitude because he is finally starting to be able to hold better conversations. Also, he goes to a school for autistic children, and that has made a huge difference as well. Just being around other kids that understand you really helps. I hope you find what you need to be happy in this life.
2006-12-20 08:06:22 · answer #7 · answered by Zenobia420 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your question worries me because I have just been told that my 3 year old has autistic spectrum disorder. At this point I just don't know what do to make his life the best it can be. Do you have any advice???
I think every body has fears of not impressing a girl or boy. Just try to be yourself some one will like you for who you are. Don't let any one try to change you. You newed to learn to stand up for yourself and maybe talk to some one who knows what they are talking about. I hope you find what you need.
2006-12-20 08:07:03 · answer #8 · answered by donna v 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey guy i'm not autistic and girls do not appreciate me as a lover type. well it is their loss cuz you may be the one to help them out. let them get hurt by these ******* out there. well i got the 411 www.ninds.nih.gov/disorders/
autism/detail_
autism.htm
good luck. this too shall pass. if you want support i'm here dogmicjoe@yahoo.com. do not fight or worry. life will get better. to anyone out there reading this, if you judge others cuz of disabilities you are f--king stupid!!you are cool with me dude. plus also call 1800 273 talk 1800 lifenet if u have issues u can not contain
2006-12-20 08:34:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
volence is bad, you cant take your anger out on people just becuase they have different personalities then you. i know where you are man, because i feel that way a lot. but you gotta control yourself. you need to speak you mind. tell other people what you think. voice your opinion. hey, you sound pretty normal to me. you speak pretty well too. dont worry, it'll be alright =)
2006-12-20 08:04:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋