My ex wants time off from our relationship because earlier i took time to figure out if its what i wanted. Its ok to me for her to take her time but she in not going to guarantee that i will get another chance. so i need to figure out how to fall out of love so if i dont get another chance i dont get crushed. Im already pretty bummed she wont take me back now, i've tried everything, so if i put in all this new effort and still nothing im really going to be crushed. Ideas?
2006-12-20 07:53:56 · 11 answers · asked by Bman 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
get over it
2006-12-20 07:57:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Stop corresponding with her and go cold turkey. This will be excruciatingly painful. You will just have to sit there and feel it.
I went through a truly horrific breakup recently (horrific because I loved him so much and the breakup was so unexpected). I followed the advice of my male friends and just ignored him (he would sometimes email me and sometimes want to spend time with me, without saying he wanted me back).
In this particular story, he eventually came back because he realized how bad he felt without me. (Of course, there is no guarantee that she will come back.)
In the meantime, find things that help you cope. I found that talking to my friends and family constantly (they had the patience of saints!) was the only way I could get through it. Exercise. Take up a hobby. Try not to drink too much alcohol, do drugs, or eat a lot of food, etc., in order to make yourself feel better. This will only hurt you, make the healing process take longer, and also make you more unattractive to her and others. (If the pain gets too severe and you get really depressed or suicidal, seek professional help.)
Remember, regardless of the outcome, the pain WILL end. You WILL be okay.
Good luck. :-)
2006-12-20 08:14:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
look..as far as i know you cant just fall out of love...its this feeling you have all the time that doesnt allow you to forget it...but...indeed ppl fall out of love after a longtime relationship either because they are tired or the other person did sth bad e.t.c...My advice if you want to fall out of love is count the negative aspects of the girl and see what bothers you on her..You shouldnt though have the atitude ''i wanna know from now what im gonna do in case she doesn want me anymore''...a) let the time show you what she really feels and what the situation will be after a few days/months b) dont be so sad if she doesnt want you anymore...you have your own personality...think a lil bit selfishly in that situation...it will do you good...c)if you dont like what i said and still want an affective way to dislike her...just do what i said with her negatice aspect...
2006-12-20 08:04:17 · answer #3 · answered by ursula!!! 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well if its worth it you will give the time.. its hard to get back what you had before you broke up... If you expected her to wait for you then you should give her the same option there was no guarantee that she was what you were going to want once you figured things out so... I mean don't you think you should at least wait too...I hope everything works out for you..
2006-12-20 08:01:34 · answer #4 · answered by sweetchic 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
don't really know what to tell you, try to find something else to focus your time and energy on. spend time to yourself! if she doesn't give you another chance there are plenty of women out here that would like to see you, don't waste time being strung along by some woman if she can not give you the same courtesy that you gave her
2006-12-20 07:58:46 · answer #5 · answered by angeleyes3535 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just fall in love with another, stop wasting time, life is short
Get out there and find someone better.
2006-12-20 07:57:27 · answer #6 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sorry, but its going to take time. No quick fixes for this one. Just get a headstart, STOP CARING and find something else to do.
2006-12-20 07:56:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Time, that's the key hun. For starters, don't look at pictures of her, talk to her, or imagine her. Just think of all the bad qualities of her and get someone new. It works for me. :)
2006-12-20 07:57:45 · answer #8 · answered by *~*~*~* 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
realize that juan, tyrone and saul are gettin some o dat backdoor action ..
that oughta put you right off
yeecch
2006-12-20 07:56:06 · answer #9 · answered by phooey 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sucks when you burn a bridge and can't cross back over doesn't it.
2006-12-20 07:56:09 · answer #10 · answered by cdnponygirl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋