He has never known his parents together. They never go to any functions together. In the beginning when we met he liked me. And after a few months he turned into a mean little devil. I love his dad and we've been together for over one year and in it for the long run. Yet I feel sometimes that this is too much to handle. Jim is on my side. He thinks we just have to give him time. But from what I see, it is only getting worse.
Thank you for taking the time. Merry Christams!
2006-12-20 07:53:29 · 5 answers · asked by andrazita 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
At this age he is old enough to undestand. Sit down with him and simply ask him why he treats you this way / why he doesn't seem to love you anymore and explain to him that you aren't there to replace his mommy or take his daddy, you are simply there to love his daddy and him as much as you can / and as much as he will let you!
Merry Christmas to you and your family as well!
2006-12-20 07:57:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't have an answer for you yet all i will say is the 8 3 hundred and sixty 5 days previous little boys may be difficult to positioned on target. My son is likewise 8, he would not do what yours does, yet i will't get him to do some thing that he would not extremely favor to do (from homework to brushing his tooth), and he would not positioned a lot attempt into artwork in school both. All i will inform you is that I have tried: reasoning with him, utilizing rewards or/and punishments, spanking, shouting, nagging, sitting down with him to do his initiatives, ignoring him at the same time as doing his initiatives, nicely each little thing and some thing i will imagine of, yet not some thing works, he's not caused to do what he would not favor to do. If I were you i'd enlist specialist help, someone who has studied similar circumstances, and may furnish you with some information on a thanks to effectively manage an 8 3 hundred and sixty 5 days previous boy. that's what i will do!
2016-12-01 00:28:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
By the age of 8 kids want to be near their fathers more than the mothers. After spending the first 5 or so years being near mom. He sees you as a threat to take dad away from him. The best way is to let him have his dad. He will see that even with you around he still gets his dad and will accept you. In a few years he will be looking for a mother figure and if your still around he will tag along with you.
2006-12-20 08:32:28 · answer #3 · answered by fortyninertu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His mother probably made him feel guilty for liking you, thats just the way it is sometimes, the best thing you can do is try and earn a relationship with him, take him out, use his schooling tell him, hey if you do good in school, then we're going to go to eat pizza and ill take a friend of your choice, you are going to have to really become another mother figure for him, how are children usually with their parents? difficult also, sure there will be ups and downs, but just be there for him, and let him know that he doesnt need to be in the middle of everything, his mother is probably making him feel like this, dont give up, and your husband is right, it might take time.
2006-12-20 08:10:16 · answer #4 · answered by Summer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try spending quality time with your boyfriends son. It might help him realize that your not going to replace his fathers love for him.
2006-12-20 08:00:35 · answer #5 · answered by Boogerbum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋