We were good friends, The true is that we used to have a relationship in the past, but it didnt work because of her insecurety, but yesterday Geez, I went to her house and we ended up having a good time, everything was great, we were compleately naked until came the preservative issue! I had mine in my pocket ready to action, she asked me for it so I opened it. The problem was that after we were really close to the 'act' she decided not to have sex, I really respect that, but she started to tell me that condons werent safe and that she didnt want to get pregnant- I know pregnancy is always a big concern, but come on! using protection is called safe-sex, and eventhough she shared her way of thinking she also told that she wanted to have sex with me and use pills intead of condons, the issue, I dont believe having intercurse with somebody without protection and besides she's possibly virgin and thats one big issue cause I would rather a girl with experience. I dont want to be her teacher
2006-12-20 07:43:52 · 14 answers · asked by -Vladimir- 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
And what exactly is the question????
2006-12-20 07:46:50 · answer #1 · answered by Brandy B. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did need to phrase your post in the form of a question...
She's possibly a virgin? Honey if you're close enough to her to be naked and almost have sex, then you should be able to ask that question of her.
If you don't want to deal with a virgin, then walk away from the situation. Otherwise give her time to get on the pill and use your condom in addition, when the time comes. I personally don't care to rely on condoms alone for birth control but insist they be used for possible STD prevention.
2006-12-20 07:48:42 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have possible answered your own question, whatever it exactly is! Talk to her. If she wants to be on the pill, then respect that. If you still want to use a condom, then use one. Above all, respect her wishes. If she is a virgin, treat her right, make sure she enjoys sex. You never know what may happen - this may end up being your wife one day!
2006-12-20 07:47:53 · answer #3 · answered by Hammer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I respect the fact that you want a girl who knows whats up this one doesn't sound like she knows what she wants be careful you could get in to a bad situation it would suck to lose a good friend make sure it is what she wants before you two get down and dirty and yes use a condom every time is she nuts use protection!
2006-12-20 07:51:15 · answer #4 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats what I'm saying but if you feel this way just leave her alone and don't go to her house anymore muchless let her in your house.You should of known this from the start of how this was going to occour towards you especially from a person like this.
2006-12-20 07:50:16 · answer #5 · answered by tino 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
condoms as long as they are kept in an enviorment that is good for them. (not too dry and not constalny being fu*ked with) are safer than the pill alone. your best bet is to use both. tell her that and if she still wont use a condom and only wants pills then share your way of thinking and see if you can come to an agreement.
2006-12-20 07:49:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good choice my man!! You respect her will and you didn't go the unsafe way.We all like the experts.If you care for her,be patient and go slowly but but but if you ever decide to do it,wear a jimmy hat.And who knows,like the old saying:"Everything happens for a reason"
2006-12-20 07:51:09 · answer #7 · answered by Truedawg4life 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thankfully you acted like a man and not a beast by accepting what she had to say to you. Her concerns are legit as condoms are not 100% protection.
2006-12-20 07:51:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
High 5 buddy
2006-12-20 07:47:00 · answer #9 · answered by ?Whiskey Girl? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a good guy and if you understood her way of thinking (the pill) then she should be able to accept your way of thinking also (no STD's) try to explain it to her and if she doesn't like the idea then it is her loss.
2006-12-20 07:50:04 · answer #10 · answered by Beauty&Brains 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not for her. You aren't thinking about her or her needs, just yours. That is a terrible lover for a girl to have as here first. Let her go and find a real HO for yourself, that is more your style. She deserves better.
2006-12-20 07:48:22 · answer #11 · answered by Patrick G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋