ok, so my g/f has left me 4 times over the course of the last few yrs. once when i lived to AZ and three times now that i live in WV. i quit a job just to spend more time to be with her and the kids (one is ours) when i found out she was cheating on me. they offered me a job in WV, and so of course i took it. needless to say, she has been up here 3 times, left, promised to try and make things work....welll i just printed out the cell phone bill and she has called HIM (the cheater) 17 times in 6 days. so what i am to do. not say anything, or confront her. she doesnt kiss me, hug me, touch me, DO ME, or anything in that nature. she nags, bitches, wants ALL and walks around claiming that i am so fantastic in front of people and behind closed doors it is like OJ SIMPSON is around. i love my kids, but i dont want her if she cant tell me the truth. am i wrong?? WHAT THE HELL!!!
2006-12-20 07:43:01 · 26 answers · asked by argh! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Think if a simple life where you don't have to deal with this mayhem. You're on a boat going nowhere. You need to dock, leave the boat and get your life back. There are good women out there and every minute you spend with this waste of time is time you could have had with someone worth it.
BTW, cheating is not a desire or attraction issue, it's an integrity issue. Don't take it personally. Leave.
Good luck.
2006-12-20 07:47:50 · answer #1 · answered by donewiththismess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to decide what she wants she can't keep going back and forth. Block her out for a while, do not contact her, avoid her at all cost for at least a month. She will see that she did have a great guy and she needs to appreciate that and give you respect back. If not then it is her lose, there are other great women out there that will treat you better. You are putting up with to much from her and she needs to know you will not do it any longer going back and forth. I'm sure it is harder to do than said, especially with kids. There is point in time where you have to stop giving to her she is only taking and not giving any respect back.
2006-12-20 15:55:16 · answer #2 · answered by padros 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you certainly seem like you aren't into the relationship as much as you should...meaning it doesn't sound like you really feel it's going to work. With this much doubt, you seriously need to think about what the relationship means to you. How hard are you willing to work at it and is she willing to work at it. It also sounds like the both of you could use some counceling...is she up for this...have you proposed the idea in the past? Maybe you should confront her about this only and if you get into some type of couceling, then bring up the (cheater) then. If you bring it up now, in such haste...she could clearly say they are just friends...etc. I am just thinking on this line because you seem to be checking up on her!
2006-12-20 15:53:59 · answer #3 · answered by Mom to Foster Children 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, you are NOT wrong. You did a lot for her and it seems she does not value you. It is time to rethink all this and move on with your life. You have a child with her, but you don't have HER. It hurts, gosh, I know it hurts like hell but you know, what? I am glad you found this out. COuld be even worse. I know the feeling, believe me. I wish you peace and happiness.
One thing: it may take ages to heal but it will heal. TIme is the best medication ever.
2006-12-20 15:47:38 · answer #4 · answered by babygirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop her quick and move on.
There are 10 women out there for every man so u go find u one of em that will not treat u like this.
U seem to be a very honest fellar.
Pray hard to God...he will answer and help u.
2006-12-20 15:46:50 · answer #5 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No ur not wrong, you just need to sit her down and tell her exactly what you've told us~
Let her know your exact feelings and go from there, a lot of times this will lead to some excellent communication and resolving of problems,
With this other guy she is trying to find what she feels she doesn't get from you
2006-12-20 15:46:45 · answer #6 · answered by koleebear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah you need to get out. sounds like once a cheater, always a cheater. she's def talking to this other guy. confront her about it, give her your bottom line, and she's either in or out. chances are, she'll be out. your kids will be better off in a more stable environment with a single parent than living in a terrible household with two parents!
2006-12-20 16:16:19 · answer #7 · answered by should be working 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By asking this question , you have already spent too much time on her! Throw a hefty bag over her head and take out with the rest of the trash.
2006-12-20 15:50:14 · answer #8 · answered by ball_courtney 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would scream too! Make arrangements to visit the kids and get her out of your life...Need to ask yourself why you are putting up with this kind of treatment. You deserve more than that...We all do. Wish you good luck and a good woman cause that one is giving us a bad name!
2006-12-20 15:55:15 · answer #9 · answered by MARY L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no ur right, and she has no right to ***** around when she is being different bhind doors and not telling the truth. u should end this relationship hon and start a new life without her but with ur kids...
2006-12-20 15:50:38 · answer #10 · answered by ~ Helin ~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋