getting engaged?

Question

do most relationships talk about getting engaged prior to engaging or is it just left up to the guy to engage with out the girl knowing.

i should add we do have a family together and we are very much in love

Answer 1

Not sure about most relationships, but my hubby and I dated long enough that our engagement was just a given. We didn't really talk about getting engaged, just assumed we would and then we did. (That was 11 years ago.)

Answer 2

My fiance and I talked about getting married...and kids...and all things related to living a life together forever. We knew that we were the "one" for each other. We never talked about the actual engagement. That isn't really the big deal part. So, I would say that "no" most couples don't talk about engagement. They talk about marriage and the engagement period is what gets them from being boyfriend/girlfriend to a married couple. My engagement was a romantic surprise...it of course wasn't a surprise that we would eventually get married. Traditionally it is the guy who "pops the question" but there are many women that proposed to their husbands too. So...I guess there aren't any rules about that part either. If you have talked about marriage and you have the same goals and expectations from life and the future, and you love the person, then go for it.

Best of luck

Answer 3

I'd say, nowadays people probably for the most part decide on getting engaged/married prior to the formal "engagement". My husband and I simply decided to get married, and set a date - this is when we started referring to each other as "fiancé" and telling people we were engaged. We went and bought a ring at some point, it was a ring I've wanted for a while (white gold/blue topaz). Before deciding to get married, we'd lived together for a year, and discussed marriage and kids and everything else under the sun. So no, there was no eye-opening surprise or anything when we finally decided to "tie the knot".

Answer 4

Most engagements these days are a lot less formal. People tend to live together for awhile and discuss getting engaged before formally announcing it to their friends and families. If they don't talk about it in advance, most women will start dropping hints, etc. so the men will know that it's time to pop the question. It's okay to ask, where do you think our relationship is headed? or where do you think we'll be in a year's time? If you want marriage and committment, you should let him know that they are life goals you have set for yourself.

Answer 5

Hmm, this would actually be up to the couple themselves. Most girls get propose to....then they get together and pick the special date. Sometimes the guy will surprise the girl with a special type of proposal, usually involving the witness of the public. Patience my dear........see what happens.

Answer 6

The couple usually talks about their future well in advance of any engagement rings being bought and such...it is always good to talk about your relationship with each other.

Answer 7

I would say that you should talk about it with the woman first. but not the actual proposal itself. That should be up to you, if you don't know her well enough to plan a proposal she wants, perhap you wait.