I've done the most impulsive thing that I have ever done in my life. I told my baby's father's girlfriend that I was 8 months pregnant and I thought she should know because he had no intention on telling anyone. I thought her of all people should and deserved to know since she was completely clueless.
I know that it probably wasn't the most tasteful thing to do, however, I felt like if I was in her position I would hope that someone were to tell me that my boyfriend was going to be a father with some else's child.
I was mature in the conversation and didn't bash him nor did I go into specifics of our relationship, however, I told her that she deserved to know, and that I did not expect anything out of telling her and that I am willing and prepared to raise the baby on my own.
Shortly after the father contacted me, and now I'm starting to feel sorry for both the girlfriend and the father. Even though he has put me through hell. Does this make me irrational and crazy?
2006-12-20 07:30:28 · 8 answers · asked by ayla529 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, that's rediculous. Why exactly did you this? I don't really believe that it's becuase you "just felt like she deserved to know". It's his choice and relationship, not yours. Too many girls get wrapped up in this whole "my baby daddy", it sounds more like drama than making a comprehensive decision.
2006-12-20 07:43:02 · answer #1 · answered by throughthebackyards 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing! Not only does she deserve to know, but EVERYBODY in his life should know! It's a baby, not a disease. She will thank you in the long run because now she knows what a liar he is. I think you did the mature and responsible thing and hopefully now he will have to face up to his actions.
2006-12-20 07:41:43 · answer #2 · answered by amour_laetitia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing she should know that her man is a dog. I would want someone to tell me I would not want to be left in the dark. Don't feel sorry for him he deserves to feel bad. I hope that you are through with him
2006-12-20 07:43:48 · answer #3 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she does have a right to know, and I question the motives of a guy who doesn't intend to tell anyone about the baby. She should know what kind of guy she's getting wrapped up in.
2006-12-20 07:35:58 · answer #4 · answered by ...that´s what she said. 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
did you tell her that because you were genuinely looking after her feelings or were you secretly trying to make her jealous? are you two still fooling around? i would have waited, its his place to tell, what you have done is put a strain on their relationship. maybe he was scared to tell her or maybe he's planned on telling her at the right time. i think it was selfish of you to do that if you werent bestfriends or related to her. she does deserve to know but he should tell her. my baby's father has alot of kids and i dont know if his current lady knows but i didnt take it upon myself to tell her about my baby.
2006-12-20 07:38:17 · answer #5 · answered by MiaDiva28 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. It means you're a little too softhearted.
Unless you truly did intend to stir up trouble and now you're feeling guilty.
Which, I wouldn't. She should know that. How he treats you as the mother of his child and how he treats his child should be important to her if she's looking at him for a longterm relationship. (To say nothing of how the loss of disposable income to child support might affect their lifestyle.)
2006-12-20 07:34:22 · answer #6 · answered by Karen L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you did right. It may screw with their relationship but IT IS HIS BABY!
Hes with someone who needs to know hes a father. If she were to never have found out it would have been wrong.
Why are you not with the father anymore, my guess is he ran away.
2006-12-20 07:34:26 · answer #7 · answered by crymsyneyes 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you did the right thing.
2006-12-20 07:43:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋