ok . . . my gf broke up with me back in march and said she wanted to date around and see whats out there and all that good stuff after a 2 year relationship. . she starts dating this kid i went to high school with 2 weeks later . . . i hate the kid so its obviously a bad situation for me . . . so i try to get her back for about 2 months and in the middle of june i went NC . . on our 2 year anniversery at the beginning of july she send me a text that says . . "today was two year" just to remind me of it i guess . . . and ever since that text she has been calling/texting/leaving voicemail/or emailing me once atleast ever 2-3 weeks . . . a few times in was 2-3 times in a week . . . i have not responded to her or anything . . . so its been 5 months and its still going on .. .she is still with this same guy so she obviously knows we cant be friends be cause of the situation.. . . . . .so why does she keep trying to contact me?. .
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when they first started dating she even admitted part of the reason was because he was there and she hates being alone
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this is her latest message
hey (name)!! hows it goin? boy, youve sure been hard to get a hold of lately! i was thinkin about stoppin by sometime, so unless i hear otherwise from you ill see you soooon!! k byeee!!
<3 (name)
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i dont want to know what u people think i should do . .. just want to know what u think she is thinking
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this is the latest message i just got tonight
heyyyyyyy (name)....are you done not talking to me yet?? just wonderin if you wanted to hang out sometime or atleast come visit and see my house!! well please get back to me and let me know!! :)
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she just sent me another email saying that she wants me to come to her birthday party . .. now why would she want me to come if he is going to be there . . . it would only cause trouble and be really awkward on top of that
2006-12-20 07:24:46 · 16 answers · asked by lbsb2904 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It seems like she is trying to see if you are still interested. Especially, since she said she doesn't like to be alone. If she wants to get back together with you, then she is trying to make sure you want her first, before she considers leaving her current boyfriend. She's afraid of being lonely by leaving her boyfriend, without knowing your feelings for her. Doest that make sense? Or maybe she likes a lot of attention. I believe that if a relationship is meant to be then you shouldn't need to take any breaks from that person. For some people "taking breaks" works, but not for me. I think you should let her know you've moved on(if you have). If you haven't, the best way to get over someone is by finding someone knew. Good Luck, I hope this helps.
2006-12-20 07:34:38 · answer #1 · answered by Nautalee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive responded to your questions numerous time with this question.
why are you playing devil's advocate?
Is she happy? want ex back?
if a girl is happy in her new relationship . . would she still be calling her ex that she dumped for this new guy every couple weeks? . . .even though he hasnt answered or sent her something back in 4 months? and she still tries to contact him . . also . . can girls act completely happy on the outside and really be torn up on the inside? is there any way to tell if a girl is feeling like that? . . and if she wanted her ex back why would she still be with me and acting fine? why wouldnt she go back to him? maybe because she dumped him and doesnt know if he will take her back? they did go out for 2 1/2 years so i dunno . .. whats goin on?
and she hasnt told me that shes been calling him . . . and we have been dating since april and have been in an actual relationship for like 2 months . . . how long would she use me as a rebound if thats what i am? wouldnt it be over by now? it been about a month since she called him now since she was calling him. . . so maybe she will stop . . . (blah, blah, blah)
we know you are the REBOUND guy; who cannot accept that this girl who dated you briefly only see you as a filler, a friend to pass the time with til she gets her man back. no one will spend several months text/email/phone if they did want their love back.
dude, get a life. dont be that pathetic person waiting for something to happen. the odds are against you. this relationship was doomed from the start. life is not a dress rehearsal, you wont get a second chance. so go out and live. find someone who will give 100% to you and you only. you are definitely not her dream guy.
2006-12-20 07:46:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds like she definitely likes you still. Maybe she just likes change and can't stay with a guy too long. She probably realised that you are much better then the guy she's dating now, kinda like the grass is always greener... She sounds like she has feelings for you and just wants you to be around. She probably doesn't want to break up with this guy because she likes him too. But try to avoid her while she's dating this guy. She might be just asking for trouble. Try to not focus on the issue for a while and don't be so worried. If she still likes you she will eventually comeback.
2006-12-20 07:34:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 07:58:45 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she is trying to play you really. I mean she has one guy and then you gave her all that attention in the first few months to get her back and now your not giving it to her. in her messages she doesn't seem like she's upset ur not talking to her she makes it seem causal. I think she wants to have attention I think that's why shes dating that guy u dont like to because she wants to get u mad and jealous just dont act like it bothers you then her true colors will come out because then she'll have to make a choice.
2006-12-20 07:32:15 · answer #5 · answered by lovely baby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not cool of her
don't respond, it's not fair that she plays like that...if the situation were reversed she'd have all her friends talking about you and hating you...keep on doing what you're doing, it's the right thing by you and that's who you have to take care of...don't let people walk all over you and grow some confidence, you sound like a great guy, you deserve someone honest, sweet and someone who knows that she wants you and not to "see what's out there"
2006-12-20 07:30:12 · answer #6 · answered by ejuju 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is thinking about having her cake and eating it too. Im all for being friends after you break up or something, but the texting is a bit much. She either realizes that she goofed up something really good, or she is still playing you....
2006-12-20 07:29:26 · answer #7 · answered by mcmam1492 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, as you can see from my profile, im a girl 2.
-i think, that she just got frustrated w/you, or she just got tired of you beingthe only boy in her life. now, she wants you back.
-seems to me, that she only dumped you to try to have a little more fun.
-she wanted to try something new, but it didn't work out.
-let's face it boy, your now stuck with 2 choices:
--either get back w/her 4 another 2 years
~OR~
--ditch her 4reals and go off w/ jojo, or jlo, for all i care (thisis just a figmet of speech)
-i say try her one last time, and if she ditches you for someone else again, change your cell # and move to another house when you grow up.
;-)
-one more thing:
--keep her away from you @ss and look for somone else
2006-12-20 07:36:14 · answer #8 · answered by too_chic_chick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So this is my opinion, she wants you to fight for her!!
She's gotten a taste of what else is out there and has figured out that she lost a good thing and wants you back but is too prideful to come right out and say it.
If you don't want her back,then step up and tell her that! If you do, tell her!
2006-12-20 07:29:40 · answer #9 · answered by koleebear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she obviously left you for a reason that she hasnt told you yet, well i feel that that thing of dating others is bull, just let her go for good, now you go on and live yopur own life just like she did and if she wants to talk to you she probly just wants to show off what she has gotten with out you
2006-12-20 07:29:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋