I'm 21 and all of my relationships were like 2 weeks long or one week.... I'm just an awful person.... I cant stay interested in a guy for more than 5 sec....but why...???What's wrong with me??? I'm not really into the stuff smb telling me what to do ....i just want to do what i want any time i want.... its just when you are in a relationships you have to make some compromeses ad i think i'm not ready to do them or maybe i dont want to do any compromeses!!!! will i ever find smb or i will be alone for the rest of my life.... and what scaries most is that i'm not frightened of being on my own!!!! what can i do to change???
2006-12-20 07:20:05 · 10 answers · asked by -- 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I always felt the same way, I would talk to a guy for like a week or two and then I would just lose intrest. I couldn't find a guy in my age range that was on my level, I guess i'm a mature 21 year old.But once I found "the right guy" I knew right away. It may be that the guys you are meeting just aren't right for you. When you finally meet "the right guy" then you may feel differently. I don't believe you will be alone for the rest of your life, just go with the flow and when the time is right you will find "the right guy"! My mother always said "There is a top for every pot" GOOD LUCK!
2006-12-20 07:34:01 · answer #1 · answered by TnM4E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HEY DONT WORRY!!!
look...finding the right person is not that easy. it takes time for this to happen.
Oh and nothing is wrong with you. Everyone is meant to be loved sometimes it just takes longer to find that one.
Oh try taking things slow next time. USually its better for a relationship. PLus you can always tell if its not going to work before you get into a relationship.
As for changing. Find a guy who wants you for who you are. Someone who can say that you are the most beautiful girl even when you wake up with that drool spot on the left side of your cheek.
you dont need to change. Its a crime to change who you are. Leave it be.
good luck with the romantics. Hope you find your prince charming.
2006-12-20 15:27:29 · answer #2 · answered by Hideo Okino 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are NOT an awful person...you're just not ready to settle down yet! You're 21, which is a perfect age for going clubbing & barhopping & doing all the fun things you can do as a girl who's young and single! There'll be plenty of time for you to "get serious" when you're older...in the meantime, enjoy life, girlfriend!! :)
2006-12-20 15:25:15 · answer #3 · answered by wyldberry880 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, maybe you didn't find the right person(the other half as we say). Don't say that you are an awful person. Heart makes her own decisions and it's not your fault. And if you don't want to do compromeses don't do it. There is nothing wrong about that. I hope i helped you. Good luck.
P.S. Don't change. You are the person that you want to be and you mustn't change for no one. Îαι δεν ειÏαι ÏκοÏ
λικι.
2006-12-20 15:28:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't ready to make compromises then you aren't ready to change for someone you want to be around with. Usually when people date... they want what they can't have....someone good looking? beautiful? intelligent? rich? good morals/values?or bad ones? and for what purpose?.... so they can benefit from what they don't have.
You sound like you are selfish enough to get what you want. My gf was this way.. and I tried so hard meeting her needs and wants... and what did I end up with? Absolutely nothing. Hardly any rewards. I had to change for her. She fabricated my life... everything I could or couldn't do. She would say, "Don't stare at other women" "I want dinner for tonight so you will be cooking" "Drive me over here or over there"... and blah blah blah.
And what do you know... it got on my nerves and I put up with it.
I didn't like change at that point but she did change me in ways that gave my life new experiences.
I hate to tell you this but it was one pain in the butt.
Just be ready to deal with something like that or having a person deal with someone like you.
So do you want to be selfish? or are you willing to give to others for the sake of what they're giving to you?
2006-12-20 15:32:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're only 21 though. my first long term was my wife, and that was at 26, so don't worry about it. take your time, when the time is right and the person is right it'll last longer than 2 weeks.
2006-12-20 15:23:21 · answer #6 · answered by collard greens with hash browns 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be afraid. If you don't want to be in a romantic relationship, you don't have to. At your age, it's common to be more playful than serious.
2006-12-20 15:24:11 · answer #7 · answered by thecellofellow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 21.
Thats the answer.
2006-12-20 15:24:24 · answer #8 · answered by Its me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u better find an antidote for your disease b4 is gets too late and too old
2006-12-20 15:22:25 · answer #9 · answered by combs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you probably want to just play the feild
2006-12-20 15:22:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋