For last three days I've been at my mom's house, she basically have been using me as a baby sitter for my half brother. She keep tell me she'll take me to do shopping with her or take me for xmas dinner shopping, and many other things to try make it up. Last night, she say she have to go to doctor appt. today and after that she'll take me to do shopping after that.
This morning, she told me she can't take me shopping because my grandpa is bringing my uncle who I live in same city with over so he can park on couch and get drunk. She want me to baby sit him too because my grandpa doesn't feel good!
So for last three days I've basically been doing her lot of favors. She always seems to have some empty way of saying thank you and alway need me to do something for her. It's boring to death over here, especially since my half brother spend most of the day at his friends' house and when my uncle get here, he'll basically watch television and drink all day. What should I do?
2006-12-20 07:16:36 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I don't live with her. I live in other state.
2006-12-20 07:19:02 · update #1
My uncle is almost 50. My mom want me to stay home because he get drunk during holiday and often lose control of his temper.
I don't live with my mom, I have my own place. I've not seen my mom for more than 6 months. I'm 22.
I don't mind helping out first one or two days, but now she's keep saying she'll take me to do things with her or she'll spend time with me. I really miss her. She always complain about how tired she is at night and stuff. I've not even complained a one bit at all. The way it looks like, it seems like she's planning on have me stay home whole holiday to look after things. It really hurt me. I'm ready to tell her fvck off! and leave.
2006-12-20 07:31:52 · update #2
Maybe your mom doesn't realize she is wrong that's why she is doing what she is doing, you need to let her know how you feel and tell her in a way you wont hurt her feelings, tell her not too make promises she cant keep and take turns with your step brother to babysit.
2006-12-20 07:27:51 · answer #1 · answered by Preciosa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down and talk with her. Tell her that you would like to spend some time with her. She may just be all wrapped up in the rush of the season that she doesn't realize what she is doing to you. It's nice to do favors for her while you are staying there, but she needs to understand that you have a life also.
2006-12-20 09:46:44 · answer #2 · answered by hotgramma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very nice of you helping your mom out. Your family sounds like my family. Mothers are understanding so just talk her about this. If you feel uncomfortable just slip in little comments like "How long is it going to take you because I get bored without you" Or "When are we going to get a chance to spend sometime together. She'll pick it up. Thats what I do anyways.
2006-12-20 07:21:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you just need to TALK to your mom. I would want my kids to tell me if i wasnt being fair with them. And they do. They remind me if i forget what i have told them. Then i say oh, yeah honey i forgot i am sorry and we go do what i had told them we would. Or i say, well, there has been a change of plans and i am sorry and we cant do that today but we will do it on such and such a day. Then they are disappointed but they understand that sometimes things cant be helped. Main thing is you need to talk to your mom. dont get mad at her, yell at her, or sulk. just sit down and communicate with her. i am sure she loves you and may not realize what she is doing. she may not feel good, may feel overwhelmed and might need a gentle reminder of her actions. good luck.
2006-12-20 07:28:18 · answer #4 · answered by sowbaby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing u can do is borrow your Ma's car and get the heck out of there and do your own shoppin after your Ma pays u for all the babysitting.
Get out and enjoy life or u will be your Ma slave for life.
Ma will be okay, she has the uncle to babysit now.
2006-12-20 07:20:27 · answer #5 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go home or just simply tell her look mom there's babysitter's all over the place i came here to spend time with you for the holiday's not do the babysitting thing so if your life's to hectic right now i'll come back at a better time
2006-12-20 08:00:30 · answer #6 · answered by pumpkinbugaboo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That Sucks! Yeah your mom is wrong she cannot use you 2 do everything she doesnt feel like doing for her. It's not fair 2 u. If I were you I would totally talk 2 her about it nut watch what you say bc remember she has the power 2 punish you.
2006-12-20 07:23:23 · answer #7 · answered by Baby_cakes_93 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you still there. I would call a friend or something. Go do something. And if you are unable, I would certainly remember this for the next opportunity and go elsewhere. You do not say how old you are or why you are in this situation. However, it sounds as though you are visiting. Good luck and God bless****
2006-12-20 07:20:53 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are your parents' dependent (do you live there, rent free? Do you eat her food? Do you use the hot water and electricity?) then you should help out. Especially if you're home from school on vacation and she's extra busy because of the holidays.
2006-12-20 07:20:18 · answer #9 · answered by rinkrat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you need to talk to your mother and let her know how you feel. This is a busy time of the season so she may very well not realize that you are feeling used. Then, you need to pack up and go home.
2006-12-20 07:18:23 · answer #10 · answered by mvngs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋