Would you take your ex back?

Question

If you and your ex were together for two years and broke up all of a sudden for some odd reason. Then after not talking or seeing each other for months you end up seeing them again and they say they want you back. Would you take them back? May I add after they have acted a total jacka**. Stories and experiences with this is very welcomed.

Thanks for those you answered.... We broke up because he wasn't mature and he kept getting into trouble (breaking into people's homes and stolen property). So I just left. Since then I've gotten back in school, got a nice job, and helping my mother and grandmother out. I"m doing excellent. I'm not too sure what he's been doing, but I don't think he has made the changes I have made. I don't think he's matured at all. I really don't think I need him anymore. I can deal with the lonliness of being without him.

Answer 1

I was with a drug addict and alcoholic, which neither one applies to me, but I loved him. He finally did something bad enough to make me leave him, and it hurt like h*ll, but it was worth it, once the pain subsided. If he's stealing and into trouble all the time; I wouldn't advise giving him another chance. Second Chances are only for small mishaps, not for the big stuff. I also moved on and done better with my life once we split, and he wanted another chance, and it hurt to tell him no, but trust me............ It is better for you in the end. You said you could deal with it, being without him. Well go for it girl. Tell him no..... You will be fine..

Answer 2

I would decline in taking them back.
Things may be good for a couple days, but ultimately you'll soon remember why the two of you broke up.

It's better to learn what mistakes both of you made while in the relationship and think of things you could have done differently in those situations and use those answers in a fresh new relationship.

People don't change, they can only be flexible, which is why you should expect the same bad things to happen again if you were to go back.
Learn and move on!

Answer 3

I think this would depend on how odd of a reason we broke up in the first place. I'm all for second chances, but if he's some sort of freak, addict or just unreasonable, why put yourself through the misery again.

I think the fact that you are asking this question instead of jumping at the chance to return to your lost love says you aren't all that anxious to renew the relationship. Just because someone loves you, or professes to love you isn't a good enough reason to stay in a relationship that isn't working out. You have to have the same feelings for them and commitment to make it work. If you don't, then you are just doing your partner a disservice by continuing a relationship you aren't committed to working on.

Answer 4

well my answer to that is maybe, maybe not because even though he acted like a jack-a** there is some part of u that still cares for him, that still loves him. to be honest it will be very hard to turn him turn down and to also say yes. this happened to me already. but think about it do u want to go through the same pain u went through before even though the person has told u things like they've changed or not the same person they once were? one person cannot really change unless they really are an entirely different person or you've seen it yourself. i won't tell u follow your heart because it may be pulling both ways. take it one step at a time and then see what happens. also study who else is being hurt in the relationship besides yourselves (if both of you are in relationships.) Trust God too, only he knows what to do, nobody else does. Pain is not something that can be ignored so take it easy before u end up in the same situation like before.

Answer 5

If you guys broke up and didn't talk for months, there must have been a pretty good reason. When you didn't talk to him, did you think about him constantly? How did you do on your own? Do you really miss him or do you miss the comfort of him? I had a boyfriend for a long time and we broke up and didn't talk for 2 months. When I did talk to him, I realized that I did miss him, but only as a friend.

Answer 6

I have gotten back together with an ex before but the thing that really strikes me as odd with this situation is that you seem like you don't even know why they acted as they did or why you broke up......You need to know these things before you make any kind of a reconcile decision!

Answer 7

I know that I personally would try to say "no", but I'd fall apart like a house of cards for her.

It really depends. If you still love your ex and you think that he/she sincerely loves you, then at the least you could give it an effort to see if things changed. I was a jerk to my ex when we were together but losing her changed me more than anything. Of course, some times we just have to accept it's not meant to be. Only you can decide.

Answer 8

I had an ex almost 8 years ago... and all of a sudden she wants me to talk to her via email. She sent a message. I didn't respond... why? coz I have no interest in her anymore.... I realized there are far more better women than what she is... I'm talking about more outgoing... more beautiful... than her. When I look back... I thought i was an idiot for dating her but that was long ago. Now I settle for something better.... not her. BLAH!

Answer 9

Well that all depends on you. I have had the same thing happen and it was hard not to take her back because that was the easy thing to do or sure thing. I would not have to go home alone and she was willing. But things just continued right were they left off. So if you are willing to keep going in circles for this person then takem' back if not run like hell.

Answer 10

no, I heard an old saying once, "Why throw you trash away just to go back and get it." The reason you broke up is still there. Just because a couple of months have passed doesn't mean the problems are gone.