well, my dumb *** is once again pregnant, and i think that it belongs to my ex who is also the father of my one year old daughter. but ni also slept with my current guy, and i used a condom but who knows right? well, i want to tell someone but i'm scared that they will ask that question, who is the father? so i don't. i am so freaked out right now. i don't want another kid, and i can't have an abortion, cuz my state banned abortions, so i don't know what to do. and i think i should throw myself down some stairs, but i am chickenshit.
2006-12-20 07:00:36 · 22 answers · asked by shady_charisma15 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
go thru with the pregnancy and when the child is born put he/she up for adoption. there are alot of married couples who aren't able to have children. no your not chickenshit,you just want whats best for your baby
2006-12-20 07:04:35 · answer #1 · answered by ken s 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Yeah... so I felt like I was in the middle of a Jerry Springer episode by reading this. Nonetheless.. I am extremely sad that you are in this predicament.
Here are your options
1) Be honest with all people involved (this is the one I suggest) let them know.. and when the baby is born take a paternity test which will determine the father. Let your current boyfriend know how much you love him and how much you regret your actions..
2) Take a road trip to another state.. or even fly .. airtran has 55 dollar specials... schedule an abortion and come back before anyone knows.
3) Lie to current boyfriend.. and say that it is his.. and take the story to your grave.. (UMM .. LET IT BE KNOW THIS IS NOT A GOOD IDEA!!)
4) Move to a convent.. have the baby. and give it up for adoption.
5) Stay where you are, have the baby.. and give it up for adoption..
2006-12-20 07:09:02 · answer #2 · answered by Mizhani 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
What state do you live in that banned abortions????
Back to the question at hand - did you have unprotected sex with the ex? It is most likely his, if you were have protected sex otherwise. You need to come clean, but realize that the current guy probably won't stick around very long if you are pregnant with another man's child. Get a paternity test when the baby is born.
2006-12-20 07:04:10 · answer #3 · answered by duritzgirl4 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
abortion is definately not the answer.
i personally couldtn live with myself withe the dead of my baby hanging over my head.
you should tell someone you trust.
maybe a best friend or doctor.
do you tihnk your current guy would leave you if you told him?
throwing yourself down the stairs wouldnt be good either.
suicide is a very selfish thing to do.
it doesnt just hurt yourself, but also those who care about you.
do you love your one year old daughter?
you wouldnt want her to grow up without a mother.
and if you killed yourself you would also be killing the baby inside of you.
are you showing yet.
when you start youre going to have to tell people.
you could seek help.
like at some church or orphanage.
i would think on the brightside.
i know that sounds typical and maybe doesnt seem to help, but i would think of all the things im blessed with.
my father would always tell me "every storm cloud has its silver lining"
no matter how stressed out you are, you always have sometihng to be thankful for.
no matter what happends you wont be going through it alone.
i think everytihng that happens to us during life has a reason and purpose, we just have to find out what that purpose is.
dont worry everytihng will be ok.
ill be praying for you.
good luck :]
2006-12-20 07:13:15 · answer #4 · answered by Sterlinggg. 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Why don't you tell a girlfriend you trust and ask if she'll make a trip with you to a planned parenthood out of state??
Don't throw yourself down the stairs. Miscarrying is much more difficult AND painful than an abortion. And most insurance companies pay for abortions too.
Also, to figure out who the father is....when was the last day of your last period. Two weeks after, who did you have sex with? You can't get preggers without ovulating & you ovulate 2 weeks between periods. Maybe that'll help you figure it out.
2006-12-20 07:08:41 · answer #5 · answered by Miz D 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First of all i really want to know how old you are hon? i am not going to judge you, because you are your own judge! But there is no easy answer for this question, and fact of the matter is you are going to have to fess up to both of the guys. and i would tell them both yes i do not know which one of you are the father, but the fact remains that it is one of you, so what do you want to do about it? If you dont want the baby, you can always put the baby up for adoption, There ar other couples out there who would love to have a baby like me for instance, eventhough i have four kids already, but i got my tubes tied and regret it now.. But you and only you can make this decision.. After all of this you should get on birth control, planned parent hood will help you out with that if you dont have the income or insurance. But you have to tell them, because you cant go through this alone..I know i may not be giving you advice on an easy way out, but like i said there is no easy way out of this perdicament..And i really do wish i could help you more. and do they sell the morning after pill in your state? but then again that only works upto 72 hrs. after. if you need to talk you can e-mail me ok.
2006-12-20 07:33:32 · answer #6 · answered by laci 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The one who didn't wear a condom is prolly the father. Just go with that!Things have a way of working out if you have the patience . My idea is to have the baby and get your tubes tied ! Problem solved !
2006-12-20 07:03:22 · answer #7 · answered by IT'S JUST ME ! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to deal with it. Most likely its the new guys if you used a condom with the ex. There is so much birth control out there, what is the problem????
2006-12-20 07:03:55 · answer #8 · answered by crazzzy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-01 00:26:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jesus, what the hel.l is going on these days, 'open leg syndrome'.
Why are you doing this? Wheres the ring?
Where are your parents???? Dad? Mom?
You seriously need some counseling on self control and get some direction in your life and some hobbies, sports...etc.
Try planned parenthood, if you dont want the baby you dont have to have it. Let it be a lesson, get these "boyfriends" out of your life and make a life for yourself.
2006-12-20 07:02:34 · answer #10 · answered by Its me 4 · 4⤊ 2⤋