my problems with my 19 month old baby boy?

Question

my baby boy is almost 19 month he was my first baby and i had no experience of how to take care of a baby .. any way i managed every thing by my self with the help of my husband.. i use to force him to eat and some time i shout at him coz i thought that if he didn't eat he might fall sick.. i kept doing this thing until he was 16 month but since that month he started refusing to eat at all and i have no control at him to force him to eat he just drink milk added with PEDIASURE his now 13.7 KG and that is ok but all with the help of the pediasure but he don't eat totaly even in the nursery the teachers complane that he don't eat .. the second problem is that he vomitte when he cries if he get upset for example if he is forced to go to bed and this happiens alot or if he wants something and we do't listen to him.. these problems all happened the past few months .. note : i have a second baby boy who is now 6 months old and he is little jelouse of him

Answer 1

They go through those kind of phases. My 3 girls all had to have pediasure they were such picky eaters. My oldest one still is and she's petite, but her weight is ok. My other 2 eat like there's no tomorrow! Just be patient with him and try to let him see you eating and enjoying the things you want him to eat. My oldest daughter for 1 year would only eat McDonald's cheeseburger happy meals. So when we tried to get her to eat and she wouldn't my hubby would run out and get her one of those so we wouldn't feel like she was starving to death. Now she hates cheeseburgers and only eats chicken now. LOL they go through there little phases. Hang in there and be patient! God bless!

Answer 2

My two year old is a picky eater and was also on pediasure. First of all keep in mind that pediasures are very filling. Also juices are very filling too. I didn't give mine any juice at all. While on pediasure he ate very little. I used to worry all the time about him eating, but now I know when he gets hungry he will eat. Just make sure he is getting the proper nutrients. Whether that is from the pediasure or vitamins. They make liquid vitamins for kids that young. Some children have a very sensitive gag reflex. When they get terribly upset they can cry so hard it makes them throw up, or they may start coughing so much they throw up. That might just be the way your son is going to be. If he is not throwing up all the time and only when he cries that is probably why. If you are very concerned contact your pediatrician. Whatever you do don't force him to eat. Toddlers love to be stubborn and if he sees that he can upset you by not eating, he might just keep on. Especially if he does feel a little left out since the new baby. Good luck.

Answer 3

First problem: by forcing him to eat, you have made this something that is a chore or something he is dreading. Try making dinner and everyone sitting down to eat and if he doesn't want to eat don't make him. you can give him a sippy cup of Pediasure and some fun chewy vitamins later. make the vitamins like a treat, don't force those either. Second problem: set up a routine for bedtime. A bath with plenty of play time, brush teeth ( brush your teeth with him) and a story. that should do the trick. But you must be consistant! Remember to praise him everytime he does something you want him to do. and try not to yell at him when he doesn't. He may be trying to get a reaction out of you. Make sure his bedtime routine is seperate from the new baby and he will enjoy it as alone time with mommy or daddy.

Answer 4

Do not blame yourself!!! My son was 2 1/2 months early and he weighs just under that and my baby is a porker!!! He is perfect for his age and he is three months old. All babies are different and some may be growing perfect but are just lighter babies. I call them feather babies. I have rock babies. Both my son and daughter are/were very dense babies. Heavy down to the bone. But my god kids have all been very very light, though their size is perfect. Does that make sense? I'm sure he is growing just perfect and there is nothing for you to worry about! And a lot of times, formula fed babies get chubbier due to the added calories in formula. So I would be happy that he is on his own weight gain path. Everything happens for one reason or another, so do NOT blame yourself for not being able to nurse. No one looks down upon you for it and no one ever should. You do the best you can for your babies and they love you for that! Good luck, and don't worry so much about the weight. Every mom does little comparisons. You are not alone! Just don't let it take over your life! XOXO

Answer 5

That is serious, I would take him to the Dr. to see what is wrong because it's not normal for kids to not eat and throw up a lot. You should be giving him food and not the milk. Yes, he needs milk but if you stop offering the milk he's gonna get hungry. My daughter always wanted milk and then wouldn't eat, so we changed the rules. You don't get milk until after you eat. Another thing, I would just take him to the Dr. to be on the safe side because your day care could report you if they think your not taking care of the problem

Answer 6

STOP forcing your child to eat and sleep.

if u had of left him alone when he didnt want to eat then he mite have been back on track now. but you have made him hate food even more. give him time, if your worried go to the doctors, but alot of children go through a stage of not wanting to eat.

why are u forcing your child to go to bed? if hes not tired when its bedtime but down his sleep during the day. make sure there is a good sleep time routine that he can get used to and know when he will be put to bed. for example bath and story etc.

spend time with him with out the new baby at some point during the day and try to make this routine as well.

praise child everytime he eats.

Answer 7

Your child is not going to starve to death. Shouting at him is only turning this into a power struggle. Toddlers have very small tummies, it does not take much to fill them up. If you are giving him milk before he eats, that alone could make him feel full. The vomiting could easily be linked to the struggle over making him eat. It is very normal for the oldest sibling to be jealous of the new addition. However, make sure you are not giving him good reason to be. He may be acting out because he feels ignored. Be sure to spend some one on one time with him.

Answer 8

A child should never be forced to eat. You have caused him this problem by making such a big deal out of eating. Kids that age will eat when they are hungry. Provide him with healthy food for when he is ready to eat.

Answer 9

It's normal for them to go through a picky stage. My daughter is the same, she is 15 months. But you shouldn't worry too much. It seems like your child is getting anxiety attacks, don't be too harsh on him. Try giving him foods you know he'll eat.

Answer 10

I would really recommend taking him to see a doctor.

There may be something seriously wrong with him. You can't just force him to eat.