What AM I GOING TO DO. I AM SO HURT AND I STILL LOVE HER?

Question

me n my ex have been 2gether 4yrs. We were both 16 when we started. out of nowhere 2 mouths ago she broke up w/ me. Since that we both been on a roller coster ride from hell. She comes back she loves me next week we're just friends. Then after a wk of not talking she calls agian asking 4 help. I go n we for that day get back 2gether. last monday she does it agian n wants to be just friends. I see her last monday n we talk n we seem like friends. I called her today and we talked. I asked her want she wanted and she just wants to be friends, she says she nolonger loves like she use too n she sometimes has mixed feeling but she thinks she is over it. I told her i still luv n i want to marry her. The think is she will not give me a direct answer. some time we act like friends other time we talk like a couple confuseing. what to do. I cant move on. i emailed her n she said she doesnt want to think about it now. does she need time? should i just give her space, so both of us can think?

x g/f troubles need help figuring out what to do will space help us out. Is she still confused?is space key?

She called me today to see what i am up2 is this a good sign of improving communcation. Should see if she want to go out tommorow


I still love her. My heart doesnt hurt as much but i still have this feeling that she was the one and she is just scared. I have faith we will work it out i just need the guideness

Also i called her today and she now says she doenst miss me in that way, and she doesnt want to think about it anymore she is happy. WTF!!!! i sent her an email asking her to marry me. I am maddly inlove with her

Answer 1

MOVE ON! Love is not supposed to be like that. You deserve someone that makes you feel like they cannot live without you, not someone that you have to beg to be with you. No one deserves to be toyed with like this. You will find the right one in due time! Time heals all wounds.

Answer 2

me n my ex have been 2gether 4yrs. We were both 16 when we started. out of nowhere 2 mouths ago she broke up w/ me. Since that we both been on a roller coster ride from hell. She comes back she loves me next week we're just friends. Then after a wk of not talking she calls agian asking 4 help. I go n we for that day get back 2gether. last monday she does it agian n wants to be just friends. I see her last monday n we talk n we seem like friends. I called her today and we talked. I asked her want she wanted and she just wants to be friends, she says she nolonger loves like she use too n she sometimes has mixed feeling but she thinks she is over it. I told her i still luv n i want to marry her. The think is she will not give me a direct answer. some time we act like friends other time we talk like a couple confuseing. what to do. I cant move on. i emailed her n she said she doesnt want to think about it now. does she need time? should i just give her space, so both of us can think?




does these make any sense to you cant even understand what u wrote
but from where i stopped it seems your gf ios naive

Answer 3

Don't worry, you're not the only person going through something like this. I am too unfortunatley. But anyway--yes both of you need the time away from eachother to really see if you want to be together. Give it a couple weeks and if she comes back to you, then obviously you'll know that she WANTS to be with you--she may not notice how great you are to her until she doesn't have you. Then maybe she'll realize that you're the one for her /:
Hope that helps. Goodluck

Answer 4

give her the time she needs to think about the whole thing, i should also tell you the same. you need your space too. this is not good for you. love is not suppose to hurt , the moment it stars doing that then something is wrong. go out do things you have never done before and occupy your self a lot so you don't spent a lot of time thinking about something that hurts you, before you know it it wont hurt any more and then you will be able to deal with what ever comes your way. when you get there , it is either she wants you or not and you will be able to move on .

good luck

Answer 5

Sometimes women don't know what they want.. in this case, little girl.. maybe? However, it's not fair to drag you along in the process. You CAN and you WILL go on eventually. You may think not, but you will. Women can be maneaters if you let us. Don't be one to succumb to our evil ways. If I were her, I would probably be most bothered by not recieving the attention thats obviously being seeked from you. If you just cut her off and show her you dont need her ****, it will prove to be most effective. Be a man. Have a backbone. Tell her to take a hike.

Answer 6

this si it. yous tarted dating when you were 12! 4 years is long enough. yes you may still love her but it just seesm she is more interested most likely maybe finding out who she really is and not having to depend on eachther all the time... you soudl do the same. get over her for the meant time. it will take a while but you will only keep hurting if you keep talkign to her. you will need to get rif od communication. talk to eachtoher once in a blue moon. go find a sport and new hobbies to get into, ect and you will get over her in time. you will get over her. she saiys she wants to just be friends and you will nedd to respect that. putting pressure on her to marry her will only drive her away farther. just be friends.....dont talk so much with eachother. you still have a long time to find the one for you. and she doestn seem liek the one. that diesnt mean you wont get back together in the long run though.......

good lcuk

Answer 7

You will continue to hurt for as long as you keep letting her back into your life. If she wants to end it I think she should give you the space you need to mend your broken heart. Having someone break up with you really hurts and only time will make it better. If she does not want to be with you then to lessen the pain and get over her you need to cut her out of your life.

Answer 8

She married somebody else for despite reason that replaced into. She made her selection and via no longer contacting you because she has made it clean she plans to adhere it out. you're dropping your existence putting on waiting for her. you will nonetheless love her perpetually as as quickly as you have enjoyed so deeply it won't pass away you yet she has made her selection and you ought to admire that. Time is a healer. you will recover from the worst of it and in time you will adore back and with a bit of luck that person would be loose to love you back.

Answer 9

hey~ cummunication is the key & it will unlock every door!! now the marriage~ hmmm, lets 1st get the "dating" on the right path, & get it to the point that all questions can & will be addressed to only eachother!!! relax honey the 2 of you just need to sit down & talk & come to an understanding & a fair understanding..good luck & best wishes~please keep us updated on the latest b/c i would love to know how this turns out, i got a feeling everything is gonna be great.....

Answer 10

I think you just need to move on. by talking to her and stuff like that you're just hurting yourself. My boyfriend broke up with me about 4 months ago. we were supppose to get married. i kept on stay ing in touch. one week he loved me the next he didnt.
the same thing that is happening to you. eventually i just couldnt do it any more after about 2 months. now i have a new boyfriend. i'm glad that i moved on. im finally happy again. i suggest you just break off yourr connections with her for at least right now.
i hope this helps.